hi folks.  I'm a relative newbie to the hobby and am struggling with a dilemma that maybe other hobbyists, or even providers, can help me with:  how to ask about the level of service before the appointment.

I've been told by most providers that they can't and won't answer explicit questions about things like DATY, BBBJCIM or DFK, yet if that's what is important to me, how do I find out without wasting everyone's time with an appointment that isn't what I want for my donation ?  Yes, I know many well known providers have it listed in their reviews, but there are also various conflicting reviews regarding DATY, BBBJTC and CIM.  
Plus, I find that there are still providers who don't read reviews and have no idea what the abbreviations mean.

Believe me, I understand why they won't discuss such things for fear of a set-up or leaving themselves open to LE, but there must be a happy medium, keeping in mind that YMMV and the whole GFE definition discussion.

what's a newbie to do folks ? any idea how I go about finding out that info from providers without reviews (such as the new Catrun, and various others) ?

thanks for your input