Many providers have boyfriends. I admit not understanding the reason. Why not have a female friend that is either in the business or know her friend is in the business and is ok with that? Fortunate for me, lately I am meeting nothing but providers that understand that a boyfriend and this business don't mix well, they are working exclusively for realization of their dreams.
Hello folks,
Here is my experience with Raynah that I wanna share. Now I understand that this whole NCNS thing with her is nothing new, but nonetheless I wanna tell my story. Overall I had three attempts to meet her, will go one by one.
First one. My birthday was coming up and I've been debating for long whom should I see for my birthday. I kept eying Raynah as she is one of the top providers in Boston. Now, I've read threads about her NCNS, etc.. so I was on guard that she might pull off something like that. Nevertheless I decided to trust her. At first I have to say that it was difficult to keep in touch with her as she wouldn't respond for periods of time, and when she did she wouldn't be clear in her messages (all communication was by texts). Last day before my BD, I finally agreed with her to meet at a hotel in Waltham, not far from me. It was for 8 pm. I even agreed to refund her for half of room cost. Our last exchange was the night before. When the next day came (my BD), around 6 o'clock I texted her, no response. Texted her again and again, nothing. She vanished. Very disappointing. My birthday came and went. Next morning she sincerely apologized saying that she dipped her phone in the water before she left so she couldn't text me and therefore meet me. She promised to make it up and gave me discount. Ok, I believed her, scheduled another date with her 3 days later.
Second time. Again, agreed to meet at the same location, same time in the evening. The day of our date, I texted her around 5 pm to confirm our meeting. She said yes, only it'll have to be little later. So I texted back asked what time, etc. No response. Nothing. She vanished again for the night. At this point I was beyond frustrated. Next morning she said her best friend got in an accident so she was in ER the whole night and couldnt text back cuz no service, etc. Good excuse, except she could've texted me before she got to ER, even she admitted it. I was very reluctant to give her another chance at that point, just thought of giving up on her. She convinced me to give her another go. I did.
Third time. I almost met her. Scheduled yet another date with her for 3 days later. This time I told her that's her last chance. Seems like she understood it and responded almost immediately to all my texts. Now, we agreed to meet for "5ish" pm. Later in the day she said 6ish to avoid traffic. Ok no problem. Now read carefully, at 6:30 she texted, then called saying she's passing Brockton, asking me for address for hotel. So I gave it to her, she said she'll be there by 7:15, already little late, but no problem since she informed me. I head down there. At 7:10 she says she'll be there 7:45 the latest. I said no worries, I wait. At 8:10 she says she's 19 miles away! Around 9 she called saying she's here but has to go to the bank. I was like ugghhh. At 9:20 she finally arrived, but a minute later her driver or a guard called saying "Raynah can't do it tonite, there is suspicious activity around hotel, cops, etc". I was like WTF!?? I was there for 2 hours and there wasn't a single cop car there! Absolutely nothing went on there. Moreover, it was middle of the week so there weren't many people in that hotel. I asked if she can switch hotel for that reason, but no response. 2 hour wait for nothing. Now, I completely understand if she felt unsafe, it happens but after that she stopped responding to me completely. Did she think I was some undercover guy? Seriously!? That's after giving her 2 reliable references and having posted 10 reviews here on TER. Whatever, now I'm done with her forever.
Basically I trusted her over and over again, gave her benefit of the doubt for as long as I could. I thought I couldn't have been nicer to her. Yet she showed herself in a bad way.
What have I learned? Let's talk about the pure FACTS. First, Raynah proved to be VERY unreliable. 2 NCNS's, then 3 hours late! In the first case, she apparently dipped her phone in the water, and I forgot to mention that she said she lost her phone a week prior to that when we talked. I can see why she couldn't contact me. But that's being negligent, losing your phone and then basically losing it again next week!? I've had phone for over 10 years and never lost it, never dipped it anywhere. Negligence. Period.
