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Can anyone recommend a nonjudgmental psychologist?
ghidorah 11 Reviews 853 reads
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Can anyone recommend a nonjudgmental psychologist? I'm in the metro west area and prefer a male psychologist. I'm seeing a psychologist now but I have not told him about my hobby, because I get the distinct impression that he simply would not approve and just discourage it rather than listen to me. I did tell him about my desire to have an affair with a coworker, and he gently but consistently discouraged me from that.  

I like my current therapist. There's been plenty to talk about besides my hobby. But lately some aspects of my hobby have been on my mind as well.

I did more or less tell my urologist about my hobby, so he could give me better care, and I was quite impressed that he didn't blink twice about it

Pay me $100 an hour and ill approve of or not judge anything you do. Wanna fuck your co worker? go ahead.  wanna hobby every day skip the car and mortgage payments? Great idea ,

This is a fuck board try web m.d.  

From your initial question though it is my professional opinion as your therapist that you are seriously impulsive and lacking in common sense and if you don't mind a third opinion, looking for love in all the wrong places.

Apparently this guy is seeking to talk about issues concerning the hobby and sex. If a hobby discussion board isn't appropriate then I dont know what is.  He wants to go somewhere he can feel comfortable talking about these issues.  I am sure there are other hobbyist out there that can reach out to him with advise.  Maybe I am blind but I see nothing in his initial post that shows inpulsivity, a lack of common sense, or anything about looking for love.  Sometimes you have to look further into someones mind and do so with an OPEN one.  He could have thrown out the "I want to have an affair with a coworker" as a way to test the water with his therapist.  Whatever the case may be I hope he gets the information he seeks here instead of being ridiculed.
crysta

The Erotic Highway Board, but if you go over there and look up the contact for the professional association she is a member of, they could guide you to a therapist who is non-judgmental about sexual matters.

The key to a good therapist is not to have one who judges you, but who allows you to develop your own judgments about yourself and then empowers you to act on those judgments.

Best wishes in finding one.

Not sure an escort board is the best place to seek advice for a therapist
unless she is CIM.

There is some therapy sir!

If you like the one you see now, I would recommend opening the hobby door with him first, for a couple reasons.

You like him.  You have already developed a level of trust with him that it may take time to establish with another therapist.

You mentioned his reaction to an affair with a coworker.  Anyone will tell you that's a bad idea, not just your therapist.  Personal (and personnel) issues if it goes bad, The fact that it is an affair, not a transaction between consenting adults brings so many risks into play.  Her family, your family, both your jobs.  Not surprising at all he would try to steer you away from that idea. He's trying to help you make healthy life choices.
Don't let that discourage you from opening up to him about other things, like the hobby.  He may shock you and say "that's better than having an affair"  
By definition a therapist should be non-judgmental. If  it turns out that he gets all preachy on you about seeing escorts, THEN I would start looking.  I would recommend someone I have seen in Lexington, but it's a female.

You have nothing to lose by letting him in.  That's why he is there.  Not to tell you what to do, but to help you tell yourself what to do.

Best of luck Ghidorah

CW

edited because it didn't post right away.  ???

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Thanks for all the responses everyone. I'm considering everyone's advice, and I also got a PM from a hobbyist who's a therapist.  

Take care,

Ghidora

snaporaz532 reads

lists psychotherapist that besides regular therapy are also specialized in sexual matters. They will (hopefully) be much more likely to understand sexual human behavior and all its angles and corners and not be shaming in their treatment.

But I agree with other posters. I would first bring it up with your current therapist. It may surprise you; and if it turns out that he/she responds to it as he/she should, then you are in a much better position since you have already built trust and a relationship

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