I'm all for the providers screening and I definitely respect their right to be selective in who they see. I have a hard time not being resentful when I provide all the info requested, including some personal and work related details, and communication suddenly stops without explanation.
I know that the providers have the advantage in this scene, but if someone lacks basic courtesy, I don't care how hot she is. A lot of respect gets lost in the process.

When a client submits a reservation immediately it can go one of two ways.
Either they sound great and like someone I'd be compatible with and would love to see (work with, work for whatever lol) -or-
They sound like someone I would not like to see.

In the cases of receiving a reservation from someone I think I would not like to see sometimes its one little nagging thing that stands out to me and throws a red flag.  If it seems very small I will contact them and talk it out just to make sure we're on the same page.  If its a huge red flag sometimes I will not return the communication because  to me, getting into a pissing match or a virtual screaming match with someone who is upset because they've been rejected just isn't a reasonable expectation of us providers.
When I've gone against my instincts because I felt obligated to see someone just because they wanted to see me and insisted on it I've had terrible sessions and that can be devastating to a provider who cares.
Sometimes ignoring the request just seems to cause less tension, whether that is truly right or wrong I do not know.

I keep the reservation form on my website because some guys really like it, it helps me organize my thoughts and its really easy to refer back to in the days or hours just prior to an appointment to design a session (what outfit requests he's asked for, what refreshments or comforts he's indicated that he likes, what he says his sensual temperament is etc.).

But honestly, these days, I am much more comfortable and happy meeting people I truly want to see, not just processing a reservation form or answering a call and taking it all.  I much prefer when a new client sends out a couple of lines via email or calls me on the phone and is like "hey, I'm interested in you, just making sure I have your attention, I'm so-and-so and I like such-and-such and I'd like to see you sometime".  Then when they've heard from me and it sounds fun they'll send their real details via email or form and its on and everything is great.

Getting an appointment fast is imperative for some guys, I know.  But just reaching out to make sure you have a girl's attention before providing your full name, references, employment info or whatever other screening details your potential provider is asking for online is just an extra five minutes to make sure your information isn't floating around in lala land in God knows whose computer, ignored and undeleted.

So going forward maybe just try that if you find that you are repeatedly providing real, personal information with &  being met with a total lack of response- just a simple email, call or text saying "Hey, I'm so-and-so  I'd like to meet you &  I'll provide the information you want if you're available  'X date & time'".

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But unfortunately there is no gentle way for a provider to let a guy know that she doesn't want to see him after receiving his screening info. Any sort of contact with a negative response will often lead to a series of negative back-and-forth emails or phone calls and, for obvious reasons, providers don't want to deal with that sort of thing.

It's best just to move on when contact stops on her end.  Some things really shouldn't need to be spelled out.

I agree Ally, and I had only submitted my info after a series of 7 or so private messages where it seemed to me that we had reached as much a level of comfort as possible by that means.. It wasn't just a matter of providing the info then resenting the lack of responses.  I am going to let it go; just had to voice my point of view. Respect is due amongst all parties involved in this process.

We can be a flaky lot.
LOL
Yes, some of us should work on being more respectful and attentive in communication.

Kisses,
Ally


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In my experience what's usually happening is that the provider/agency is waiting for your references to respond. Sometimes references may take several days to respond, or may never respond at all. If your reference is a provider who doesn't screen, then they almost certainly won't respond to a reference request. In fact they probably haven't even got a clue who you are even if they were so inclined. Personally, if I haven't heard back from a reference within three business days, I'll generally contact the potential client to update them on the status of their screening, and see if they have any other references. But there are times when it's busy, and you may have gotten "lost" while waiting for a response from a reference which never replied.

Or you may have failed some aspect of the screening, and the provider/agency simply chose to ignore you instead of letting you know. Certainly not very polite, but sometimes it is the best course of action depending on the nature of why you failed to pass screening.

But references never responding is probably the number one reason in my opinion.

just a work number. that leads to hmm, a answering machine with you on it. Since you are in charge there or whatev, I stopped correspondin cuz i just wasnt assured your not l.e.
I have an away response that i mention incomplete reservation forms will not get a response at all. I did think yes you seen friendly and yes i did look into that "work number" but hun its you on the machine. Since your the head of that dept you say. That number fyi also doesnt even come up as a business, when u google it, Look at it from a ladies view. how re assuring is it to give just a work number with your voice on machine?
                          jim mack, the 60 year old who never seen a single hooker, now that he has no references not one that is slightest re assuriance, he is gonna bitch i wont correspoond, wtf dude.

Such as backpage. Write some reviews and get know on TER.

Jimmack has been on ter since 2002.  If he doesnt know ter by now he will never know it.  So one has to assume he doesnt write reviews.  But I would also assume that he has had to seen a few providers over the last 11 years.  Just because someone doesnt write reviews, does not mean they are new.

I have seen a few providers, but I don't hobby often and I've only seen providers that have been very well reviewed, so my 2 cents wouldn't add much. I've seen a couple several years ago, and one provided me with a reference for a well know masseuse, also several years ago. I've been to some AMPs more often and more recent, but I know they don't count.
So, I could see many providers, submit frequent reviews, have references and be well known on TER.
Or, I could be extremely selective, only see those providers that I'm more attracted to than others, and stay safe but unknown to most. Obviously, I chose the latter and it just suits me, but equally obvious, works against me too. Still, I'd rather go with what I'm comfortable with, as providers will do as well. Respect all around.

Anyway, my original post was expresssing my frustration at communication suddenly ending, not so much an appointment not being given. I was just like "What happened?" Wondering if we were going to meet or what.  Was my information going to be followed up upon?
Regardless, I'm done with it. Back to the shadows. No offense to anyone.

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this work number with him on the machine, sooo, at some point, I stopped the endless dialogue  with his inability to produce any provider references. which i require, I am ok with digging to get them myself via thru the mans reviews if he doesnt fill my form out, but he a. has no reviews for which i can do that and b, told me he is new to it n has no references, so needless to say at some poiunt i decided to respond to other pms n emails from gents with info i need. mmmuah jimmack u big bull shittah u.