The OP is using an alias to protect his handle and reviews.
I've recently seen a provider in the Top 5 of Boston. I anticipated a great session, however my experience was rather mediocre and disappointing. I don't review poor sessions because not only are they rare, but I'd rather focus on the good times. However, what I didn't like is that she threatened to blacklist me with my full legal name if I didn't give her a 10/10, so I decided not to review her at all.
I never dealt with this type of situation before what should I do?
1) Write the review anyway. Her threat of blacklisting you probably carries very little weight, especially if you have other providers that will vouch for you.
2) Report her to TER. Especially if you have proof of her blackmail demand. That kind of stuff will get her delisted in no time. Plus a delisted provider blacklisting you doesn't really carry any weight with other providers.
3) This doesn't help you in this particular case, but for all future dates, stop giving out your legal name! If a provider can't screen you with just a combination of your first name and references/whitelists/OKs then you need to move on. It's just not worth it.
Please do write a review of that companion and share your actual experience; you don't need to disclose who she is and she earns the scores that she deserves and it might not be 10/10, or it might be.
Do kindly let TER know about such demand on your review as there had been some instances of faked websites/ads fishing for 10/10 TER reviews and some top ladies in Boston had been "delisted" and somehow TER seemed to have found information to resolve the matter, it begs the question if these are related.
Thank you for sharing your concerns and hopefully you don't need to fear such "cyber bullying threats
Never done it myself but spoke to enough hobbyists who said that they either traded high TER ratings for discounts or were pressured or even threatened to write good reviews or else and did so.
That's why I don't trust any continuous 10/10s or even 9/9s. Humanly impossible. Your beauty maybe my dud and the other way around.
There is a provider, everybody's favorite, who in the beginning of the session does something that everybody else seem to think as not such a big deal. Well, that "not such a big deal" drops me from the high of the initial encounter to such a low that I find it near impossible to rekindle momentum. I politely asked her not to do it but she seemed to ignore my plea. I still gave her a well-deserved raving review. But how could I possibly give her a 10, like many others did?
I see a UTR that few lucky to be her clients (please don't PM me at this point she is not looking for new clients) believe that she is the greatest hidden treasure in Boston. She probably is. Fine looking, open to suggestions and super happy - an unmatched customer service at least in my experience. Well guess what? She says that there are those with whom she doesn't hit it off too. Not many but it happens. I personally know at least one person who wasn't impressed. In fact and I'm not kidding he was the one who hooked me up with her initially. I'm sure he could never write her a good review. I don't understand how it's possible but that's me.
So one 10/10 after another or pages and pages of only 10s and a few 9s? Yea right
It is possible to get consecutive 10/10's, and I often cross check the reviewers' other reviews and companions previously met.
Certainly rating inflation happens and yet when there is a stellar companion who earns the 10 in looks and 10 in performance, I won't be shy in giving her the 10/10.
So it is tough to generalize. Also not every meeting is reviewed so by nature those written reviews could point to more favorable views. Therefore the level of details and excitement within a review could help support the 10/10
I've asked for reviews in about 2 cases, after long periods with no reviews. Anyone who's ever seen me knows I literally don't mention them at any time whatsoever. I've definitely never threatened anyone and yet still only get 9s and 10s.
Use your judgment and don't depend on any site to be the end all be all deciding factor. But definitely don't discount the ladies who actually work hard to be consistent in all aspects and are rewarded for it in their reviews.
I don't think it's worth the drama to get my legal name on a blacklist especially since I'm married, but I'm willing warn those interested in knowing who she is, if they PM me.
Something to hide yourself ??
Have done it many times. Also, I sent OP a PM but have yet to hear back...
Providers who do this is what makes my employment verification process for newbies hard and intimidating.
I would certainly take the advice of those who have already responded such as skepticalpatron and report to TER.
Forgot to mention that this also endangers providers. Blacklisting is used to protect us and ensure our safety. Those that abuse or misuse this are immature, petty, and underestimate the consequences of such a system not being used properly.
