I'm new to posting on this board. Please bear with me.
There is a provider visiting our city. I have seen her in the past in a different city. I called to make an appointment and ended by saying, "if there is anything you need I would be glad to help". She called me at 4:00 during the week and asked me for a ride. I am up near the New Hampshire boarder and she was south near U.Mass Boston. I said yes and fought trafic into and out of Boston. Picked her up, stopped at a pharmacy for her, and then fought traffic back into Boston to drop her off at a hotel in Cambridge.
As I was dropping her and her several heavy bags off she told me she only had large bills and asked me for $20 to tip the bellman.
I had no problem taking 3 hours out of my day to help her but to then asked me for money put me over the top. She continued asking insisting I give her money until I left thinking to myself after all that I did to ask for money was an insult. I called later and cancelled my appointment that was scheduled 2 days later.
My question is did I overreact?

Not at all, I can't believe you drove all that way to give her a ride !

You do her a huge favor and she asks * you * for money?

I don't know what's worse, her behavior, or you being naive enough to think you overreacted.  She's obviously a jerk and I wish you could share who it was.

Sorry, but I could understand if you had seen her b4 & were friends. You really went above and beyond.  Never again is my motto! Life is our greatest teacher. Thanks 4 being a gentlemen, xoxo

This happened to me some time ago with a provider I really liked. She was having problems and I told her to call if she needed help. I got the same lesson. In my case I think the person resented having to ask me for help even though I never acted like I expected anything in return.

okay I have to ask is she a tall brunette (about 5'10) in her mid to late 20s? Private message me if I am correct and I will give you more details.

You asked her to take advantage of you, and she did. The girls are here to make money, not friends. Chalk it up to a lesson learned, I say.

The good news is that you did not give her money,another lesson to be learned in life. welcome to my world.

You were treated badly. I have had gentlemen do nice things for me before, like picking me up at the airport, or taking me somewhere if I needed them to.

Had it been me and I really didn't have any small bills, I would have told you to deduct the $20 (or MORE for all of your efforts) from the 2 hr date you had booked. I have a hard time believing she didn't have any small bill since she had been out buying things that very day. Heck, I would have treated you to lunch or something for being so nice!

So sorry you were treated badly. At least she's out of a 2 hr committment from you.

And $10 for the bellman would have been fine IMHO.

xoxo,

Steph

You asked her to take advantage of you, and she did. The girls are here to make money, not friends.


You're mostly right, but if she "took advantage" of him, it was by getting the ride/favor.  Her asking for $$ on top of that, to tip a doorman, is just low-class chiseling.  Obnoxious.

No.....it was not her. I don't think it is important to reveal who it is. She is a great provider and I enjoyed our time together during the one appointment I had with her. Had I only seen her within the confines of an appointment I'm sure there would have been no problem. I'm sorry the experiece outside an appointment jaded me towards her.

Rather than ascribing this lady's behavior to her profession; it should be ascribed to her *personally*.

There are providers out there who are among the kindest people on the planet -- and *not* in exchange for money.

So don't let the behavior of one bad apple jade you for the good ones.

You should have told her ass or gas ? no one rides for free

Well said, Mr. Galt.

I suspect that her behavior in her personal life reflect her lack of manners - perhaps that's why she needed to rely on a client to give her a lift - instead of a friend.

In no way am I implying that anyone who avails of a client's offer of help is as rude as the provider described above.

Original poster - you seem like a very kind and compassionate person, but I'm glad you have your limits and find them when you realize you're being treated badly.

But has anyone thought that she may have had good intentions and planned to "repay" the OP during their next appointment.  Perhaps extended time for his earlier generosity?

I'm just sayin....

We don't need to be throwing this lady under the bus without her side of the story.  

Where I come from that's called giving someone the benefit of the doubt.

True, but in this hobby you can't expect any "repayment for generosity."  That usually gets both parties in trouble.

Maybe she had a side of the store, but the icing on the cake was the bellman tipping issue.  Seriously, she couldn't have just gotten change ANYWHERE?

You made your offer, and got your wish.  Live and learn.

I think it's good you not reveal the girl.  Her service inside the room has nothing to do with her behavior outside.

You might even consider seeing her again, after you get over being trashed.  Wait a while, then look back and laugh.