does this happen a lot. Recently I've had 2 providers text and email me asking for money. Not a loan not a we can take it out in trade but just give them money. Best part about it is both woman I have only spent 1 hour with. Then another provider asked me to rewrite my review and give her a higher score. Now a little about myself. I'm a blue collar guy. I don't wear jewelry when I go to my appointments. I don't drive a fancy car as a matter of fact I use my company truck sometimes when go to an appointment. I don't try to impress them and act like someone. I'm not going to name them so don't ask. Now there are a few girls that I would do almost anything short of being an organ donor for. But I've seen them more than once.   I'm just wondering if this happens a lot or is it just me.

Has not happened to me. I am probably not nice enough to ask  

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Asking for money whether it be loans or begging is wrong! There have been posts on multiple boards about this subject. Ladies PLEASE do not ask for money unless you are providing the services expected.  These men well kind, are not your boyfriends, fathers, brothers or family in general.  They HAVE THIER OWN families to take care of. Randomly asking for money makes us ALL LOOK BAD and frankly we ALL should be GRATEFUL for the time spent and not expect more!  

It has happened to me and I've sent small " gift" amounts to a few providers that were on tough street and they were gals I knew for a while and  I expected nothing in return. Nothing more than half a session fee and I never expected repayment, I never got it either lol

You sound like a good guy and unfortunately that will make some of these girls radar go off. If you hobby regularly you are sure to run into it. This profession often has drama swirling around it and sometimes things happen like a provider's boyfriend finds out for example and she gets thrown out on the street. Suddenly she needs money fast and started asking her marks or johns for $1,000 each.  Or maybe she gets a DUI and needs to pay an attorney their fees and has to take an alcohol abuse class and needs $10,000.  The best response is to not get involved or to give any money.  Any money you do give you will most likely never get back. If you do get it back it will be after she tries to disappear on you and you only get it because you keep on her about it and maybe you know her identity.  When and if she gives it back to you she will give you an attitude. Some rules of thumb if you do help? Only give something you can comfortably give away without seeing it back since that is what will likely happen.  Better yet? Barter with her for services and give yourself a treat at a discount.  Often times it's really drugs that she wants so take the opportunity to get a deal. You may be blue collar and not have a fancy car but you said "Now there are a few girls that I would do almost anything short of being an organ donor for." That's the part that makes you a target.

Try re reading my post. We are all marks to the point that we pay these ladies, but I've never sent anything I expected to get back and again only to gals I knew for years. I sent a single mother a few bucks for food/diapers and if that's a mark to you then cynicism has overtaken you. She couldn't work for 8 weeks due to a health issue I was aware of before she asked. I agree sending an  acquaintance money is stupid, as his having them come to your employer to get it or writing a check even worse. If you want to be a human ATM then so be it. I'd rather pay COD . On another note I once sent a Las Vegas provider money by western union to show up at a specific door at a specific time and visit a friend of mine son ( he was 26 at the time fresh of a broken engagement and his father asked me if I had any ideas that might cheer him up. The girl showed up and his dad said he called him after and had a laugh at his eclectic choice in gifts but point is the girl showed up. She knew I was 1800 miles away and had the money but she showed up...integrity still exist, at least it did the 15 years ago

I didn't mean to imply anything about you. I don't know you so that wouldn't be fair. I also did not mean to say that all of the women doing this are swindlers.  I have just learned from my experience that there is an all too common scenario that pops up when you think you are developing a relationship with a provider, then you get a sob story and only you can help.  Usually when a provider asks you for money it doesn't end well. It sounds like you have made some real friendships here or had some good providers. For me I just know that I don't think with my head when I have a total fox in front of me. I was just trying to warn you and others to be careful from my personal experience.  In my past if a provider needed money for drugs that's not what she tells me. She has some noble cause to present to me. Fortunately I have caught on before forking it over and now know how this works.... usually.

One girl called me from NY. I had only seen her one time. We never exchanged emails or texts or any kind of communication after our appointment. When she called she said she was retiring and was gong to have surgery. She said she wasn't coming back into this business but I seemed like a good guy and we had such a good time she was hoping that I would help her out. She said she needed 800. to pay her rent. She said she wanted me to make a donation to her. She didn't want to borrow it, she didn't want to owe anybody anything. I politely told her I wasn't in any position to do that at this time. I didn't want to be rude after all the crap that's been going on out here about money.(and its not her)Well 3 weeks later she texted me back and asked if I could help her now. I said no things haven't changed yet. Well last week she texted me again and asked if I could give her 400. to pay her rent. this time she even sent me pictures of her surgery.Don't get me wrong. I would help anyone that needed help if I could to include money. But not someone I only met for an hour. I don't even know if the pictures were her. For all I know maybe she just wanted to get high.I think I have made some genuine friends here. And I have helped them out with different things. I would never ask them for a discount or anything else. I figure if I offer to help, then when they take me up on it I shouldn't be saying well I'll do this if you do that for me

Made it uncomfortable for me, and I think I know why she needed it (see Starquarterback posts).  I helped a few times, but things started to go down hill.  Sad, but I really hope she's ok.

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How can I charge what I do if I don't take care of myself?
If I don't behave responsibly and pay my bills on time?
If I'm not dressed well and manicured and salon'd out?
If I don't steer clear of hard drugs?

I have done well and had rough patches!!   Many have offered help, but I have only accepted what I knew I could honor!   I also had a friend send me 75 when my husband was hospitalized with leukemia, what a god send!     Over all it is never appropriate to ask for hand outs!