Just as TER provides criteria for men to select the type of ladies they would like to meet, this is also a forum that allows ladies the freedom and options to attract and meet the types of men they prefer to have as clients.
I have an age restriction, and have for years because I simply don't like seeing younger men. I enjoy gentlemen my own age, and slightly older is actually ideal. I have found older men sexier since I was a very young lady. I love salt and pepper hair, especially gray at the temples and on the chest.
I enjoy a man who has experienced the full spectrum of life. Older men are more confident, they have varied career experiences, they are often well traveled and cultured and wonderful teachers and lovers. Most have excelled in life and have done everything "the right way." (Church on Sunday, Little League Coach, company man..) These men (40+) often decide that it's now time for them to venture out and have some fun, but do not want to risk all that they have worked for by having a typical affair. Instead they seek companionship of a lady like myself, or my female peers (mature providers) who can tend to their every need; physical and otherwise. Understand that with a mature man the needs are usually very different than that of a younger man. With younger men it's about how many times they can get off. With older gentlemen the focus is on the sensual aspect of pleasure and making it last. Not to say that they can't achieve satisfaction multiple times, but to be blunt the quality of the sex is mind blowing compared to being with a jack rabbit youngster. Often the climax results in a tantric experience. Maybe the ladies who see young guys like rough and tumble play, but for mature lovers the mutual sensual interaction can be toe curling. It's about the combination of physical and mental satisfaction, which leads to true pleasure. (If you're under 40 you won't get it!)
In addition to my personal preference, I must again stress that the only real issues I have come across over the years has been with young guys. They have been intrusive to my personal life, stalkers, and campers. I have never had this problem with mature gentlemen. We have a great time-very often extended. We may even say hello via phone or email in between meetings, BUT we respect one another’s personal boundaries. (Example: I just had a PITA 28 year old stalking me by email and phone over the weekend, and his style and words prove my point perfectly) How often do you hear of a mature professional man harming ladies?
If a lady is just seeing guys for an hour or half hour and out the door they go, then perhaps it doesn't matter. This is not the type of service I provide. Before stereotyping providers with preferences you should think a little deeper.
Bottom Line is I’m into treating gentlemen with respect and I actually care about more than just the envelope. There are many lonely and physically unsatisfied people (sexually and otherwise) in this world, and some need more TLC than others. Reality is there are many variables in an individual's personal life. Providers also have various agendas. For me it's experiencing intimacy with intelligent sensual mature gentlemen with benefits. Sure, all the typical "interactions" occur, but there is so much more about providing a true courtesan experience. The conversation, the tender touches, hugs, kisses, mutual satisfaction, teasing, massage, sometimes sipping wine, feeding each other strawberries, soaking in the hot tub-all to soft music and candlelight. This is not an experience I care to share with a younger man, nor could I provide this in a one hour time frame. I give a lot of myself during these sessions in time and energy. The benefits are that I am not only rewarded by spending time with amazing gentlemen, but I learn so much about people and the world from them. And of course the financial assistance is appreciated, but that being said I have always shared my good fortune with others. Be it philanthropy, bettering myself from the inside out, or giving the best I can to others so that they could become better human beings. I never have, and never will lose sight of the fact that I am so lucky to have met wonderful gentlemen, and I have been so blessed over the years. I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around in life, therefore it is important to treat others as you would like to be treated. This belief reamins with me throughout all areas of my life.
On the subject of low volume. I believe this has become bullshit marketing quite frankly. First it was GFE years back, now everyone is low volume. I tune in sporadically, but am not stupid. Day after day Incalls are advertised and traveling ladies come in. I doubt very much if only one man is seen per location per day (as I do), and I will admit that when I travel I do not see only one gent a day. I could not afford the trip unless I saw a higher volume of clients. Reality check-do the math. I am not interested in seeing the type of guy who would place himself in the position of being where several other gentlemen may have ‘been’ in a given day. I don’t take risks and don’t want client friends who take risks. This is for self respect and privacy. While this philosophy works for me, I cannot speak to the comfort zone of others. We all need to wake up and look at ourselves in the mirror.
"I've noticed during my research that a lot of the low volume, age restriction types are probably doing it by necessity instead of choice."
This statement doesn’t resonate with me. The only necessity, as one poster pointed out is that some of us "mature, low volume, age restricted types" have very real and full lives. Personally, I am a full time student and currently work a real job part time. I've always had a full time job during my years as a provider. What could be better? I have full benefits; I maintain a career and remain grounded to society, and get to have a wild and awesome time with some of the smartest, sexiest and financially comfortable gentlemen in New England and points beyond. It's a mutually beneficial relationship that causes no harm. I'm here when they would like to see me, but otherwise I stay out of their lives. I have been able to travel with some, and have been honored to befriend many-even if it's just in the confines of our special time together. These relationships have enriched my life in every possible way and I feel so honored and fortunate to have met so many wonderful people (even a few ladies/providers) along the way.
My long is detailed response is not just about me; it’s understanding that not all of us that participate in this hobby (men or women) are cold hardened people. I believe people should be educated and neither hobbyist nor provider should be stereotyped. However, a spade is a spade and should be called as such. There are MANY nice ladies that are kind and good people who are active in their communities and great Moms. Just because some have chosen a different path to suit their personal needs I don’t place myself above them as we are all equal in the end. All said and done, it is what it is.
Personally, I would rather have one piece of Belgium Chocolate once in the while than a bag of M&M’s. I’d rather sip a small amount of fine wine or champagne on occasion than chug a large bottle of cheap wine. I would prefer to save my pennies and go to a fine dining restaurant once every few weeks instead of eating at the Olive Garden or Applebee’s every week. And most of all, I would prefer to be in the company of a sensual romantic man who is passionate about life and feeds my mind, body and soul (and oh yes, my education fund!) instead of several youngsters that leave me feeling emotionally empty and used up. But that’s just me……
Best wishes to all,
Kate
A mature and confident provider who speaks from the heart.
