I belong to all of the "blacklist sites" but I've never black listed a guy. However, today I had two NCNSs! I don't think guys realize how much this screws up a girl when they bail. It literally costs me money. Do these guys deserve to be black listed?
I'm going to head to the gym to blow off this steam but I AM HEATED!

Kisses,
An Angry Katie

Maybe a second list of guys who NCNS?  

That way women could know to be careful, make sure they confirm, things like that.  It seems too harsh to blacklist them since there's always a chance that something really did prevent them from contacting you.  99% of the time, it's just rude, but that other 1% is a reasonable explanation and it would be a shame for those guys to get blacklisted as a result.  (It's a strange business.  Sometimes a phone call might not be possible, in certain company)

Consider an alternate method of righting this wrong.

I, for one, appreciate that you're blowing off steam.  I'd urge you to consider what other means you may have at your disposal to effect the same (or better) result.

See BostonIndependent's post on this very subject last Friday in response to a similar question.

The blacklists go viral, are impossible to eradicate, and have huge consequences that are very much collateral to your intent.

It is always hard to decide if 'something really happened' to a guy (accident etc.) BUT it REALLY is rotten when you've passed up other appointments, to see a guy(s) that ends up being a nsnc. Even if he gives is a last minute call at least you're not sitting there all dressed with your motor turned on - waiting and fuming! Still have to eat the loss but that's part of the biz, i guess.
my thought is that 'mr. nsnc' turns into my own dns (do not see).

Exception: If it is someone I see regularly, then I'd just plan worry my head off till I know they are okay!

Sorry the duds messed it up for you today, let's hope tomorrow is better!

You always know what to say to make things better! Miss you. Can't wait to see you again!

The day did get better. I felt much better after a workout and then decided not to blacklist. Then a successful meeting made everything else ok!

Hope to see you next week!
KK

..... I know we love to give other's the benefit of the doubt but sometimes that sugar honey iced tea is blatant.

Somw say blacklist is only for the dangerous, violent  well to be imo blacklist can/should be used for "severe alerts" all the same.... there are some guys  known for double-booking, ncns, time-wasting and so on and it continues because no one does anything about it (they are greatly underreported even via backchannel). In one way or the other some have to be held accountable and one of those ways is public blacklist..... how and when to blacklist for ncns can be tricky.

I think some who blatantly bs and ncns must think we get free hotel rooms off of our good looks.

Clients should not be put on a blacklist for NCNS.  Blacklists show a persons real name and work info. and in my opinion it is wrong to blacklist someone publicly for NCNS  .

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Its not a Blacklist offense.

Why?

Because 90% of females don't use the BlackList in their screening process and when they do that is not the sort of offense that will prevent them from chancing a meeting.

So why ruffle your own feathers or put potentially dangerous personal information into the atmosphere?

Short Stop,

Thanks for posting that thread. I didn't see it at first. No call no shows SUCK! It was nice to be able to see it from a man's perspective.

Thankfully, when I'm touring, it's never happened. I think guys understand that a touring girl has just shelled out 300/night to be there and they try to help her recoup her losses.

However, when I'm home in Providence, I don't get the same courtesy. I feel taken for granted! Now, these aren't my regulars. My regular lovers are sweet and devout. These are the new guys who find me on other sites. They call or email and ask as many questions as I'll allow. Then they schedule an appointment and email and call in between. And then they no show! Its insane how much overhead I invested in these no shows!

When I have a scheduled appointment, my world stops for at least two-three hours in advance. I make sure: I'm at my incall, I'm fresh and sweet, and my incall is clean and prepared with our toys. I never double book and I don't advertise when I'm already prebooked. For example yesterday, I didn't advertise because I was prebooked and then those two guys cancelled. I do use a two call system but it's to protect my incall and not because I'm double booked.  No shows ruin my day and set me back financially.

I greatly enjoy being GFE and hosting no rush sessions but I'm seriously considering beginning to double book when home in Providence.  And I'm going to have to go back to touring.

LOL. Then you need to suggest a new plan? I'm not going to blacklist so what should I do?

That is not a black listable offense. You can personally refuse their calls and tell ladies if they try to use you for a reference but NO THIS SHOULD NOT QUALIFY!

Even now, three years after being blacklisted by a local agency whenever I Google my name combined with "Boston" I see my name on the first page of search results under an "untitled page" referring to a national blacklisting service for escorts. This was all because the person in the picture was not the person I met to whom I gave a cancellation donation. I am convinced this person never told the agency about this donation. The agency never gave me a chance to tell my side of the story or listen to any explanation. Do I deserve to see my name on Google in this context three years later? How many opportunities, social or professional have I missed out on because of this? I'll never know. I want to make it clear that none of the ladies I reviewed worked for this agency.

Wow. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Your personal story really brings home the point!

Hell hath no fury! But just to be clear, I didn't blacklist these guys or anyone else. Thankfully, I've never needed to. (knock on your woodie)

KK

I like the title of your post, putting your foot down, straight out of "The Color Purple". Thanks for putting some balance in this thread, Joi

those who've amassed a solid reference base just laugh at the notion. ha.

But then those with good references very rarely NCNS in my experience. If they do, they almost always call or email later on to explain and apologize.

Another option if they have a Date-Check membership is that you can mark them as a NCNS. P411 also allows you to report members for such behavior.

If they don't have a membership, and you're the sneaky type, send them an invite. Then when they accept, mark them as NCNS.

xoxo Kat oxox