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Quality over quantity
QuinnAdams 2537 reads
posted
1 / 49

I noticed on a few providers' websites and ads it says they do not want to meet with guys of certain races or guys under the age of 35, 40, or whatever age threshold they have arbitrarily chosen.

As a provider they, of course, have the right to see or refuse any client they would like without having to be scrutinized for and questioned about it; after all, it's their body and therefore their choice.  

However, I am not sure I understand why this is the case -- that they would not wish to see young guys. (I don't really understand the other race issue either, but am leaving that one alone on here!)  

Is it a maturity thing? Fear of not being compensated because younger guys are typically less established financially? Is it a stamina thing?  

Does anybody have any insight into this trend? Maybe I am missing something here...

gardener95 25 Reviews 1074 reads
posted
2 / 49

It may be a quality over quantity thing.  When I was much younger, my goal may have been to see how many times I can "nut" in one hour.  If I could do three I was a real man.  But now that I am older, and three in an hour is just a fond memory, I take my time.  I get to know my partner a little better.  And since there will be only one shot on goal, things are done slower and savored more.  I can't speak for any provider but my guess is that they generally prefer that.  I could certainly be wrong but that is just my theory. I will be interested to see what the ladies say about this subject.

Posted By: QuinnAdams
I noticed on a few providers' websites and ads it says they do not want to meet with guys of certain races or guys under the age of 35, 40, or whatever age threshold they have arbitrarily chosen.  
   
 As a provider they, of course, have the right to see or refuse any client they would like without having to be scrutinized for and questioned about it; after all, it's their body and therefore their choice.  
   
 However, I am not sure I understand why this is the case -- that they would not wish to see young guys. (I don't really understand the other race issue either, but am leaving that one alone on here!)  
   
 Is it a maturity thing? Fear of not being compensated because younger guys are typically less established financially? Is it a stamina thing?  
   
 Does anybody have any insight into this trend? Maybe I am missing something here...

mrfisher 115 Reviews 1248 reads
posted
3 / 49

And in this case, that 10% is the under 30 crowd.

They often have bad manners, aren't respectful, do NCNSs, and expect to get in 60 minutes of wham-bam sex per hour.

They also tend to bargain and welch more, maybe owing to not having the fat paychecks of older gents and also higher costs of raising kids, etc.

So, gals simply want to make life simpler for themselves and leave that market to someone else.

This doesn't necessarily mean that a gal won't see someone who is under 30.  I council guys who ask me to write a brief and sincere email stating that they are under 30, but intend to obey her rules, etc.  If you act mature, often you will be treated as such.

In any case, it's worth a shot.

And then there a few gals out there who love young studs, problems and all.

sweetnicole1 See my TER Reviews 1252 reads
posted
4 / 49

1. The main fact for me in the age difference
I am NOT going to be intimatebwith someone the age or younger than my children.

2. you've heard the old saying practice makes perfect...
Well it holds true here as well.
I don't want to train or teach anyone anything I want someone with experience and someone who knows how to make love to a woman

3. in my experience men under 40 are just clumsy when it comes to making love

Not that they're bad at it but obviously 10 more years of practice is going to make them better
I like playing with the finished product

4. I prefer to play with men my own age.

I don't really expect you to get this or understand this thing as you are 26 to 30
But enough people feel this way about it there must be something to it
This question has been asked over and over and over again go back and read some of the replies its all the same.

You may have all of the young guys yourself



-- Modified on 6/11/2014 6:54:23 AM

Foodyguy 29 Reviews 946 reads
posted
5 / 49

and do not want younger guys to feel ashamed!

