I agree with you 100%

Too many claim to be GFE but are far from it. I would rely more on an indy than on a service provider.

If a real GFE provider is someone your looking for I would suggest going indy, some of the better are Mel the voluptious beauty, Lilly for pleasure, Danielle, AngelAnn, and I'm sure I'm forgetting a few.

We as hobbyist should post whenever we a wronged. $$$ is hard earned and we should get what is advertised out of our session.

Good Luck!

Best advice is to stick with the reputable indy providers in the area.

First I want to commend you on the good hygiene.  I was enjoying sushi with a good male friend this evening (who is not a hobbyist, just a lifelong friend) who is privy to my sideline.  Anyway, I was telling my friend about the crazy calls I have been getting the past couple of weeks, and about 2 new men I met who could take a lesson from you regarding their hygiene.  My friend suggested I post a public service message on TER reminding guys to think before they call or visit.

The two new gents I met were both highly educated professionals, in fact one is a medical professional who should have known better (he does not read the boards, so I will not hurt his feelings with this post).  I understand people often come to visit providers from the office or even after running around to meetings all day.  Remember guys, you can always ask to take a shower!  A lady should never have to suffer from bad breathe, BO or odors down below the belly button!  ~  What this creates is a serious YMMV situation.  The guy I met yesterday thinks he had me at my best, but I can assure you a lot more would have taken place had he been fresh and clean.  I could barely kiss him let alone enjoy other fun things.  After 2 hours I could not wait for him to leave (and that is not my style).  Now he is writing for another appointment and I don't even think I will answer him.  It is not my job to be his mother and address his stinkiness!  Too bad, he was fascinating to talk to and not a bad lover-that is as long as I kept my breathing shallow!

Besides the hygiene issue I would like to address telephone etiquette.  Seldom do I receive rude or crude e-mails, but lately some weird people have been calling.  First off they try to call from calling cards or blocked numbers, calls which I (and many other ladies) will not answer.  When you do get some new guys on the phone they will ask questions like "Where are you now?", "How much?", or think they decide to play Monty Hall from Let's Make a Deal.  Many of us have websites so that we can provide most of the information required to make an appointment.  So please read the web sites before calling and placing us in an uncomfortable situation!  Also, don't ever lie and say you saw someone if you didn't-whether that is directly to the provider or when using another provider as a reference. (One guy lied to me today, saying we had met before, and when I asked him where he confessed we never met.  I just said goodbye and hung up.  Bad way to start a new friendship and no dude, you cannot make it up to me! He actually called back to ask!)

Please don't misconstrue this as a rant.  I mention this because regardless of how good a provider is, don't expect to passionately sample dishes from around the world if you cannot show some common sense and respect towards the lady.  While most experienced men understand how to play the game, some of the newbies might need to be reminded here and there of the rules of common courtesy while hobbying.

One more thing: GFE encompasses a wide range of styles and experiences.  BBBJ and DFK can be had in a quickie agency appointment or during an extended sensual encounter where things progress more slowly (i.e. sitting on the sofa sipping champagne with candlelight and music, slowly pecking each other until a light tease turns into a hot erotic frolic vs. having a tongue shoved down your throat as you enter the door and your pants at your knees before you had a chance for a proper hello!).  Having BBBJ and DFK as part of an encounter does not necessarily mean it was a decent GFE, because you can have those things and still be rushed or persuaded to move on in a progressive manner, and not for your own benefit.

I too do not mean to rehash or challenge the fact the term GFE is overused, but I did want to address the common courtesy issue as well as clarifying that there is a wide spectrum of experiences available that fall under the umbrella of GFE. Of course let's not forget that when you combine those factors with each individual's preference, the term GFE can take on a whole new light.  Always keep in mind with that reviews and posts should be taken with a grain of salt.  Not that they do not contain some substance but some guys will post anything if they think it will earn them attention and points with a provider, so assess the entire picture (as in all reviews and opinions) before making your decision and you will make much more educated choices and find your that your encounters are much more satisfying in the end.

Thanks again for being a *fresh* guy!  

Enjoy~   Kate

Base on my experience, most of the younger providers (between 18 to 20 yrs old) and new providers are NOT GFE (i.e. don't provide DFK or BBBJ).  So, when I see such a provider advertising as GFE, I would interpret the term "GFE" more conservatively.  Of course, there are exceptions and YMMV is always a factor.  But, I think a new or younger provider is less likely to provide a GFE session.  Does anyone share the same opinion, or am I just living in my little world?

-1man10fingers