Had my first get together a few weeks ago and I'd love some feedback on whether or not my experience was the norm. I'm pretty sure I was taken advantage of a bit but let me lay it out there. Met a provider highly reviewed, etc etc. Seemed like a fit and we met at her incall. I'm a little older but a little shy/non agressive when it comes to these matters and made it pretty clear that I needed her to take the lead and be the aggresor. We sat, talked, had some wine, etc.  after about 20 minutes (no contact whatsoever) not a hug, not a kiss, etc...so I moved over and kissed her and received an OK response back. Then...right back to chatting....10 minutes later....same thing....feels like I'm back in high school....finally at the 40 minute mark she takes the lead....starts with some BBBJ and it's over. We are now at the 45 minute mark. As I said I'm a little older and on a few meds so I'm not a "quick date" but I've gotta believe she went right for the juggler so to speak.  Date is for an hour so we chat it up another 10 minutes or so and I'm gone.

A few things...I'm a pretty personable average looking guy. I'm not obese, grotesque, rude, etc. I don't enter into this situation lightly and quite frankly it's a pretty big step for me to start hobbying. If this is the norm then quite frankly ...not worth it. I could care less about the money. I'm pretty established and really just want to have an awesome experience. Although the provider was never rude I just felt as though I could spend that $$ at a gentlemens club and get more sensuality then I received. Pretty disappointing.

Any thoughts about expectations, etc, helpful advice is appreciated

I remember my first professional escort.  It was the same girl who turned out to be my all-time ATF until she retired.  I had no clue what to do and she may have been told to NOT be forward, as I was a "first time" client.  We sat and stared at each other for 10 min, idle chit chat for 10 min, then I found the nerve to ask for a BJ which she did the remaining 10 min.

A phrase you just experienced but it will not be the norm at all if you find the right providers

Based on your explanation, you seem like a nice guy who can enjoy the hobby a lot and will be able to make lots of friends.  Taking the lead is a tricky thing.  I'm guessing that the person you met was willing to take the lead but also trying to follow your lead and work into your comfort zone.

I've had some of my best sessions when the provider takes the lead and I go along for the ride, but I think you should be ready to "set the stage" a little bit.  My advice is to do the following:

1) Check the reviews, so you know what's on the menu (but go in with a "least common denominator" expectation - in other words, if something really crazy happened in one review, don't expect it to be the norm).

2) After breaking the ice in the first few minutes of the session, say "what makes a great session for you?"  Sometimes they'll tell you and often times they'll say something like "I like to make my partners happy."  This is your entrée to lay it out.  Try not to be shy, especially if you're in the sweet spot of what she typically does.

Good luck!

Since you're new at this, I'm going to assume you would have had issues making an appointment with anyone who screens. Which means whomever you saw, was not really sure that you weren't LE. That being the case, I'm not surprised at all that she didn't initiate anything. Until you become established enough that you can see the better providers/agencies who screen their clients well, you're going to run into this a lot I suspect. You're going to need to initiate "activities" in order to put her at ease that you're not LE, I'm willing to bet that you made her very uncomfortable by not doing so. I'm sure it wasn't intentional, but you need to realize the reality of this business. If we initiate, and you are LE, then we go directly to jail, do not pass go, do not collect $200... Of course the reality is that if you were LE, we're almost certainly going to jail either way, but we have a better chance of getting the case dismissed if we don't initiate (or agree to) anything.

So to sum it all up, in the future it is definitely in your best interest to make the first move.

xoxo
Nyx

... from my experience, what you experienced for $$ is pretty normal.  Although, being a first timer with no references may have caused her to be a little cautious.  If I'm reading your post right ($$), you may want to upscale your choice next time to a well reviewed lady that is in the $$$ range.

Happy Hobbying and Play Safe.

1. You did good by starting with TER. So there's a +1 in your favor.

2. You wanna check out her reviews and look for things like 'multiple pops, multiple cups of coffee'.  You don't have to have '2 cups', but it does show you that she's more likely to give you play during your entire hour.

3. You wanna look for a girl who has reviews show that she played the entire hour. A girl who allows DATY, for instance, will spend probably a quarter of the hour allowing you to do that.

4. You wanna look for a girl who has reviews that state she started early in the hour, or kissed at the door, and things like that.

5. Skip the wine. With me, the wine/champagne/weed can be enjoyed after 'round 1', during intermission so to speak.

In other words, look at my reviews and try to find a girl like that! Just kidding. But on a serious note, a little bit of extra reading on your part will go a long way.  Yeah, you may have to use agencies and get verified through them at first, totally worth it.  You'll be able to review a few and get used to that as well.

Also, there are TONS of 'good girls' out here who take newbies.  When talking to them, don't ask any questions regarding rates or activities.  Just go by her site and reviews.  I see newbies all the time. They turn into my best long term clients.

Another thing is to look at the Hobbyists Picks on Fridays.  These are girls who rocked someone's world that week.  I'd say it's a good place to start.  

Good luck sweet thang!

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Mmmmm...interesting. Never thought about the LE angle. Just to read things correctly though...assuming the LE angle wasn't there...and assuming I'm in a a reasonable $$$ range I should expect a bit more intensity.? Again..I'm a little older and couldn't hang in for a PSE but would definately like a little more affection than I got at my HS Prom. Thanks to all for your input and I'll try and look for a few more clues in reviews....and Whitney... love the "thang"...reminds me of a southern woman I knew many moons ago. ...and your reviews do intrigue me. Good PR.

If she had thoughts that you could be LE,, then she should never had let you in the room with her.

A few minutes of chat at the start of a session is normal, but what you describe is way over the limit.

I would write a review of what happened and let the chips fall where they may.

See the Newbie Board and find a thread about becoming a member of a screening site like P411 or Datecheck, and then find a gal who will not leave you feeling like you got suckered.

Sorry this happened to you.

Joe - Go see Whitney.  You will NOT regret it.  Very professional...