angelexotic See my TER Reviews 1337 reads
posted
6 / 49

There is more than enough clients so that you dont have to and physically cant meet evey guy that calls any ways..............
I have posted ads requesting 45 and up. I personally get horny when i feel like i am doing something taboo. Like when Angelina Jolie was dating Billy Bob that sexy age difference, I think the whole older man obviuosly way younger woman scenerio it makes me hot, I also like feeling like i am the catch in the equation. Younger guys theycan get a 26 year old with an ass like an 8 year old boy not too be gross but a 26 year old thats got a perfect face and body they just arent as impressed or dumbfounded or spell bound or captivated by me, I when with a guy 54 asnd up i just feel kinda powerful and confident like they think i am such a hottie and are so pumped to be with a young hot babe.
          A guy that is 26 and stuff i just have the daddy fetish , the older older man thing. I always have liked them disgustingly older. I still do. I wanna feel dominant and like i am the one being worshipped and adored. I dont want some little shrimp here that thinks he is better than me and is not gonna be a gentlemen, There is a huge generation gap and the younger generation has alot less tact and less over all generosity , old fashioned gentlmenly manners are nin existent, Yes for example . Mr.fisher , He always bring s thoughtful gift in a jewelry box for me, always treates me to a dinner, You feel like a princess with the way way older guys that got the old school values, They are just way more easy to please and for me I do a better performance with them.  
                Also if you wanna narrow your inquiries down by a third or in half. And just arent wanting to deal with so many people calling, Narrowing it down fir a spell, can be great. I know i like to feel like i am being appreciated, When a guy thats striking in his late 20's. I really dont understand at all why they are even here. I get paying for a woman you may not easily iobtain in real life, Like a 50 year old with a 33 year old, Still a tad bit of fantasy, A strapping buck at 26 wanting a 33 year old ? To me i dont get it, I always ask them too cuz I am curios one last week said his gf is like 35. He just likes older women, So.  
         I have yet to have a young client under age of 45 get a multiple hour date or give me a tip. No one guy during the weird road trip to Sturbridge where i posted an add with the wrong phone number it was one number off. Also sturbridge just isnt a town to escort from , Whatever that was another ding battin a thousand move on my part. But around that time , one guy he was 32 he actually tipped like 20 or 40. I never get any multiple hour packages or tips they never bring any thoughtful gifts. The over 45 guys i get beautiful gifts from. One brought me this hand blown glass ornament you hang to ward off evil spirits made by a glass artist and it came with a card to tell this cool tail on how captains would hang them from thier ships long ago and still do for good luck, It was a nautical themed piece of art. How sweet is that?
             Then lets see down bucket whom i am kinda in fight with but he attempted to reconnect and i wasnt avl. Any hoo so him he always came with huge gift bags of chocolates from shubies in marblehead.and these awsome candles they sell he brought marine themed scents to match the beach house. Then always would take you do whatever you want help with everything and anything,    
              another one brought a bag of muscle milk protein shakes and san pelligrinos, The younger generation i think its from a generation where alot of kids are having babies so the kids dont have any old schoolm sense of values. My parents {my dad would be 70 now if he were still here} and my mother is like 65 or something, I know i appreciate that old fashioned thoughtful small things like arriving with just something small to be a sweetheart. Then maybe even a small tip or gift now and again, I charge next to nothing for massages and the older guys one this week gave me a 140 dollar tip a few others gave 40 dollar tips . My massages are only 160 for 45 min.
              The racial thing, on that , depending on who her clients are and things . The old school italians are as you must know very racist, They dont hesitate to use the n word as goes for like for example one my dads friends that dies he used the n word too. But i grew up in Squantum {where they film new whitey movie cuz he lived there for long time}{ But....I had a period of time where i said no black men, My immediate most important guys bf /client /.whatever they were. They would always say "you dont see n*&^%$%s do you?" Mind you none them ever have problems with balck women its like the old timer basket ball guy,  
              Old folks of every race have and every race has prejudices in grained in em, If a girl has a total turn off for certain races or just cant have her clients see her associaTING WITH THEM, .. My dad was from southie and i will tell you i couldnt be seenw ith a black guy, ... I know even know if i have black dudes in and out and my clients 80 percent of which are in my neighborhood regulars i had for 3-7 years . They are f.b.i. {full blooded italians} and if i had black dudes in and out my building non stop yes i d lose business

sexymarafouru See my TER Reviews 1313 reads
posted
7 / 49

Posted By: QuinnAdams
I noticed on a few providers' websites and ads it says they do not want to meet with guys of certain races or guys under the age of 35, 40, or whatever age threshold they have arbitrarily chosen.  
   
 As a provider they, of course, have the right to see or refuse any client they would like without having to be scrutinized for and questioned about it; after all, it's their body and therefore their choice.  
   
 However, I am not sure I understand why this is the case -- that they would not wish to see young guys. (I don't really understand the other race issue either, but am leaving that one alone on here!)  
   
 Is it a maturity thing? Fear of not being compensated because younger guys are typically less established financially? Is it a stamina thing?  
   
 Does anybody have any insight into this trend? Maybe I am missing something here...

sexymarafouru See my TER Reviews 1201 reads
posted
9 / 49

You are still in your 20's

I can think of a couple of reasons and, sorry, it has nothing to do with stamina!

1) I happen to have a son in college, so the Ewww factor comes into play
2) It's my business and I choose who I want to see...that's pretty self explanatory
3) Why is this a question? We all have our parameters, there are men out there who choose not to see providers in their 20's.

brandon_biggins 10 Reviews 1089 reads
posted
10 / 49

And I happen to make an awesome lover!!!! I'm sensual, passionate and when need be, I can fuck you silly!!!!  

