.... not unless this was her response.

I appreciate just this question alone, because a surprisingly large number of men use quite crass language during sessions without giving it a further thought. As somebody who was brought up with strict manners and in a household that didn't allow swearing (and yes "damn" and "hell" were considered foul language, too), I am not a fan of obscene and pornographic language. Dirty talk just isn't my thing -- although I respect if it is yours and will listen without saying anything negative, of course!

However, I think you were totally appropriate in your challenge to the provider if you phrased it in a way that wasn't offensive. I think that is really what it comes down to here: the wording of the request. If you offered the option to the provider much in the same way you phrased it here, it is totally appropriate and within bounds -- especially since it was a 3 hour date!! If she didn't want to, she could always just say no -- but you would have had to be okay with that answer.

Now, if you asked her if she would be up for this opportunity, knowing hell would freeze over before you climaxed again and that was zero possibility of this happening, the challenge seems a bit mean. But if it was in the spirit of how you describe it in your post, I think it is completely acceptable and something I would have jumped at had I been in the session with you!

Plus it's sweet and thoughtful that you are even asking this question! Long story short, you sound like a dream client, and I think you're all good here.