I don't know the exact answers to your questions, but I do know that the nature of this hobby tends to make people jump into 'defensive mode' very quickly... I don't know why, but I notice it too : )

What I can tell you, is that your post below was mis-interpreted because of the limits of techonology : )  If you had been talking face to face to someone and said, "The first thing you need to do is to learn how to spell Massachusetts", your voice inflections and body language would have shown that you were joking : )

But... posting on this board, what you said could be interpreted in 2 ways...

The first thing you need to do is to learn how to spell Massachusetts

OR...

The first thing you need to do is to learn how to spell Massachusetts

So... I guess the lesson for today is, if you want to make a sarcastic joke, don't forget to put a smiley face at the
end : )

~Grace : )

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The man is fairly anonymous here and the Provider is not. The customer doesn't have reviews, a profile and perhaps a posting history here on TER. In other words, he has no one interested in defending him.

I've never NCNS'd though I have had to cancel on a few hours notice once or twice. I still see the ladies in question.  I have not been banned or black listed because of it.

Shit DOES happen but common courtesy, to me at least, dictates that an explanation is always in order. NCNS, with no explanation, is not acceptable behavior on either side of the hobby.

Generally speaking, a provider has more to lose than a client in NCNS situations.

If it's outcall, all you are doing is sitting in your hotel room or at home being disappointed. Not great, but not a big deal. If it's incall, who do you think pays for the room and loses the opportunity to cover that cost? And a provider who does NCNS more than when crap happens also takes a real risk of ruining her ability to make a living.

Sorry, but I have more empathy for them.

Z

Simply because we're . . . .

men, it's simple evolution, natural selection at work.


Check out the links below for the man song.



or this link for a woman's perspective . . . http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XaAwqPLYWas&feature=related

There's a lot to what you say. I was stood up only once, thankfully. I sat in a hotel parking lot for half an hour calling her, figuring if I left and she'd try to pass my name around as a no-show.

I was just thinking about this the other day when after I had read that long thread below (and I won't be rehashing the subject, just scroll down if you wonder what it is). But I remember a guy had posted something negative about a well known provider, and how she handled clients. He was attacked from all directions by providers and hobbyist, and accused of having a vendetta against the girl and was just making things up.

The sad part was he was basically right about the escort's bad points because I had seen her also and could confirm what he wrote was dead on. I would have gone further and said she would speak nonstop about her boyfriend/ex husband, and the last appointment I had with her, she was high as a kite.

The part about her talking about her various exes really ruined the appointment, because that's the last thing I want to hear. Just like a provider who wrote a while ago that some hobbyist came into the appointment talking about all the other women he had seen and complained about them nonstop. But yet if I were to name the provider who was talking like this about the guys in her life (plus being extremely late for our appointment), I'd be persona non-grata. I guess the point of my long winded rant is that it seems like lately honesty does not pay on the boards. It's happened over the past year and a half.