I returned home from it about 30 minutes ago.  I've seen this provider a few times before too so I have no clue clue what happened this time.

She texted me earlier in the week telling me how she hadn't seen me in a while (just before Christmas).  Her and I arranged a date for tonight which as usual was very easy setting up. Nothing wrong so far.
I called her up to let her know I was on my way and asked if she wanted to pick up anything (she has in the past).  When I get to her place she tells me to come on up.  This had never happened before usually she meets me at the door.  I get inside and head to her apartment.  She meets me at THAT door with a nice hug but immediately asks for donation and counts it right there.  That hadn't happened before, not even our first date.

We chat a bit and then she asks for one of my massages.  No problem....until I get to her lower back.  She told me to be careful as she has been to her doctor for back problems.  I finish an abbreviated massage and she gives me a lackluster HJ and then slips on the cover, asking for doggy.  This is her least favorite position so now I start to wonder WTF.  She keeps stopping, a couple times saying it hurts (not as in "oooooooh hurt me baby lol). Finally I stop and ask if she wants to switch.  She tells me no, she can only do doggy because of her back.  She can't do mish, CG or RCG and BJ from certain angles.

I very politely mention that she could have mentioned her back BEFORE I confirmed our date.   She then got ape-shit crazy and told me I lost MY mind for "getting an attitude in her place..." WTF?!

I'm curious, was I wrong to show some concern for her and say that to her?

Needless to say NOTHING else happened between us...junior decided to pack it in for the night after her tantrum.

I guess the lesson learned from earlier this evening is " maybe I shouldn't give two shits about a provider's well being anymore...."

Don't get me wrong all our other dates have been fine but her back issues must be doing a number to her.

Thanks for listening.

D.

Not surprised. Has happened to me a few times in the 35 years of doing this. If they text you like that...it's because they need the $$, if she didn't, you wouldn't hear from her. If she has another regular who pays more, you'd be bumped or cancelled at the last minute. You weren't wrong to mention the back or show concern. Spend your $$ elsewhere. Plenty of nice ladies out there.

But how does "I very politely mention that she could have mentioned her back BEFORE I confirmed our date." indicate concern for her as opposed to concern that you're not having a very good time or getting your money's worth?

Sometimes it is not what you say....but how you say it.  But then again, in my experience, if they are reaching out to you.....it is definitely about them....as when we reach out....it is about us!!!
Lesson learned....

The best way to explain a "sub par" performance. IMO

She should have never texted you for a date knowing she
could not perform as she did in the past without telling you.  

Sorry for your experience

I fully understand what you're saying.  If she told me I could have asked if her back issues would limit her in any way or I could have declined to come over due her resting up. Getting better and feeling better the next time.

As far as reviewing again, I don't think it's been  the mandatory three months yet lol

Thanks

D.

you were more concerned with having a shitty date than her true well-being

She is freaking out about her ability to support herself with this back problem.

She contacted you in a vain and disastrous attempt to prove to herself that she can still do it, which obviously she can not.  Your comment/question was the spark that ignited her fuel load of worry and self-worth doubts.

Until her back heals and she learns how to deal with it, she should not be providing, and others should be told.  

The 90 day policy is only for reviewing a session, not for re-reviewing

I would have waited more than 30 min before posting bad news.  I've had problems in the past and usually things get fixed, especially if an agency is involved.  

At this point you are on each others DNS list.  Let us know who it is so we can avoid.  She may respond with her side of the story.  Sorry to hear...if what you say is true.  Can't really judge based on one side of the story.

sounds like she may have just been cash strapped and needed you in and out. Yikes! You're right about the fact that she should have mentioned those injuries.

Hey Dem,  

   With ALLl of the "out of the usual" behaviour, of that session, I would venture  
 to guess, there was something else going on in her personal life~ and maybe something she couldn't disclose.  
it could have been ANYBODY on that date; and probably would've been the same result.  
 Catching you off guard is understandable ~ as well as her discomfort.  

Maybe talk about it with her next time, or email her about what you just vented?

 Ok, my $0.02 for the day~  

Enjoy!!  
S💋

You paid for what you have come to exlect from her...not an all out pamper session for her.
She didnt live up to what you have come to expect

Write a review.
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I agree with Sig. Fisher.  

I remember how Deanna Santana's service began deteriorating after she started to have back problems. First she'd avoid going CG, then she'd get a guy in under assumption of having sex but try to limit the session to blow jobs. Naturally if you're hurting you won't be in good spirits and you will try to avoid tasks that cause you pain. People usually would not make a big deal out of it, in fact be generally sympathetic since she was always known for trying hard to please and was generally liked despite of sometimes causing significant raucous on other sex forums.

Eventually she just had to retire. Some say it was because of the insistence of her new boy-freind but I think it was primarily due to physical pain.  

