Just wondering about what to tell the SO when stepping out for a rendezvous?? Anybody got any creative reasons to disappear for a couple of hours??

Going running!  

That way she understands when you come home sweaty and need a shower...also the sore hips for the next few days.  If you get teethmarks on Mr J you can tell her you got caught on some briars while taking a pee.

Make sure to bring some running clothes and shoes to put on at the end of your appointment.

off subject a little.but any excuses if you bump into someone on the way into hotel.has happenend to me once.is akward

I usually just say that I have to rescue some school children from a burning bus or find homes for unwanted puppies.  Who could say no to that?

Or, I say that:

- I have a work meeting/conference
- I'm meeting with a new client
- I'm helping a friend move
- I'm volunteering
- I'm seeing a movie
- My car broke down and I'll be late
- I have a continuing education class
- I'm attending a lecture on beekeeping/early New England maritime history/origami greeting cards
- My boss is making me work on something late
- My admin got drunk again during her lunch break and had to be rushed to the hospital
- a rabid possum bit my ankle and I had to go to the emergency room

Try coming up with excuses for your boss as to why "Lunch" took an hour and a half and your hair is now a mess...now that's tricky.

Seriously, I just tell the SO I'm going to the gym. Pack the gym back and head out. Come back wet from a shower and your bases are covered. Just be sure to occasionally actually go to the gym.

As far as being recognized in the hotel, those are excuses that requires some creativity.

Depends on the hotel. If it is a downtown hotel and you are spotted in the lobby then I just tell people I'm meeting a colleague at the hotel restaurant or I just finished meeting a colleague. If it is one of my wife's friends I pick a jewelry store in the area and say I was shopping for a present for her at this jewelery store (then I actually go and buy her something...girls talk).

If it is a suburb hotel, then that can be real tricky. The best I have come up with is that my company hired an out of town consultant and due to the travel departments screw up he had no rental car and I had to drop him off from the airport and Hertz is going to drive a car out to him.

Now if you are spotted up on the floors, then you need some nerves of steel. For downtown hotels, here is my favorite. A NY or LA based high-end tailor is in town taking measurements and orders up in a suite for custom suits and shirts (this isn't that uncommon) and based on a referral you decided to come in for a consultation. You can always say it was way out of your budget if you run into the person later.

If you are in a suburb hotel and are spotted on the floors then a) you know a shitload of people and b) they are probably there for the same reason. But if you must come up with an excuse then just use the out-of-town consultant excuse except she was a woman and you helped her with her bags.

The number one key for any excuse is to be the first to mention it to your SO. When you get home that night say how you ran into so and so and that you chatted about blank. Let her ask what you were doing there and tell her. And don't be casual. Give details that she can't corroborate. Service at the restaurant sucked. The travel dept is staffed with fools. Traffic was bad on the way back. The gym was packed. Then when she hears it again from a second party you will actually be trusted more because you shared and not be suspected because you didn't.

Re: excuses.

If you're interested, read Oscar Wilde's "The Importance of Being Ernest." You'll see covering your tracks for a tryst is an age-old problem.

Exdaytrader has this all figured out, but I just wanted to add a few tidbits.

"The gym" is obviously a good reason to keep a bag containing mouthwash, toothbrush, deodorant, travel wipes etc., in your car.

If you run into someone you know in a hotel, you can tell them you have a business meeting or take them into your confidence (people love to get inside info) and tell them you have an interview for a potential job.  I actually have had job interviews in hotel meeting rooms, so I guess it could happen in a suite on the upper floors.  If the company is based out of town and they are seeing a few people in your region that day for an open job, it is very plausible.

I'd tell the SO that these days, even if you're not planning on making a move, it's good to be aware of what's out there, a recruiter called you out of the blue, etc..

The high-end tailor/ out-of-town consultant stuff wouldn't work as well for me, but that's why you have to "tailor" these things to your own situation.


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