Out of the blue a very upset and heart broken... Yet very respectful young man (by the sound of his voice) called me... I usually don't answer calls I don't recognize. But this call came through blocked and I just happened to answer it.

The story is the guy found a notebook with guys names, addresses, and phone numbers in it. His gf had worked and the biz before and promised that she would/ had stopped. He believed it was an outcall log and the notebook by his examination seemed to be relatively new.

So he began calling the numbers as he did mine. He tried to describe his gf to me and that she claimed the notebook was for another kinda networking job. I honestly told him I didn't recognize the girl he was describing. But since she had my info I must have met her some where. Maybe a club or maybe she was a dancer too?

I felt the need to talk to him a bit because he was so upset. Felt bad for him but also didn't want him to do anything he would regret out of extreme stress. Plus, he had personal contact information for me so felt it better to let him ask his questions over the phone. He asked a few questions but also described his love for this girl and how he has tried so hard to make things work.

Ultimately, I said he should try and keep perspective on his emotions and not do anything he may regret. And just talk to her about it and decides if he believes her or not... Then that combined with his gut feeling make a choice for what is best for himself.

I know a lot of folks woulda said don't call me and hung up...  As I said, I felt he needed some answers and was going to seek them out... So might as well talk to him over the phone a bit for everyone's sake. I hope they are both ok and things work out how they must and which is best. Don't remember this girl. But ya never know. She had my info.

Any thoughts on how others woulda handled this?
Or if the calls continue?
Or if he or she comes knocking at the door?

Just looking for feedback and advice.

This is a hard situation. I think that you handled it with true grace and humility. Most men wouldn't have the empathy to do so.
I've found myself in similar situations three times before. I'm sure it is more common for women to receive these calls. Thankfully, I've never been contacted by a hobbyist's SO. In contrast, my calls were from baby mommas who didn't want to accept the fact that their men where out claiming to be single... Of course I get equally catty and hang up... So I respect you for taking the time to listen to him.
Nonetheless, the provider isn't worth putting yourself at risk. I hardly ever admit or offer ANYTHING verbally. Although this guy is unlikely to be LE (as that'd be clear cut entrapment), what if they want to blackmail you?  What if they are trying to record your voice and play it for your wife or daughter?  He could still do that out of spite alone.
If you hear from either of them again, you should get a restraining order. No pussy in the world is worth this much of a headache.

Thank you.
xxoxoxoxo