Weight fluctuations happen (especially with covid), professional photo shoots are expensive, and it doesn't make logical sense to do a new photo shoot due to a small weight fluctuation (like less than 10 lbs).
However if someone has gained say 30 or more lbs since the Photoshoot, it's a bait n switch and that's not ok, time to update the photos.
I’m with hammer on this. The girl in question had an athletic but proportionate shape, and was a pleasure to meet and spend time with. There is no reason for any guy who has to rely on the hobby for female companionship to body shame any woman under any circumstances. If you think you’ve been deceived, then either keep your mouth shut and post a review or just walk away.
Being back from hiatus, I received a review recently and was taken back in general. (Even messaged him after following up with how great of a time I had and that I would meet with him again with a special repeat friend rate because that is how I handle my business, with APPRECIATION that we met)
My photoshoot was with the Evita and Tim team and I have the entire portfolio, not to mention that I had to be VERIFIED on certain advertising sites, so yes they are me! I was taken back because my imagery was questioned and since, I've had a few messages asking for unblurred photos. This is a privacy concern as I do carry a "real life" career and only hobby here and there, I tend to stick with my referral base. Attacking a woman's body is body shaming, no matter how it is pitched. Everyone knows that a photo shoot also comes with retouched and smoothed out photos for use, otherwise we would all do a DIY shoot with a selfie rings light. Lastly, this is a hobby, aka FOR FUN. Those that make negative comments towards women or have a hidden agenda towards us is not a win in our book, does body shaming make you feel better about yourself?
I truly enjoy taking time to get to know someone, whether it's through email or in person before diving into the meeting but it leaves a bad taste overall when you think the encounter was genuine and fun and then a review comes through with body shaming commentary; if anything my home gym in my home has kept me athletic and firm throughout the years and kept my mind in check during Covid lockdown.
Lastly, as a hobbyist you truly do not like what you see when the door opens, it's your option to leave, just as it is our prerogative to decline a meeting due to safety, hygiene, aggressiveness, etc. We all have a say in this. This is an escape to live our fantasies freely and in a judgement free zone, to check out of reality and into a time of fun and a persona...while most of us are here to connect with hobbyists from a hospitable and genuine manner, we would want the same respect in return. Let's be honest, do all hobbyists hit the gym 5-6 days out of the week and get on a Peloton for an hour spin class? Would the ones that have some sort of vendetta against women like to be reviewed?
I haven't met any female provider in real life (yes we get together for lunch or dinner) that would not understand if a hobbyist reached out and said "Hey I didn't have the best time, would you be open to meeting again and making it right?" We also all have our off days where something is going on in our personal life and we may not be on our game 100000%, have some empathy.
Leave the negativity and body shaming at home, you're missing the point of these encounters and the hobby overall.