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I also only give good reviews and avoid giving bad ones and never TOFTT. I find that more providers are interested in having you post good reviews now, where in the past they didn't care as much. I think the numbers we give are inflated and that this top five or top ten is very crowded at the top because we created it. With out those numbers we would read more closely and expect less. With the numbers we expect more and get less. My reviews are high but only account for 25 percent of who I see, but their accurate. The rest don't deserve a review, or wouldn't want an honest one. The providers are all aware of the cat fights that exist at the top. They try to screw one another, hack files gossip etc. They are just like the rest of us, good, bad, and opportunistic. If I was you I'd stay the hell out of it. You've likely stirred more than you wanted to already. I struggle with wanting to write mediocre reviews because I don't expect to hit off with everyone I see, but to be threatened that's bullshit.
You owe it to yourself to rat her out.
its a shame but in reality, you arent going to be a 10 all the time so
I dont know anyone who would find that shocking
I think most 10/10 scores are influenced in one way or another
either they dont want to disappoint the provider and not be allowed to see her again
they dont want to be the one to score her below her usual
or shes insistant on a 10/10 and lets you know as such
not to say some dont earn them they do. But a page or 2 of only 10/10s is alot less believable than a few here and there
yes rat her out shes degrading the review process and report her to Ter
Sorry this is happening to you.. If it is the same provider I am thinking of she was reported to TER multiple times, but without "proof" TER couldn't do anything about it. Some of us in the community are trying to ignore said provider and maybe things will calm down but that's not so easily done when your personal information is at risk.
I am having my doubts about your claim since you have no reviews or white list.
The OP is using an alias to protect his handle and reviews.
Giving out a provider's name without any back up is just plain wrong.
Well if he has email or texts from the provider he has proof of her threat.
Also blackmailing a hobbyest for a 10/10 review is just plain wrong to
If she's really threatening you to out you. YoU should just report what's going on to Ter. My guess is that this provider has done that before and TER probably knows about this provider. Maybe with your help TER can delist this ripoff.
I'm a newbie in Boston and I'm following the advice of some of more experienced hobbyists to see well reviewed ladies until I get more comfortable seeing newer providers. I know that any hobbyist-provider interaction is going to have risks involved, but your post makes me a bit weary about the whole review system, especially when I feel like I'm trying my best to put forth honest reviews. I'm sorry to hear about your experience and I'm respectfully requesting the name of the provider via PM so I can avoid her at all costs. Thanks for your help and good luck with future dates.
This is a very true situation. However, it suprise me that a Top 5 provider would do this to a client, assuming all his claims are speaking of the truth. It reminder all of us that try to avoid of using your legal last name as much as possible.
About 411, I want to reminder you guys. You can change the first name in your 411 ID after your verification with them. You can change to something that is similar to your legal first name or part or even same but in a reserve way of spelling it. As along as, you can approve it match the info on you CL, you will be fine with most providers.
PS: should call the director of the GFE show, and add this story to their next season.
Your offer to PM the name is a good way to start. It may be easy to judge how valid the claim is based on what we already know about the provider. If it is a provider with a lot of 10/10's your claim would seem valid. Other's who have seen the same woman could vouch for or against.
Very rare for a "well known" provider to make a drastic change from her regular pattern.
How many PM's have you replied to?
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Some wrinkles to consider, given that literally within last month or so multiple top ranked ladies had been delisted by TER due to alleged fishing for 10/10 reviews, and now this
While Wolfofsteel might be a legit hobbyist, unless he could prove he is a hobbyist, we can not really assume anything. Which means Wolfofsteel could also be a companion?
I wonder whether TER could tell the difference?
Imagine if Wolfofsteel is actually a companion/lady provider?
By his initial post, we were anchored to believe he is hobbyist, what if that is false?
It's definitely possible. We've seen providers, usually more established local ones, who for one reason or the other get crossed with other, usually newer, provider and soon after there is an anonymous post claiming that the newer provider does or did something sinister.
Usually there is a new provider appears on the horizon who charges a bit less then others and begins to accumulate raving reviews. Then there is an anonymous post claiming that she either doesn't use protection in sex or she robbed somebody or something of that nature. I've seen it done at least twice on this forum. I have my suspicions and pretty strong ones in regards to who's behind it but of course nothing solid.
Still I also know for a fact that there are providers that would threaten if they feel they might not get a good review and hobbyists that would exchange 9s or 10s for discounts.
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What are you so afraid of ??????
