all practical. Great to meet you at the M&G..You're a fun guy w/ a great perspective. Tori thought you were great also & thanks for NOT groping my GF.....we were on the balcony..lol.
My $.02... play it straight. Odd thing is... if you've been around a while is that there are some similarities. The Hobby isn't all that much different from Civi life, just know the barriers. So the OP asks about the "grey area". ALL depends on feel. With TMI..don't give her the Express train if she looking for the Local. Ease into that over time based on trust. Use you're best judgement. Many women appreciate a man with a more "worldly" view. A guy that has seen that, done that & doesn't run home to Momma to ask her take on things.
People are people. Find someone the "Gets You" not the first chick that will date you. In my book... Random Questions are good..... Random Admission are much better..... KNOW who is on the other end.. Hone in on or get better at Social Acuity.
In my situation... I have a GF of 5 years. She knows I have seen 30-40 escorts. She doesn't beat me up on it and I encouraged her to "go there". If that's what she's feeling...and she has. I tell her to pursue it (w/ or without out me being there) It takes a LOT of communication to get there.... But there is NOTHING that we don't talk about. ALL a matter of how you handle it.
With a second lease on life... I don't play w/ that.
Judgement is a big deal in this society... generally, we keep it secret. I happen to be open about it and my opinion is that people that don't me know well enough.... are not qualified to judge me.... therefore their opinions have been weighed & measured.
Posted By: cwillzx
Seriously, if the date goes well, and she wants to pursue you (or you-her), I would abstain until you can figure out if it might go some where with a civilian.
A number of years ago I stopped hobbying altogether when I met someone I could be monogamous with. It was made clear in the early stages that it was an important factor in establishing the relationship.
Eventually (after 5 years) we decided to go our own ways again, and now I'm back enjoying the variety of lovely ladies.
You seem like a decent guy Esc. If there's a chance you met a girl who's right for you, why risk ruining it with lies and deceit?
Also, have yourself tested immediately for STD's. (if you don't already) Not saying that to be a dick, just saying so you can confidently enter into a monogamous relationship knowing you have not brought anything unwanted to the table. I did then, and still do now frequently.
all practical. Great to meet you at the M&G..You're a fun guy w/ a great perspective. Tori thought you were great also & thanks for NOT groping my GF.....we were on the balcony..lol.
My $.02... play it straight. Odd thing is... if you've been around a while is that there are some similarities. The Hobby isn't all that much different from Civi life, just know the barriers. So the OP asks about the "grey area". ALL depends on feel. With TMI..don't give her the Express train if she looking for the Local. Ease into that over time based on trust. Use you're best judgement. Many women appreciate a man with a more "worldly" view. A guy that has seen that, done that & doesn't run home to Momma to ask her take on things.
People are people. Find someone the "Gets You" not the first chick that will date you. In my book... Random Questions are good..... Random Admission are much better..... KNOW who is on the other end.. Hone in on or get better at Social Acuity.
In my situation... I have a GF of 5 years. She knows I have seen 30-40 escorts. She doesn't beat me up on it and I encouraged her to "go there". If that's what she's feeling...and she has. I tell her to pursue it (w/ or without out me being there) It takes a LOT of communication to get there.... But there is NOTHING that we don't talk about. ALL a matter of how you handle it.
With a second lease on life... I don't play w/ that.
Judgement is a big deal in this society... generally, we keep it secret. I happen to be open about it and my opinion is that people that don't me know well enough.... are not qualified to judge me.... therefore their opinions have been weighed & measured.
