Hi all,

Been lurking here for a little while, and would like to start hobbying, but need a few pointers on how to get started - not into low quality (BP) stuff, but have no references.  How do I get my feet wet without going low quality?  Feel free to PM me.

- J

gents will see very well reviewed very well reviewed ladies in EU and then ask them to give a reference to US girls. But she needs to be reputable and you, obviously need to be a traveler

Serena x

With a verification site such as date check or p411 and trying that to ease your way in. You may have to go the agency route first, however many ladies will see a first timer who is willing to under go a thorough verification.

Happy hobbying!

Cheers,
Grace

many indy ladies will work with you.
once you have a solid local refs under your belt you are for the most part set. you are going to have to give up the goods to someone.

fyi...backpage doesnt always mean low quality.
There are many well reviewee ladies who also are found on BP BP is simply an ad venue. the mistake ppl make with BP is they dont look for outside info such as links to reviews websites and so on.
If you use the same research techniques for BP or any website that you expect here on Ter then theres no reason you would need to avoid BP or any other ad venue.

I wish you luck...

Nicole

and start with the Self Help/Newbie Manual that is linked on that page.

After that, read up on the Newbie Board because your inquiry is the #1 issue that comes up there.

Best wishes and welcome to the hobby.

Many providers are willing to work with you. The key is in the introduction...be agreeable and be forthcoming and honest.

as the internet has picked up in this world...so has the onslaught of "lower end guys"...and trust me, providers WANT to include a good guy in..vs exclude them out... it's changed a lot for us in the last 8 yrs so the walls have gone up a bit more.

Read a lady's website on how to book. Follow protocol. INTRODUCE yourself (avoid the "my name is John. I am 5'8" 190# and want to book an appt. Where u at?" type of approach).
Don't try to play "James Bond"...or across as a timewaster. Be decisive! (give the time/day/date/length of preferred booking...don't want to "just chat".  

Submit to what she needs for screening (yes..that means in most cases..your real name/phone/age and Definately let her know you are new and AGREEABLE to whatever she needs to feel comfortable with you. We get too many argumentative guys who don't want to give their names..or fake names... or not want to give their references etc. That's a crappy approach and raised red flags everywhere. You can also simply ask her to guide you through the process when you tell her that you're new..if it's not clearly defined on her webpage.

Shop and stick with a reputable /reviewed provider with good solid web presence.

once you get through that first hurdle..and if you were a super sweet nice clean fun client..the world truly opens up. Us ladies LOVE  to take care of the good ones! Making a good first impression (we love BFEs! in that first appt is nice)... NEVER get jaded or fall into the "hobbyist entitlement trap"...No lady likes to be approached like the guy is ordering a pizza...

again... we LOVE to take care of the good ones! have fun!

as long as they're willing to provide sufficient information to screen them. Usually this is going to mean first and last name, phone number, home address, and place of employment. Most of us are very discrete in checking your info out, and often you'll never even know we checked up on you.

Well put Melinda, I love giving the "BFE" every time. The friendship is the most important.  The taker's just leave a hole time.