You claim that wolfofsteel is may not be a hobbyest but the so called provider attacking another provider.
My question is: How do we know that you are not the provider being attacked using an alias to defend herself and discredit Wolfofsteel. Who may be telling the truth.
Since you say we can not believe him until he proves he is a hobbyest, how can we believe anything you or anyone says until you prove you are a hobbyest.
Something to consid
You are absolutely correct that we won't know for sure, looking at this thread in isolation.
If you are willing to read other discussions posted by me on this board recently, I seem to profile more like a hobbyist, of course without 100% certainty. One of my posts was about whether to meet more a local top notch lady more often or meet someone new in NYC.
Wolfofsteel seems to be an alias fresh just for this discussion thread and I personally have not seen it before.
Again you will never know, if you are willing to look at these in context, hopefully you might feel differently;
What is interesting is that Wolfofsteel has not disputed on the discussion thread just posted/started by one of the top ranked providers in Boston and Wolfofsteel seems to be rather quiet in this discussion thread that he or she had starte
Well balling you do make a good point, we don't know know if you are a hobbyest or a provider hiding behind this alias.
But one point you made was that Wolfofsteel is a fresh alias, but looking over your posting history you have only been
Posting on this board since 3/24/2016 today is 4/16/2016 so your alias is only what 3 weeks old.
So isn't your alias fresh to ?????????
As for you comment about your profile reading more like a hobbyest then a provider, that doesn't stand up every will either.
Provider have been using fake profile and alias to get on post the board and get intel on the reviewer only board to.
So until all the alias are flipped to the real names, it just a bunch of BS being thrown around
You are exactly correct and what you said proved my point! If we don't know for sure Wolfofsteel is hobbyist or companion, then whatever that had been shared by Wolfofsteel is just BS. That had not been the view many folks had taken as the anchoring effect was so strong that it had been written as if Wolfofsteel had been a hobbyist.
So without making sure our assumptions are correct, Wolfofsteel has been able to steer attention towards one single companion, without disclosing his/her identity as either a hobbyist or a companion
Nice to see that you agree with me !!!!:
If you have a no review policy that's fine. But if you do in fact write reviews using an alias, you're being a bit hypocritical calling out other people for using aliases. Just asking, that's all.
I'll tell you the reason I'm using my alias is because I want to stay out of this mess, but still try to help out fellow members.
I use to about 8 years ago but I give up that handle and started this one.
I do not hobby under this handle, so that is way I have no reviews.
Does this answer all your questions.
Also I have never have hidden behind and Alias. Don't need to
Not concerned about if the crap I have said is branded BS, just wanted to share an angle most might have overlooked; getting it right after the result is announced ain't much use
He would validate himself thru his PMs. That is why I asked how many PMs he has replied to.
While Wolfofsteel might be a legit hobbyist, unless he could prove he is a hobbyist, we can not really assume anything. Which means Wolfofsteel could also be a companion?
I wonder whether TER could tell the difference?
Imagine if Wolfofsteel is actually a companion/lady provider?
By his initial post, we were anchored to believe he is hobbyist, what if that is false?
[Edited] I wasn't sure what you meant by validate ... I sent a PM to wolfofsteel (presumably an alias) using my alias, and got a reply from wolfofsteel, which I assumed was an alias. I'm assuming that when I send a PM that way, the recipient doesn't have my real handle, and I still don't have theirs. So, I can't validate whether they are a hobbyist or not.
But, I just clicked through their name in the PM system and got a page with no reviews and an empty whitelist, so I don't know if that means that PM replies come from the real name, and this isn't an alias, or if a PM reply comes from an alias it comes up empty when you click through but doesn't say 'this is an alias'.
If they had chosen to reply from a handle with reviews, then of course I would know, but for whatever reason they didn't.
And, yes, I am posting from an alias for good reasons given all the recent troubles and bad behaviour. So feel free to ignore my point of view, I'm not fussed by that at all.
But now I'm nervous whether my real handle was exposed to wolfofsteel by my PM. If this whole thing is what I suspect, then I'm guessing not, because the person (speculation) behind wolfofsteel probably would not have chosen to reply to me.
Wish we could all just get along and have fun BCD.
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You don't need to see a list of reviews. A short conversation will suffice.