I had a get together with a big name porn star for a great session. I paid through the nose to have a one hour meeting and it went great. She even offered me extra time without any issues. At the end I asked her if I could use her as a referral due to my stance on not going through an agency (too many LE issues). She said no problem and then no response, good or bad, to an inquiry from another provider. WTF is up with that? I know we all want safety but I still am not willing to give my personal info to an agency. There are things even they can't say no to. Any advice, espicially from the ladies, as to what I can do to make soneone at ease with me as well as both being safe?

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