Hello Boston, I want to give my thoughts today on a topic that is pressing on me. It's about giving references. In general, it's not mandatory for a provider or agency to give references or to vouch for a client, but honestly, I've never encountered a situation where I was refused a reference from an agency or provider. But today it happened for the first time, and I'm a bit discouraged. A gentleman wants to see me, but only has ONE reference and it's an agency in Boston. He's a p411 member but has no okays there. So I'm relying on the reference system in order to make this appointment happen. I was very kind in my email to the agency, as I always am in requesting reference. I offer information about myself so they know I'm safe and legit. I mention my website, that I'm reviewed on TER, a p411 verified provider, and I ask so nicely if they would mind to let me know if this gentleman is a safe person to see. The reply they emailed me was that they do not give out references in protection to their clients and models. I asked if they would if he contacted them first to say it's ok to give me a reference. The reply was "Regardless if he calls on your behalf we still will not give out any references." So to me, this looks like a tried and true demonstration of hoarding clients. If a man cant get a reference then he cant move on to see any other girls besides the agency girls. I really am sad about this. I have always gotten back to girls quickly when they need a reference. We all need to be safe and not end up in a ditch somewhere. That goes for both the gentlemen and the ladies. All of us are precious unique beings. We have a past a present and a future. Some of us are doing really great things for others, and have good hearts and intentions. I really don't want to complain. But this is just something that I can't wrap my head around. Do some providers really not care about the safety of other women or their clients? Do they expect to keep their clients within their clutches by not giving references for them? Since 2006 (when I began) I've never had this happen where I was blatantly refused to be given a reference. While I offer proof on who I am with my reviews, website, a friendly gentle email, p411 verification... everything that makes it easy to get back to me and help the gentleman out.
Let me just say, that none of you will EVER have an issue when asking me for a reference. I would never refuse to help another women or man stay safe. Nor hoard a client and try to make it difficult for him to see other girls. I never even considered to hoard my clients or refuse a reference request. Just saying, please girls, have integrity and empathy for others. We really do need to be kind to one another. While there is no written law that any agency or provider must give references, please think for a minute, how will you feel if something bad happens to her or your client just because you had selfish issues that kept you from reaching out a helping loving emphatic hand.I think I know the agency you're referring to. I've asked them for referrals and they don't provide them EVER. They have a listing on Date-Check but do not even acknowledge a "We Met" request and all that does in confirm that I showed up and left an hour later without any problems. ONCE, one of the phone girls told me she could provide a reference but she must have been new. When the lady I wanted to see called to confirm me with them the next day, a regular phone girl said they would not provide a reference. Rats
Just so you know, this is not normal etiquette. Most providers are more then glad to be helpful to you and other ladies. We want everyone to be safe. Some providers do ask that they are asked by the client first, so that they know it's ok to give out the reference. But I've never had anyone tell me that regardless of the client's wishes, they would not help him nor I out with a reference.
We need to look out for each other here. I have only had one provider refuse to give me a reference and she was pretty rude in her response to me. It was obvious to me that she was not happy about not being called for a repeat date but judging by her attitude in her email it was no surprise to me.
I do know there is one or two agencies here that do provide referrals and those ladies are always very sweet. One of them even emailed me when I first started to let me know they were referral friendly :
to reassure me that they are reference friendly. Seems it's just one certain agency that likes to hoard her clients and not build friendly bridges with other providers. Luckily, today this gentleman became a member of Roomservice2000 with my recommendation. By being a member of RS2K, he will never have a screening problem again. So happy, I get to meet him now after all this. But it would've been so much easier on him and I, if only this agency hadn't been so greedy. Thankyou to Jill at Roomservice girls and Sonny at VGF Models for writing me to say they are always reference friendly, and care very much for the safety and well being of other women. I really appreciate them reaching out to me with kind loving words. I hope everyone has a great weekend.
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BI has behaved in this manner with everyone since last yr. Clients are shocked when I tell them BI will NOT give them a refs its a total asshole move no doubt.
every other agency I have ever had to deal with in Boston or otherwise is refs friendly. this is just rude!
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