As a provider I love connecting with men who I can share amazing passion and stimulating conversation. This is the best situation a girl can ask for and I am wondering for you guys, how much does connecting personally with a provider mean to you?

For me, it's really important.  I am not a frequent hoppiest but I've had both good and bad encounters.  The bad ones were all with someone who just seemed to be living in some alternate universe.  I'm older and one very well reviewed provider I saw was a mid-20's "wild child".  We really had almost nothing at all in common and conversation was almost impossible.  Funny story, she wanted a coffee and so we walked down the block to a DD, off the clock.  There we were, me, older, and her in tight somewhat revealing clothes waiting in line behind moms and kids, hopefully they thought she was my daughter.  Things just didn't work out well at all in the more intimate aspects, and I think she would agree.  ON the other hand, I have an ATF who I've seen many times and it's like getting together with a girlfriend from the past who still enjoys the occassional roll in the hay just for yucks.  I find myself thinking about trying a little variety but I'm really nervous about another mis-connection.  Any advice on how to avoid that?

Yes! I think emailing the provider beforehand detailing your interests and a short description of yourself is very helpful. I receive so many emails with requests using acronyms, that when I get a message that is friendly, personable, and creative, I almost always make an appointment. Also asking for referrals from providers you like can connect you with similarly minded women. I hope this is helpful

Yes! I think emailing the provider beforehand detailing your interests and a short description of yourself is very helpful. I receive so many emails with requests using acronyms, that when I get a message that is friendly, personable, and creative, I almost always make an appointment. Also asking for referrals from providers you like can connect you with similarly minded women. I hope this is helpful!

I don't mind connecting with a provider and emailing here or there, just flirty email, but don't want to get to personally connect.

For some, it's having some common interests; for others it might mean an emotional involvement.

I find both to be helpful in enjoying my time with a provider; though obviously the emotional part has to be watched carefully lest barriers be breached.

There is also the element of chemistry that provides an attraction that otherwise would probably not be there.

This subject is really more complicated than rocket science.  There are just too many variables to keep track of.

For me, it is essential. Although I don't see providers that often, I have to feel a connection to even think of repeating. On my most recent encounter, the sex was incredible, which was expected, but we then spent 90 minutes just talking about everything. I know we each shared some personal information with each other, and it made it a truely incredible time. I will repeat with her until the day, if any, that I don't feel that way.

Although, I certainly do not feel the connection before the date.

I don't have VIP.  Please let me know who you are and how to get in touch.

I was always under the impression providers didn't like talking about anything intimate with someone new to them? Seems like it could be a set up with a LEO? After meeting a lady then sure it is safe to chat freely if she doesn't mind but I don't want to become email pen pals. Imagine if every guy she met did that, oh my.....

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