I realize the correlation between younger hobbyist to immaturity, but that's not always the case.

And also I happen to be white and think I happen to be well endowed.  

Different strokes for different folks but this thread is getting completely ignorant at this point.

Ana Vixen See my TER Reviews 1456 reads
posted
11 / 49

I have a few black guys  friends over 35 age them are nice I'm not complaint if them have a big penis .
Younger guy never follow the rules is my opinion

-- Modified on 6/11/2014 3:43:38 AM

angelexotic See my TER Reviews 1150 reads
posted
12 / 49

Less is more, i d rather be able to still walk next day and do another appt next day, Being able to stay hard the full hour isnt an admirable quality, Remeber we ar e trying to make money not have to cancel rest dates that week cuz we are broken,
 its so funny the guys save thier dam a game for you and your like really. ?
 Thats why i charge 500 an hour for full service. i have some clients and i in no way can do another appt after or even next day . i swear they must take a bottle cialus before they see me,
 I dont care but that s why i charge more i cant do as many appts since i get all the freaks, Its my fault I encourage it i guess..........................
You are under 35 and can fuck good, But do you also take her to dinner bring gifts tip? The younger guys i dnt get treated very well by them, EVER.
          Why would they? they can get a girl better lookin than me and in better shape thier own age? why would they care to be generous with me ? i had one guy under 35 tip . In 3 years, ONE.
          and my massage rates are dam low. To not even have 20 for a gee thanks you wnet extra mile you old lady, hahaha.....just kiddin, i am still younger than you baggins, but still.

sweetnicole1 See my TER Reviews 1124 reads
posted
13 / 49

It's not an insult it's just my opinion

I didn't mean to sound like all men under 40 in general was what I was trying to say

Yes there are few exceptions but you draw te line  some place and this is my line.
I'm sure you have a line as well.

252002 178 Reviews 1384 reads
posted
14 / 49

I'm thoroughly confused and offended by the comment concerning race and money. Having seen Angel very surprised and disappointed by your view. Ana I hope to see you quiet soon, love your pics.

brandon_biggins 10 Reviews 947 reads
posted
15 / 49
TrulyMsMocha See my TER Reviews 1220 reads
posted
16 / 49

......while I can't see most of the guys who have attempted to haggle or have whined about my rates or what they didn't have (texts and emails) something tells me most of them are not black. Never had a problem with the black guys who I did see paying me in full without issue and as far as the dicks most i've met in the hobby were average at best....seem more big white dicks.

TrulyMsMocha See my TER Reviews 994 reads
posted
17 / 49

...unless he has current (or previous) military experience then i've had a good time with someone a few days shy of 22 lol. It's more or less how a huge amount under 35 approach us .... not so much the financial part (for me anyways) as i've met many well under 35 who were doing pretty well for themselves.

bornhard8 3 Reviews 828 reads
posted
19 / 49

You answered that question right on the money!!!!! good for you Mara.

HollyPaige See my TER Reviews 1062 reads
posted
20 / 49

I do have a few younger clients but overall i do also prefer older clients who have life experience. They are much more interesting. And a man who has lived and done things is very sexy. I will give anyone a chance if they are respectful in their emails. I do not respond well to the "hey babe are you around" emails. Also i have found younger clients cancel at the last min more often

just my two cents

Holly

shireman 13 Reviews 1007 reads
posted
21 / 49

What a nice and detailed response, Angel. Gave me several gift ideas in the process. More important, as an old guy, I felt appreciated even though I haven't seen you yet. I hope we get to meet.

TheSilverFaux 981 reads
posted
22 / 49

I was a mess in my 20's and 30's. I don't think I really came into my own until 45. Guess I'm a late bloomer. With maturity comes more of a sense of others and how you affect them. When I was younger, I was more self-centered and less considerate.... Also, there is self-confidence and no longer having to prove yourself to anyone, including yourself....

252002 178 Reviews 1333 reads
posted
23 / 49

Ok really that's how you think. Although it's just once I saw you the attitude has turned me off. I have gad plenty off hr session with review to prove it. Time constraints don't afford me time off longer session currently. Again sorry you have such a negative attitude toward blacks.

PenleyDuke See my TER Reviews 1058 reads
posted
24 / 49

It's all about chemistry and compatibility  ;-)

Alexa Xovi See my TER Reviews 1125 reads
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25 / 49
Foodyguy 29 Reviews 723 reads
posted
26 / 49

Absolutely right from this guys POV.

owen420 998 reads
posted
27 / 49

...even I would assume most people of my generation would be assholes or more flaky.

I understand some providers reasoning for having the age restriction, especially older providers.

