I posted this essay on the New England board. You might be interested in reading it, Boston  

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewall.asp?MessageID=19269&boardID=50&page=1#19269

Beautifullyl put, Cameo !!

Yep, that's why I find the whole idea of screening dangerous and never give out my personal info, neither to websites (Preffered411, DateCheck, whatever), nor to the new providers. I never invite providers over for outcalls unless "we" have passed the test of time and by then probably are already on real name basis. Of course there is some quality that I end up missing but that's fine.  

I figure, either if I'm taking a chance of seeing somebody I can't screen, she should too, or I see those to whom I'm being referred to by other trusted hobbyists or providers.  

Sure if there is a will to do you harm, there is always a way. But 99.9% won't go into elaborate planning to figure you out and as long as they don't know where you live and you don't bring your wallet along with you to the hotel room, you run little risk for anyone to trace you

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And I'm really glad I did!

Cameo your essay should be on the General Board, probably even All of the regional boards. It should be required reading for Providers and Hobbyists alike.

It's refreshing to see such a well written and sensible approach to the subject of Blacklisting.

Chiguy

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Thankyou very much. I've written from my heart. I hope it will highly benefit people here. Thankyou to the readers who wish to share what I wrote, like yourself. Please do share if you think it will benefit Your local board. Love cameo

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Thank you Lovely lady xoxo

And thank you all for your encouragement. I hope my writing helps people stay safe, happy, and improves their overall experiences in this world of passion xo

A tough message,  well stated.

Smart & sexy! What more could anyone ask for?  

Thanks Cameo....

It may appear as a little snowflake, or a ray of sunshine on your face. But it was sent by me. A little kiss since you're such a wonderful person xoxoxo

I find screening an absolute must for a providers safety and have never had an issue with providing my info to  well know agency or provider. But if you provide it to a backpage ad that you've done no background checks on and you actually know about this board then you are lazy or not thinking clearly. The guy that got blacklisted was unfortunate but probably could have prevented the incident had he done his research. I was blacklisted by a drunken alcoholic New Orleans provider that I never met nor made attempt to meet. It seems my board persona was too strong for her and she was offended. Actually posted in the thread " I smell a blacklist coming" of course she blacklisted my ter handle as we never met and it has not affected my hobbying . A provider I did meet and review called me to let me know I was on the list. Still if there is a cop or thief or someone that hits women or pimp pretending to be a hobbiest than a blacklist is  needed info to share.
As far as stability, I think this business does not lean toward that type of persona as we all are on the edge of the law and personal relationships when we hobby or provide.
I found the answer though when I want companionship I hang with my dogs. When I want gfe I get a lady that's safe and pretty and do her...doggie of course

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Hello my dear beautiful woman,  

i was taken by your brief words on the subject of instability, which drew me to read your great essay on the same subject.

myself , i am a very quiet and sensitive man and i was taken by your fairness and balance on this serious subject.

i just wanted to say thank you and if and when i get back to this hobby i would love to contact you and explore the LOVE connection LOL

peace,  
 J

That's fine if you never had an issue. But each of us accepts their own levels of risk.  

My id too have been blacklisted once by a Boston provider who had never seen me. This provider had very high ratings on TER and charged more then I was willing to pay her. I e-mailed her, and in that e-mail made an offer with the amount I'm paying to other providers who are by the way, rated even higher then her. She responded by saying how dare I even consider bargaining in this business (Huh?). After couple of e-mail exchanges that basically involved calling each other "rude" she informed me that she would blacklist me on one of the "providers only" sites which she did.  

Now, thank God I found this out before actually seeing her. And did I say that I'm talking about highly rated highly reputable Boston provider here? As you noticed I didn't go blacklisting her by name although I guess I had plenty of reasons to. If that's how she reacts to such a minor and rather routine initial interaction with a hobbyist, imagine what she may be capable of if somebody rubs her in the wrong way and she actually knows a bit about him too?  

So sorry man but I beg to differ with you about screening. Sure it's better for providers safety but it's an additional risk for us.  
Websites go down and get hacked or busted all the time, providers get angry with you over this and that and unless I know a provider personally and for a long time too and grew to trust her explicitly, there is no way she's getting any of my personal info, let alone being invited for a visit.

I too agree that the NB is used improperly and should be shut down. However I have to say that if a woman is raped she should report to the proper authorities and not private board's.

You're welcome to add comments On my blog. And if you ever need to access the essay, for any reason, it will either be on the new England board (the only place the essay is posted on TER) or on my blog. I've edited it a little on my blog so that Ter has the original essay on NE board.  

I had a beautiful experience yesterday and today, and felt even more assured that speaking and living in a spirit of love, patience, friendliness, ability to let go, ability to make the most of every encounter we have to be the thing I'll always strive to do. I love being able to trust and assume there is good in everyone, and if you assume the best of people, it's easier to not takes things personal, pause an emotion, consider things logically, and stay in a place of peace and joy. I wrote with I did mainly because I'm entering a mind of fearlessness, transparency, trust and love. After 7 years and 221 reviews, meeting all kinds of people, experiencing both the bad and the good, I wanted to give back something to the people. Advice maybe? Caution, reassurance, a feeling of comfort, excitement, logic...  

I had someone comment on my blog that using the words emotionally unstable could be too strong a word. Let me clarify, there are all kinds of personalities. I don't consider sad people, depressed, or any kind of human emotion to be instability. We are human and we are allowed to feel emotion. But the instability comes when we can't consider the consequences of a spontaneous reaction, when we are not able to pause for a minute and consider the outcome or damage done by our action that we made based on the emotion we felt at the time. I invite all kinds of people, all ages, all personalities, ect. What better way to find healing and love then in the arms of another person.  

Anyway, some will appreciate what I've tried to give here, and some will not. I'm grateful for all the private messages and emails saying it was a positive and appreciated thing to read. I really hope for all of us to just let go of anything that doesn't bring us or other people joy.  

Have a lovely weekend. Thankyou for your thoughts. And the essay is only found on the NE board, or my blog has an edited version, if you want to read in the future. Cameo Knightley

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If any of the hobbyists wish to know who exactly I'm talking about - PM me.

I have added a poll on my blog so you are more then welcome to vote on this article. You will be able to say yes it was helpful or no it wasn't helpful, ect

First of all, I want to say I'm very sorry to hear that you were blacklisted by someone you never saw. Sometimes if there is bad communication between people, they get the wrong opinion about the other person, and if they are emotionally unstable, it can result in very bad results. I can understand your fear. I'm sure you've thought it through what you need in order to feel safe and comfortable with what you do. I dont judge you. I will say though that any girl who does not screen, is very much risking her very beautiful life, body, and soul to the possible effect of destruction. Any girl who cares about her life and safety will not see anyone without screening them. So while you will find plenty of girls who do not screen, you must know that those girls are taking very high risks with their safety. Someone you may grow to really cherish who never screened you, could end up in a very tragic situation one day. While even screening will not prevent some things, it certainly helps alot more then not screening. I really wish you would not give up on the ladies who will be calm and safe to see. Who will not be aggressive with you or act out emotionally. Some of us believe that the right people who are meant for us to meet, will come our way. When we believe in serendipity, we will rarely get angry if someone cancels or changes their mind to meet us. How could we be angry about not seeing someone if we believe in destiny? For every person who chooses not to see me, I know that the right ones will see me. In that, I celebrate fate I dont get angry about it. You had a bad experience, but don't live in fear, and don't promote fear. Don't assume all ladies will burn you. There really are some amazing beautiful fair people out here. I hope you will trust again and give another chance. Best of luck whatever you decide to do. Cameo Knightley