It's fascinating. You'd think that our primarily sedentary lives, whether at work or behind the wheel would cause back pain, while having too much sex would to the contrary be physical activity that strengthen your lower back but no. Those constant thrusts during sex could really do a number on your back, kind of like spending too much time on a golf driving range could tore your meniscus (my experience).

END OF MESSAGE

is difficult because of the physical, mental, and emotional roller coaster you have to learn to master in order to achieve greatness in this profession, lol. Sometimes ladies do not stretch enough or sit in the hot bath enough. I have come to the conclusion everybody is different, but one thing is true....if you do not have complete balance within yourself on all fronts weird aliments will arise. Stress can do a number on a woman, but this job has though me to be faster, stronger, and sexier than the rest by completing my running daily, baths & showers, stretches, yoga, meditational while eating properly. To be totally honest I have actually recently lost 65 pounds and feel great.

Moral of my story is, IMHO the trusts from numerous men's Love Sticks should not hurt a woman's back if she is on top of her game and the pussy is so tight from kugels and exercising. The body is a temple and should be treated as such, in turn,  creating such a lovely site the client will bust his nut by accident on his own accord without destroying my little lovely million dollar baby! Sink or swim ladies', sink or swim,. I will be doing the breaststroke, backstroke, the butterfly, and thread water while I await for my next date. Be well ladies, don't let the WhoreMongers true nastiness destroy your soul, because that is also a possibly if the Mongers do not realize it takes a true gentleman to actually know how to have fun and enjoy the companionship of a woman without plowing her to kingdom CUM! LMAO I love Boston!
~Euphoria

I would have told him about the limitations before the date, shared that I'm horny as hell despite it and that he would maybe need to position himself a little differently so that we can have creative sex while I heal. She missed an opportunity to make it fun. But I'm always thinking about non-highlighted factors that could cause this lady not to tell him sooner. Maybe she's given him some time off the clock before? I'm also sensing that maybe she was burned by someone she really trusted and decided she's going to count up front with everyone after that.  

In conclusion, I think she was wrong not to tell him in advance and I believe her feelings were already hurt by someone she saw recently before him. Heck...her back may be injured due to a man that shorted her, robbed her or who knows what else.  

There's more to this story for sure!

Ok now here is where I say he was wrong. He was insensitive. He's saying he meant to show concern for her not being healed, but it came out like it was all about him. Probably a bad choice of words if it were the case. However, he's going to write a review now and I believe he said he already submitted it. That leads me to feel he was "more concerned about a shitty date than her well being" as you said.  

I'm the type of lady that does everything in my power to see my escort lifestyle as a friendship with a hush agreement attached. I don't feel either of us owe the other something, we are both equal and will embrace the fun that is had. The business part of me says she's the bad guy hands down because, but I can't ignore my own view of the client-escort friendship here. Which is why I say they both were wrong.

Ouch.

I felt sorry for you every sentence I read. But NOT because of your terrible experience.  

Jesus Christ.

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Now that I know who it is I'll chime in...it looks like she was on a downward spiral since three our four mongers before me. My review was in June. It took quite a while to get the review in because she was not posting her name and had changed her #. As soon as she slipped up and posted older pics with the new # I caught it (received two days of vip) and I wrote my review...read it. She knows what she is doing...I do not believe that she is actually in pain but she wanted your $$$ asap. She has changed her # at least two times since then and I was the beneficiary.

I second that emotion.

I totally get that she was in discomfort and couldn't offer the same level of service as she had provided in the past.  That's unfortunate, but why should you be the one to suffer for it?  As a regular client, you deserved to be told about her limitations ahead of time.

If you showed up, went ahead with the date, and at the end handed her one less Benjamin than usual . . . do you think she'd be pissed at you?  Could you say to her, "Sorry, my paycheck was short this week, so I couldn't afford the usual donation"?  Of course not.

Your gal is providing a service to you.  If she can't provide that service along the lines of previous dates, she should let you know in advance, to give you the opportunity to take a pass until she feels better.

Do you know why she didn't do that?  Because she didn't want you to back out.  And so she deliberately under-performed and yet charged you the usual rate.

I would review her to let others know.  I've seen ladies who have slightly bad days - shit happens to everyone, right? - and if they're still providing services in the ballpark of what I went to see them for, well, I won't write a negative review.  But I've also seen ladies who were having really bad days, and who should have called me to put off the date until they were feeling better.  I don't want to spend the time and money to visit a provider who has got the flu; is in the midst of a visit from her Aunt Flo; or who is in a truly foul and short-tempered mood.  I might feel bad that she's not feeling like herself, but why should I drive a half-hour or more and donate the full rate for a lady who is offering me only half of her typical services (which includes, or should include, a nice attitude)?

I'm a big believer in the "fool me once" school of thought:  I understand the desire to keep working even when you're not feeling well.  But the first time a provider who's a regular of mine offers me subpar services because she's feeling under the weather is also the last time I'm going to see her.  Fool me once, shame on you.  Fool me twice, shame on me.

BostonB