Just moved from NYC a few years ago, and am interested in hearing about peoples good (and bad) experiences involving BDSM in Boston, as well as finding any providers interested in it (particularly submissive women).  I am professional, educated, and play safe.  Who's out there?

I'm picky about who I bottom for, but am always open to getting to know people better to assess if that is something we can explore...  

Exceptional references from other ladies that have bottomed are always a requirement if we do not have an already established relationship.  

My preference is to get to know someone one on one over time before going there, but considering I only *visit* Boston, it is unlikely that would really work in this situation...

And FYI-you might get better responses from other ladies if you were not posting under an alias that cannot be sent PM's.  Not everyone wants to adverstise that they offer submissive services to the world, ya know??

xoMegan

I'm dating myself again.  Got to love those true doms they are few and far between

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thought this would be a good opportunity for me to ask a question.  Does a provider who calls herself a dom ever provide a HE?  In a lot of their ads they always make it a point to say no sex.  Does this mean that there is no FS or that the hobbiest receives no release or gratification what so ever?  This is a good chance for some that may be curious to learn something.

Many pro-Dommes do not engage directly in any type of release.  Some do not allow any release at all.  

Some "sensual" Dommes will allow limited contact, usually involving service or worship to them, but there might be some other direct play involved.  

It is rare to find a true Domme that is going to offer intercourse as a part of the session, but you can find sex workers that might be able to play the part of Domme and include activities that some pro's find taboo.

Everyone has their own persepctive on what and how to use power and control.  Most pro-Dommes are not interested in "servicing" their submissives though...

xoM

there was no sex involved in that the gents were NEVER allowed to touch me...however, I would often allow them to whack off after I oiled their hand and sprinkled it with sea salt...GOOD TIMES LOL

It's interesting because I can see the correlation to so many failed or fulfilled relationships if one realizes what their sexual ideal is. For many men when they are young they assume that they want the woman that they will be proud to have on their arm and that men will envy them. What many people, men and women alike, fail to realize is that when you're old and wrinkled there's not much left but the inner beauty you have inside. So finding someone who is your sexual match is so incredibly important to me that it really is unfortunate when I see people who are together who just can't match up sexually.

As for as BDSM goes I think that goes hand in hand with finding your sexual match. A lot of women do not advertise that they are a bottom or a switch or DOM and some may not even realize that they are one or the other. I tend to believe that women who are in the sex industry are much more in tune with what they can offer sexually than others but there are women who are still confused who work in this industry.

I myself am a natural submissive. I enjoy Alpha male Dominant men a lot. However, I can also be aggressive and hold my own in an evenly matched date with someone who is neither DOM nor Sub. Along those same lines, I have a naturally Alpha personality that enables me to be that Dominant, strong woman that some Submissive men seek. I have a handful of submissive men who visit me as well as quite a few dominant ones as well.

Not all of us who enjoy BDSM have so written on our profile and there may be some activities that we request not be written in reviews because it may not be a service that we will offer everyone because it's an extremely YMMV thing.

I suggest that you read reviews and search for ladies who do have the BDSM checked in their profile. Good luck to you.

Very interesting reply. Actually, I got married as my wife and I were very well suited sexually: while a successful executive, she was genuinely submissive, and I am genuinely Dominant.  The problem was as the sex became less important over time (arrival of a child, etc.) and the relationship faltered.  I am Ivy-educated, professional, and compassionate, and at the same time, very experienced as a Dominant.  

This is an interesting thread.  I hope it continues.

Rae:

I posted a response to yours, but somehow it didn't end up here, so I am re-posting.

Your comments were insightful and interesting. In my case, I married someone precisely because we lined up so well sexually; she was a successful high-powered female executive, but was a true submissive, and I am Ivy-educated, professional and profoundly Dominant, and have been exploring that side of me for nearly 25 years.  The sex was electric.  However, when sex became less important to the relationship (arrival of kids, etc.) the relationship fell apart, and we got divorced, so it's a void I am seeking to replace for now.   I am experienced, engaging, and articulate and a compassionate but strict Dominant.  I do think you're right about why it's trickier to make a match out here than a regular vanilla visit, because there's an extra level of trust involved.  But hopefully it is possible to make a "connection."  

Best,

CIC

I'm a switch, BTW.

I'm into sensual domination, all facets of BDSM (bondage/discipline/sadism/masochism), fetishes, role-play, and bottoming (esp. love to be spanked and caned).  I'm vastly experienced and very skilled.  I have tons of equipment.  I am very open-minded (to date, I've never turned down a fetish).  I've dabbled in just about everything you can think of.  I love cross-dressers, smoking fetish (I don't smoke, but I do the fetish very, very well), trampling, feet, high heels, boots, SOS, CP, CBT, NT, bondage, AP, prostate work, watersports, enemas, Latex, leather, pantyhose, stockings, socks, fur, sweaters, hair, nails, and lots of other stuff.  There are photos of me being spanked, tawsed, and caned on my Web site.