It's your loss. Only lazy, or imbecilic providers allow any jackass with cash to walk  into their room. Busts happen all too frequently. Give the lady a round of kudos for having a brain, and putting her safety above a few Benjamins. You win this week's jackass award!

Do I see a problem?

NO, I don't see a problem, it appears to be pretty straight-forward.  Why should she see you if she is not comfortable about the meeting?

Given you haven't even used your real screen name... in any case, there's no point getting upset about the screening process. If it doesn't work for you, don't do it, if it doesn't work for her, she shouldn't do it, either. I personally don't blame the women for their procedures and I don't blame guys who don't want to go through it, either. There are plenty of women out there who will take your money for an hour with your references, nobody should take the process personally.

First of all you don't have the natz to use your screen name to whine about something that has been brought up more often than tax relief (from both sides of the coin).

It is the lady's PERROGATIVE to use whatever screening process she so desires and makes her feel comfortable. If she has strict rules and you don't like them then simply move on! Do you whine at the bartender when he has announced last call and then removes your drink because you didn't think he meant what he said?

Many guys don't feel comfortable about giving out their personal information - which is their choice - and there are any number of ladies that they won't get to spend time with.

My personal feelings are if a lady doesn't verify, or does a really skimpy job of it then I get very nervous and will probably not make an appointment to meet her. Those are the gals that will undoubtedly get busted at some point and i don't want to be in the room when the door gets broken down or questioned as I'm walking down the hallway. It's a two way street and I'm personally a LOT happier spending time with a lady that does a real verification before she agrees to meet.

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I think there a compromise....somewhat.  Can you not use a site to verify your information ONCE and then have providers use that service?  I don't know the ins and outs of the process, I've just seen it talked about a couple of times.  If it works like I think it might work then you only need to give out your info ONCE, not to each and every provider.  TER whitelist....can you use something like that?

But as other people have said, it's her decision, it's her security and safety so just accept her requirements and move on.