Still, I think like any stereotype, its not necessarily fair or true 100% of the time. In my case I would be less interested in "fucking silly" like another poster said, but more in the cerebral element: gaining new experiences, getting to know the providers and their stories, etc.  

Everyone has their own reasons, and I'd admit that people of my generation probably have worse ones than others, but its not fair to assume all younger guys are like that.

If a younger client has two good references who vouch for him, why wouldn't you accept them?

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 900 reads
posted
29 / 49
QuinnAdams 951 reads
posted
30 / 49

I am not sure what exactly is meant here, but if I seem naive or ignorant, it is because I really am when it comes to this issue I brought up -- and to this industry, in general.  

Before I posted this question, I first thought about it. There didn't appear to be an obvious answer, and judging from the range of resulting replies, there doesn't seem to be just one universal thought process behind these provider age limitations.

Regarding this specific question (and any others I have posted or will inevitably post in the future), I figured that there was no better place to go for information and advice than TER's discussion boards given the wide variety of providers and hobbyists who share their opinions there. TER also seems to be the most trustworthy resource of anything I have come across thus far.

We all have to start somewhere, and I am very appreciative for those (here's looking at you Angel [thanks!!!], as well as Cameron Rae, Nicole, and Clair) who have offered to help me learn the proverbial ropes. And because I've been involved in this business for just under 4 months -- and as an indy for fewer than 4 weeks -- I have lots of questions.

If this seemed like a dumb thing to bring up, or if it has been debated recently here, I apologize and am grateful for everybody's thoughtful answers nonetheless. There is certainly a lot to digest.

Hope everybody is having a great week! Be well and stay safe.

Quinnie
Posted By: sexymarafouru
 
   
Posted By: QuinnAdams
I noticed on a few providers' websites and ads it says they do not want to meet with guys of certain races or guys under the age of 35, 40, or whatever age threshold they have arbitrarily chosen.  
     
  As a provider they, of course, have the right to see or refuse any client they would like without having to be scrutinized for and questioned about it; after all, it's their body and therefore their choice.    
     
  However, I am not sure I understand why this is the case -- that they would not wish to see young guys. (I don't really understand the other race issue either, but am leaving that one alone on here!)    
     
  Is it a maturity thing? Fear of not being compensated because younger guys are typically less established financially? Is it a stamina thing?    
     
  Does anybody have any insight into this trend? Maybe I am missing something here...

yajtsenre 80 Reviews 900 reads
posted
31 / 49

I can remember reading the Phoenix (did I spell that right) and every post said 40 and up. That bummed the hell outta me. Now that I'm closer to 60 than 50 I wish I was 20 again because the pussy was so easy to get for free including the 40 plus year olds.

Freya See my TER Reviews 911 reads
posted
32 / 49

in my experience are more likely to cause issues... eg haggle over rates, short the envelope, try to stuff it with paper and hope you don't notice, get extra time, try to get you to hang out off the clock, try to start a relationship with you, try to rob you, rape you etc.  

Certainly not all are like that, but it is statistically more likely, and there are plenty of more mature gentlemen anyway. Yes there are older gentlemen who do those things as well, but the percentage is lower in my experience. It's all about playing the odds. It's a lot easier than trying to get an in depth psych profile on every client as part of screening.

TrulyMsMocha See my TER Reviews 620 reads
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33 / 49
Corbett21111 20 Reviews 1000 reads
posted
34 / 49

Posted By: angelexotic

           You are under 35 and can fuck good, But do you also take her to dinner bring gifts tip? The younger guys i dnt get treated very well by them, EVER. Why would they? they can get a girl better lookin than me and in better shape thier own age? why would they care to be generous with me ? i had one guy under 35 tip . In 3 years, ONE.  
           and my massage rates are dam low. To not even have 20 for a gee thanks you wnet extra mile you old lady, hahaha.....just kiddin, i am still younger than you baggins, but still.
On the flip side, I am mid-30s and been in this hobby a relative short period of time (1.5 years). I have stopped tipping for the most part.  When I first started in the hobby, I would tip anywhere from 10% to 20% and only received ONE thank you.  Never received better service either.    

Now I reserve tips/gifts only for girls I have seen multiple times and I know it would be appreciated.  No point on tipping or giving gifts on the first date

FloraFaun See my TER Reviews 1076 reads
posted
37 / 49

As long as they act professional then they are very welcome to see me. I am never an ageist. I look for good people who act professional, that's all that matters. I could never refuse someone for being younger or older

TrulyMsMocha See my TER Reviews 1020 reads
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38 / 49
gardener95 25 Reviews 709 reads
posted
39 / 49

OK.  Why won't you see guys over 60 years old?  After all, isn't 60 the new 40?  Just wondering...

get-a-life 987 reads
posted
40 / 49

Apparently she's IGNORANT
 

Posted By: gardener95
OK.  Why won't you see guys over 60 years old?  After all, isn't 60 the new 40?  Just wondering...

