I origonally posted this on the other board as a response to a good member of the community leaving, but felt it just as fitting to be posted on this board in hopes we too can clean up some of the neagtive stuff going on.
    I have a specialized field of interest or expertise, which puts me at an advantage talking to you today. I'm an educated nympho. My work is simply human nature. Some people on these boards do not have a real life. When I am off these boards and not on the computer real life is all I know. Some people confuse the two, your life and your work that is. The second is only part of the first!
    Most of you men I have met work too much and play too little. The conquest to be something that you aren¡¦t often overcomes what you in life you are truly destined to be. Slow down and enjoy life. Lighten up and lighten your load.  After all not one man or women I know on their death bed¡¦s last dying words were I wish I would have spent more time at the office.¡¨
    Healthy competition is good for the soul, but unhealthy obsession can ruin it. Some people feel if they are number one on a review or number one in their class or number one in Money Week Magazines Richest people then they are successful. Remember this, "If you win the rat race, you're still a rat." Guage your success on the intrinsic benefits not just the monetary ones. Status is something that should not symbolize who you are or what you are worth rather ¡§status¡¨ should be something you gain from the good works of your actions.
    John Lennon wrote "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans." Plans are great, but the ones that hold the most value should be plans you make that increase your self worth NOT net worth.  Business plans, Marketing plans, architectural plans, and so forth do not keep you company on a lonely day or warm on a chilly night. Take time for you. Take time to share some positivity. These boards have become so negative a lot of good people are leaving. Most recently whosyourdaddy announced he was tired of the negativity. It is sad to see that men who try to contribute to the common good of this board are throwing down the chips. I ask all that have given up on this board to please rethink your stances. Together we who are positive can and will rise above this negative stuff. The topics that have started feuds are such a variety that it is hard to know what to post without causing great disdain in the life of one or more.
    It has been said that certain hobbiests feel that they are better than the next guy if they are worth more or can afford to see more ladies. We should not label men who can afford to see more women as hounds or cliques. They are entitled to spend what they want. In the same token I ask you gentleman in question, who likely busted your tail to get where you are to realize the only way a man differentiates himself from the next is the content of your character. If that content is such that you treat everybody fair, with respect and dignity, you shall receive the positive recognition you deserve in the eyes of this underground posting community.
    After reading this it is my hope that you will log out of here today with only one thing that no one has seemed to have lately ¡§ Spirit. ¡§ Like any group, fraternity, sorority, club or team to make it, to really maximize the potential of this invaluable tool we must show our camaraderie and spirit. I see this board slowly deteriorate. Then we get our act together and learn to play fair for a bit and then we go down hill yet again. It is like our community has this unfortunate bipolar characteristic about it.. LOL¡Kup down up down. This community now may be only a small part of my life (contrary to popular belief) but I am a firm believer in putting my all into whatever I commit myself to. When I signed on to this board I vowed to uphold the high quality standards you men seek in a provider¡KI committed myself to no less than contributing my best to this profession and this community. If that means I have to get on here and play mediator, comic relief artist, novelist, therapist (sexual that is) ƒº I am up for the job. Right now this is my job and I for one take it very seriously. This community is supposed to be fun and relaxing, destressing and exhilarating. I sometimes wonder how anyone can take from their individual experiences anything of the sort when there is so much board battling going on.
    I am not God nor am I President, CEO, CFO, or even your HMO so who the hell am I to tell you to lighten up? I am Stacey. Your friend, penis connisuer, comedian, board politician, poet, provider and optimist that is who. I cannot tell you whagt to do though. You will be the only person alive who has sole custody of your life. Your particular life. Your entire life. Not just your life at a desk, or your life on a bus, or in a car, or at the computer. Not just the life of your mind, but the life of your heart. Not just your bank account, but your soul.
People don't talk about the soul very much anymore. It's so much easier to write a resume than to craft a spirit. But a resume is a cold comfort on a winter night, or when you're sad, or broke, or lonely, or when you've gotten back the doctor's test results and your dying from Cancer. Life is too short. I know I learned that last year. As a community we should contribute, listen, learn. Laugh, lighten up and lift up each other.
Be a good board friend. I am a good friend to my friends.Without them, there would be nothing to say to you today, because I would merely be a cardboard provider cutout. I would not surive in this career. Without mutual respect none of us win. I have worked hard to maintain the business relations of former clientele as well as foster the growth of good foundations for new and upcoming clientele. I have given the best of me to this community. I have shared and radiated all the positivity and light I can to brighten an otherwise sometimes bleak board. I will NOT quit. I will not give up and I ask all that have or are considering giving up to not let the negative get you down. Rise above and conquer. This community should be a small part of your life, but even with small things they deserve attention and nurturing in order to keep them healthy.

When you commit yourselves be like me give your best and no one will ever be able to tear us down here. I would be rotten, or mediocre at best, at my job, if those other things were not true. You cannot be really first rate at your work if your work is all you are. I am who I am because I believed in myself. No one else did. Just like I believe in you members.
    So for all you sexxy men in professional careers I will speak your language. The bottom line is: We all need to increase the output of positivity and decrease the flow of negativity. Tell the negative to get a life. A real life, not a manic pursuit of the next self-promotion, the next public riot, the inflated ego, the delusion that this board is their life. Get a life in which you notice the smell of salt water pushing itself on a breeze over Seaside Heights, a life in which you stop and watch how a red-tailed hawk circles over the water or the way a baby scowls with concentration when she tries to pick up a Cheerio with her thumb and first finger. Get a life in which you are not alone. Loneliness is horrible if you let it be. I know.
Find people you love, and who love you. And remember that love is not leisure, it is work.
Pick up the phone. Send an e-mail. Write a letter. Get a life in which you are generous. And realize that life is the best thing ever, and that you have no business taking it for granted. Care so deeply about its goodness that you want to spread it around. Take money you would have spent on beers and give it to charity. Work in a soup kitchen. Be a big brother or sister.
All of you want to do well. But if you do not do good too, then doing well will never be enough.
It's so easy to waste our lives, our days, our hours, our minutes.
It's so easy to take for granted the color of the changing leaves on peak season,
the way the melody in a symphony rises and falls and disappears and rises again.
It is so easy to exist instead of to live. I say to you people LIVE. Existing is no way to live.
Learn to love the journey, not the destination. I learned that life is not a dress rehearsal, and that today is the only guarantee you get. I learned to look at all the good in the world and try to give some of it back because I believed in it, completely and utterly. And I tried to do that, in part, by telling others what I had learned.
By telling them this:
Consider the lilies of the field. Look at the fuzz on a baby's ear.
Read in the backyard with the sun on your face. Learn to be happy.
And think of life as a terminal illness, because if you do, you will live it with joy and passion
as it ought to be lived. Just as life is what you make of it so is this community. With warmest regard to all of you,
Stacey Hott ( The philosopher )

Thanks for your thoughts for they are right on. I don't have tons of money, but i do take care of many others before personal pleasures. Thanks to the close friends here I have found some great lovers and experiences. I look forward to each provider as my lover and things have been always great. Live life large for we only go round once.

oops, hit the enter button by mistake.  One thing we can count on from you, Stacey, is that you don't hold back. Let it flow. You always do. And you're right, the negativity in this town SUCKS, and it stinks and it sucks, as Mr Pitino would say. But cheer up everyone, summer is coming, the war is over, and the economy is going to get better.

excellent post and great sentiments!!  Life IS what you make it.