Good evening,

I'm at a loss/perplexed by something that I think is becoming a real issue in the community. What is one to do when there is a posting of a beautiful lady visiting, who has a strict "no review" policy, and there is no other information about her? I understand the rates have gone up-we've discussed that in this forum to death.  

Recently, I saw an advertisement of an absolute goddess who was scheduled to tour my city in the coming weeks. The rate was 800/hr. She has a strict "no review" policy. I couldn't find any information about her on social media or on the discussion boards. I posted a message in her primary/home city, noting that this beautiful provider was visiting, I couldn't find any information about her, and could any of the hobbyists share "generally," what it was like to visit with her? I specifically said, I'm not looking for a list of menu items, acronyms, or graphic details. All I asked was whether she'd be considered a GFE, and just have a basic sense of what the experience would be like, assuming I was a gentleman.

Not long after the posting, I got an email from the provider's assistant. She was unhappy that I posted this question, and would now be prohibited from seeing the provider. It was as if I'd committed a war crime.

I don't understand what we are supposed to do. I can't risk spending 800 on a provider without any clue. I would think it would be best for the provider and the client to have some idea of what the experience entails, so that it's not an issue for either. I have no idea if this provider kisses, what she's comfortable with, or anything whatsoever.  

I guess the answer is to only see ladies with reviews. I was made to feel pretty shitty about asking for info, and I don't know what I should have done. I don't have 800 or more dollars to toss away.

Any thoughts/comments?

800 is more than double what I would be willing to pay for anyone reviewed or not but that's up to you. Second... How will they know it's you if you don't tell them? Third... If someone treated me like they treated you I'd run the other way.

There are right ways and wrong ways to go about everything in life. It doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong but considering the reaction you got they’re probably not everything they hype themselves to be and they don’t want word getting around. That would simply push me to post this story anywhere and everywhere, but that’s just me.  

I understand why you are frustrated. This hobby can be a dangerous thing and the trust has to go both ways. If they’re not willing to offer anything other than pictures that may or may not be them, then you simply keep looking. The headaches are fewer and farther between that way.  

The rates thing has been beaten into the ground, but the thing is there are people who can afford to pay it and they do. Not disparaging them- that’s their choice. If you can afford it, it’s your money so you do you.

Best if you keep your TER handle separately named from your email or other handles (eg p411, etc) you use to communicate directly. That should give you deniability on anything you post or ask in TER.  

Also, I think you answered your own question ... only see women with reviews.  Alternatively, just roll the dice and TOFTT.

TER gives you 2 handles for this particular purpose. This is my 'asshole' handle that allows me freedom to do whatever, ask whatever I want to ask, and be controversial if need be. I also use it if I were to write a negative review something that happens very rarely.  

Then there is another handle that I use only for positive sentiments.  

Do you think you could you PM me who are you talking about? Or even better why not post her name and link here? You have nothing to lose now. You're not going to see her as 'Fishster' anyway.

Some providers dislike reviews and dislike this website. They are more exclusive, the secret club in the back of the bar. They have clever websites that usually begin with personal statements, "Hello! Let me introduce you to my world..." and exude intelligence and luxury. They usually have a Twitter account and post a fair amount about travel, gifts, and food. They require deposits. And their compensation is very high.

Typically I would never see someone like this. But then I did. And it was amazing.  

Not sure what to tell you. Sometimes you have to take a chance.

I had one of those once. Splurged on her for one long visit but got mediocre service, wasn't worth the price of admission at all. She ghosted me once she learned i had a TER handle. I never wrote a review on her though.

 I respect their wishes of no review, but there's a reason why they don't want reviews so I tend to avoid them from now on, unless they are very well established. A lot of judgement from that one, was hoping to have found a new ATF by how we communciated beforehand, but looks isn't everything, I'm learning.

Saved me a lot of funds for much funner things, at least, like a certain famous red-headed porn starlet visiting Boston next weekend. I wouldn't stress it, things will works out eventualluly, remember, you're the one with $$

Girls like that will age out and there will be newer girls to replace them as the years come by.

I had a similar situation yesterday in which I cleared all the hurdles to see this providers and also asked if she could share reviews. It’s on me I guess that I didn’t ask for reviews beforehand. Once I was verified she started emailing on the hour as to when I would like to see her. I asked about reviews and she stated none, and again when would I like to see her. Once I said I’m fine given no reviews she went on an email rant back and forth. Sorry yet like you a dodged a bullet, no reviews I move on simple as that. She stated what she does yet I can say I shot for par last weekend too(78) but I didn’t. Good luck men.