Alexa Xovi See my TER Reviews 889 reads
posted
41 / 49

Good to know, But those are some longer years iluv!!!! : )  xoxo

Alexa Xovi See my TER Reviews 944 reads
posted
42 / 49

I will take that back, I do have special friends in their 60s and we get along very well and you perfectly correct , so in reality  70 is the new 50 or I might say 60 *Wink* make sense now?

Alexa Xovi See my TER Reviews 1063 reads
posted
43 / 49

And YOU SOO PERFECT AH!!!!! Apparently the comment hit you hard

Life is too short for bitterness, get some few beers, drinks to chill or ( a good f==k) and enjoy the summer.

 
Salud, cheers !!!!! : )

EWCQ3T68 36 Reviews 731 reads
posted
44 / 49

She only stated HER preference. You don't have to agree but let's not insult someone for sharing their thoughts.

Alexa Xovi See my TER Reviews 891 reads
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45 / 49

ww Thats so cute, thanks for defending....  , but I did mentioned a quote ,( Ignorance doesn't have age )  

 
I think we all naive or ignorant one way or another. no? Thats why we all ask questions and nothing wrong with that. My intention was not to offend anyone

EWCQ3T68 36 Reviews 1014 reads
posted
46 / 49

Anytime sweetie...  

Having met you myself I know your comments were definitely not intended to offend anyone...but seems like this day in age people get offended at the slightest thing.  

Also, I thought your quote was spot on and I agree that we all have ignorance to something and why it's important to learn, listen and be open minded.

Have a wonderful weekend and look forward to seeing you real soon :-

MeetEricaStone See my TER Reviews 918 reads
posted
47 / 49

Obviously I can't speak for everyone but I've been providing for 10 yrs and this is what I believe:

Men pick women according to what turns them on.  Some providers, with advertising or screening, exclude certain categories of men according to what turns them off.  Whether someone excludes a certain race, age group, level of experience (aka no newbies), big guys, small guys, whatever - it's because they are turned off by that "type" of guy and they are self aware and caring enough to be up front about it.
 
It's not racism, or ageism, or that we think men of all shapes and sizes don't have merit.  It's because IF we know that we won't be able to fully engage ourselves into that person before having met - we are doing the client a disservice.  For me it's newbies and young men I prefer not to see.  I am not going to invite a 25 yr old over to my incall knowing that the thought of having sex with a 25 yr old man makes me say, "ew!"  I am not going to waste their time and money that they could have spent on an enthusiastic provider instead of me.  It's also a bad review waiting to happen - we aren't talking about getting together for lunch or a job interview, we're intimate with them and that takes a different toll on our tolerances.    
 
For that reason I often advise or enlighten NEWBIES that they will, at some time or other, face some sort of exclusion if they were to spend any length of time in this hobby.  It's rarely, if ever, personal and it would be great if folks would understand that and move on rather to have thier feelings hurt.  Please don't take the attitude that we as providers will simply do anything (or anyone) for money as that's not the case.  We have our own preferences and tolerances to consider when selecting a client.  Another thought about this is that we do this to make a living, we're not going to randomly turn down opportunities to make money just to be picky or a bit@#.  It's not a dislike of that person personally but, again, a self awareness that's best followed rather than ignored.
Posted By: QuinnAdams
I noticed on a few providers' websites and ads it says they do not want to meet with guys of certain races or guys under the age of 35, 40, or whatever age threshold they have arbitrarily chosen.  
   
 As a provider they, of course, have the right to see or refuse any client they would like without having to be scrutinized for and questioned about it; after all, it's their body and therefore their choice.  
   
 However, I am not sure I understand why this is the case -- that they would not wish to see young guys. (I don't really understand the other race issue either, but am leaving that one alone on here!)  
   
 Is it a maturity thing? Fear of not being compensated because younger guys are typically less established financially? Is it a stamina thing?  
   
 Does anybody have any insight into this trend? Maybe I am missing something here...

papidog 74 Reviews 1005 reads
posted
48 / 49

I so  remember that! Waiting for the new Phoenix and going to the entre nous section. Getting lied to by Linsey and  the other agency phone girls...no pic and no boards to complain. Remember seeing a hot young thing with a beeper on and wanting to go get the digits...was a lot more intrigue and way more of a gamble. Being young was a benefit no doubt.

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