Second case when she could've texted me before she got to ER to visit her friend. No excuse. She even said "I wasn't thinking at the time". That's being careless, knowing that she already did NCNS, should've contacted me. Carelessness. Indefensible.
Third case was the best by far comparing to NCNS. However, why say that you'll be there at 7:15, when you arrive 2 hours later!? Is it that hard to make prediction. And that was supposedly "6ish o'clock date". Also, why it took her 2.5 hours to get from Brockton to Waltham with no traffic (30 miles!) is a mystery to me, something I'll never figure out.
Now, I don't doubt that she a great provider when ppl meet her, she has 9 rating reviews and that's excellent - no question. However, if she schedules a date then NCNS or late (even if unintentionally), will a guy care about her 9.0 score? Most likely not, for him it would be more important that she shows up. No doubt. So her punctuality gets in the way and that's a big factor. I'm not even talking about cancelling appointment - that's a whole different story. To let someone know you can't make it is totally fine.
Now knowing that she is A) Irresponsible, B) Negligent, C) Careless... judge for yourself, if you wanna see her. Seriously it's such a hassle to schedule something with her and then deal with all the NCNS's and lateness's. I'd much rather deal with someone who's more punctual and maybe 8.0 or 8.5... And no I don't mean to hurt her, but I feel like the truth has to be told. There is nothing said above that's not true. So guys be warned. NCNS is very possible with Raynah, late date is pretty much a guarantee. And if doing incall, don't leave for hotel until she physically shows up and gives you room #. For some of you it will be worth it. Good luck!
I've had my share of ncns, even with my now retired ATF.
Never on my birthday.
Ouch.
I think we can all agree that raynah repeatedly screwed up with you and with many other people as well.
My former ATF told me one time, after cancelling on me last minute on more than one occasion, me who she had seen repeatedly, that she used to get performance jitters. She was a highly rated provider and was afraid not to perform or look her best. She told me shed rather cancel than disappoint someone. I explained to her that what's disappointing is to be left with my dick in my hand and my plans dashed. I told her let me know beforehand if she's a little tired or feels she looks less than beautiful and let me decide if I'm okay with that. Did the trick.
Another issue is when providers cannot balance work and home, e.i. New boyfriend. In my experience that's when a lot of ncns start coming in. Providers: if you have a new bf, take some time off. We will see you when you get back. Really, we'll wait. Just please don't screw up our plans. You know half of us have a significant other we have to schedule around, too. It's not easy for us, either. And when we find we can't get time for our appointments with providers, we take time off from the hobby, too.
While I have no knowledge of raynah besides our one great meeting, I'd be willing to bet her ncns are due to one of the two issues I just mentioned.
If time is tight and having a date follow through is extremely important, go with an agency I say. That being said, my best sessions have mostly been with indies. There's no easy answer here.
First of all, thank you for your understanding. It's true, we've all been there. But the most disappointing thing about Raynah NCNSing me is that I was aware that she's done it before, I did research on threads and everything, but still trusted her, so it's partially my own fault.
Then, cancelling appointment last minute is pretty rough but not as bad as NCNS. Yes, things may pop up, life is unpredictable but people should have a sense of responsibility and given the fact that we live in a modern world where cell phones work almost anywhere, no reason not to call. I don't even mind if the provider doesn't look her best, if she shows up that's all I care about. It's that important to me.
Your brought up an interesting thought about a possible reason for her behavior, e.i. new boyfriend. However, in my opinion that's not likely and here's why: think about it, she's been a top provider for 5-6(?) years now, or something like that. She's been doing all the service for money all these years. Do you really think that she would allow someone to simply have her for free? Very unlikely, even if he's the hottest guy in the world. Going even further; if she dates some guy, he would find out very quickly that she's a provider, if smart enough. Therefore he'd want to stop her immediately from working, but I doubt she'd give up her business. Also, going by how she still posts ads and everything, it seems as though she wants to continue to be a provider. So this whole new boyfriend thing doesn't make sense to me, therefore very unlikely. However, not impossible. And you're right, we have no knowledge of Raynah so she could be doing anything.
