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Is it rude?
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Is it rude to specify with a provider that you want to be the first appointment of the day? I always try to schedule things early in the day to hopefully avoid this issue because I week awkward bringing it up. Sometimes I can’t make an early appointment though. So is it rude or is there a delicate way to inquire or suggest that you would like/need to be the first appointment of the day?

Hopefully 🤞 she’s honest if that’s what you truly desire. Lower your expectations. FMTY 😻

If the schedule allows, I don’t see a problem with that at all. It’s not rude—it’s just your preference, and that’s totally fine.

For example, if you are requesting to be her first appointment of the day, but are requesting a time in the evening or night, then yes that would he rude and also unrealistic unless she is low volume and willing to accommodate. This example scenario in my opinion would be rude because you would be indirectly limiting her potential income for that day by requesting that. This would be especially rude if you request a late appointment for a short appointment (I.e. 30 mins).  

Oftentimes, those who request to be the first appointment of the day do so because of the belief that she is dirty for the day after her first appointment. Not sure if that is the case for you, but asking can put a bad taste in a provider's mouth. I suggest you instead ask for her general availability, and schedule an appointment as close to her start time as possible. Or book an extended date (whatever that is for her) and hope she does not take another appointment.

You already know the answer. That little voice in your head that made you ask the question, is telling you you shouldn't ask.

It’s all in how you phrase it, and it’s about being honest about why you’re asking.

 
If you’re asking because you believe that seeing someone later in the day means she’s “less fresh,” “dirty,” or won’t be as energetic… yeah, that’s a little rude. That mindset says more about you than it does about her, and it’s worth some self-reflection. Look at what you’re doing.

 
But if it’s simply that you feel most energetic early in the day and want someone who can match that energy, that’s different. That’s flattering. A gentleman who frames it like that usually gets a warm response.

 
Just don’t frame it like you’re trying to avoid “leftovers” or “sloppy seconds.” We’re not cartons of milk with a sell-by date. 😉

I'm at my very best in the later afternoon (2pmish on), and that's when I start entertaining. While I won't say it's rude at all, with some ladies it's might be unrealistic if they start in the morning. I think some gentlemen assume when I say I'm available from 2pm until, the think I'm booked up earlier. Nope, not at all.

On my upcoming trip to Boston, I'll see one person in the afternoon and one in the evening, tops. Thankfully when I visit Boston, my weekend evenings are already taken.  

As others have said, it's all in the wording, plus I'd like to add, it never hurts to asked when a lady's first meeting of the day is. Hope this helps and gives you some perspective.  

 
Steph XO

I would kindly accommodate you, if it was reasonable. As long as it was early. But I just might roll my eyes in my headand judge you ! Haha!

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