If you noticed I didn't even go into debating validity of her reasons for NCNS. It's because I analyze only what I know and go by what she told me. Of course she could've lied, but I'm not willing to make any assumptions of what I don't know. I wish I knew more though.
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Many providers have boyfriends. I admit not understanding the reason. Why not have a female friend that is either in the business or know her friend is in the business and is ok with that? Fortunate for me, lately I am meeting nothing but providers that understand that a boyfriend and this business don't mix well, they are working exclusively for realization of their dreams.
As I said before, it's possible but in my opinion not likely. That's just my opinion though. Obviously boyfriends affect their business greatly. They do however have female friends, Raynah is known to have her playmate Tayla if I'm not mistaken.
I agree that I may have missed your point. The issue isn't why raynah didn't show, but the fact that she repeatedly ncns and cancelled last second.
As you stated only the facts of the situation, my speculation as to why the situation occurred is irrelevant.
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She smokes, she fucks strange men, she does anal, she has a lot of tattoos... maybe you would have caught something from her if she showed up. Just looking at the bright side of this.
usually these "Raynah NCNS" threads generate two things:
1) A bunch of "have sympathy on me, I make mistakes once in a while" BS from Raynah herself; and
2) At least two---usually more---idiots that post and say "Wow, she's hot and now this makes me want to see her even more."
Look in the mirror, dude. The fact that you've beed stood up THREE times by her is just clear, living proof that the promise of a hot time moves guys well beyond their normal threshold of tolerance for BS.
Look at the ad board....there's a HUGE amount of great talent coming into Boston, on top of an already full list of great ladies that are here every day of the year.
You're absolutely right. When she says that she makes mistakes "once in a while", these mistakes seem to happen all the time and way too much. Therefore she understates it.
It's also true that being stood up 3 times is too much. I forgot to mention that I had nearly zero tolerance for her after 2 NCNS's. I was very reluctant to give her another chance, but because she was so responsive I decided to "go for it". There was one guy who was stood up by her 5 times, that's just crazy. So I'm totally with you on that.
It's important to note that guys want to see Raynah so bad because they see her ads/photos; she's definitely an expert when it comes to making ads, creating flirty phrases and sentences as well as shooting the best photos of herself - all of this combined making people want to see her more. That's when guys become blinded and mesmerized by her ads, that they completely ignore her past history on NCNS's and latenesses. Therefore one of those 2 things happen when it comes to seeing her. Smarter guys will always do research on a provider before considering her, and will think twice before seeing her. Others will book anyway because they are blind and mesmerized.
At seperating horny men from their money with nothing given in return. All the while, many providers that deliver are working their asses off for enough business to make it all worth their while. You got some good advice, forget this provider and reward the ones that deliver and don't stand up hobbyists.
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Ladies from highly rated agencies are either working, or they are off doing their civvy activities. No shows, and lateness is not tolerated by top agencies, be it the hobbyist or the provider. To a certain extent, my time is worth more to me than a couple hundered more bucks I may pay for a top agency provider, that is an exchange that I can except and prefer.
Most definitely. That's exactly why I've used agencies and will continue to do so to avoid all the BS.
You just have to choose wisely based on the reviews.
Agency girls are terrific as well, but you still have to do your homework.
Well, I disagree with you. Yes, there are many great independent providers out there, with great reviews. We are talking about Raynah specifically in this thread. She is a perfect example of when reviews don't tell the whole story. One can have all 9's or even 10's, but if you find out that provider has constant NCNS's in her past then her reputation is greatly damaged. That's a fact.
The big plus in agencies is that such behavior you usually don't see, or any provider like that would be gone. Agencies don't want to lose their reputation/business that way, so they won't tolerate latenesses not to mention their ladies not showing up. Then again, there are lower class agencies who may tolerate that, so I try avoiding those.