Yes,don't let the little head do the thinking for the big head. There are plenty of providers who don't request such personal information. I wonder if there are any drug dealers who put their clients through a verification process? Would you show the local drug dealer your drivers license and give him your home or work phone so he could be sure who he is dealing with? Come on!! I guess if you have nothing to lose it doesn't matter but if your are high profile or married you got to be crazy to put yourself is such a position. Yes, this is a high risk sport on both sides. Woman and men take all sorts of risk but lets not make it all one sided.

Happy Holidays to all,

Sorry providers, don't get mad at me...just my honest opinions.

Are you serious??? The risk to the lady who doesn't verify is far greater than the risk that the gent faces. The guy risks exposure, the lady risks arrest or worse, physical harm. The lady IS STILL physically at risk even when she does verify. The only time the risk is one sided in the hobby is when the lady DOES NOT VERIFY!!!

As you say...just my opinion but I hope it's not the minority opinion.

thirsty

Please, let's not start this one going again.I used to  think somewhat the way corky does, but I've heard to many horror stories since.Thirsty is is right.

To all the Wonderful gentlemen I have met in the past 2 1/2 year's that have trusted me with their personal information. You have helped me to feel safe and comfortable going into the encounter so that I can focus on making the encounter the experience that you hoped it would be. This has always been very much appreciated by me!

I have always protected your personal information as if it was my own and Never kept it or stepped over anyone's personal privacy once the encounter was over. I am proud to have a 100% track record of never crossing the boundries of you personal privacy! And for this I wanted to say Thank You for a Wonderful, Safe, and Fun 2 1/2 years!  ~Warm Hug's to all the Wonderful Gentlemen I have met~ Miss Chrissy

(I respect "Everyone's" choice to be verified or not this post is merely a "Thank You" to the guy's I have met that have respected my choice of verification so that I feel safe going into the encounter!)  Happy and Safe Holiday's Everyone.....Oh Ya don't forget Playful!

not to see the ladies who require verification. I just think it's silly and insulting to all the ladies (whether or not they verify) to suggest that verification makes the risk factor a "one sided" burden on the gentlemen. The ladies are always potentially at risk.

thirsty

I've read enough stories about providers having bad experiences to feel that they have right and reason to verify for their own safety. My own divorce is well in the past so maybe it's easier for me to speak, but the woman is generally in much more risk than the man.  I want anyone I meet to be comfortable with me and am there fore willing to provide information.  I've never regretted it.  

to beat this dead horse?!! My God, find another "life"! Apparently you must have attempted to see someone new that asked you your name!

Verification is a two sided coin, my friend. I personally don't think I would feel very comfortable with a lady that DOESN'T verify who she sees. To me, one of the things it does accomplish is that I will know that the lady is herself legitimate and most of the ladies aren't asking for your life history.

Corky, either get OVER IT or move on!

Thank you TED!

xoxo, Lilly

angelann...Your message hurts most since you were what I asked Santa Claus for this Christmas...To everyone, I didn't voice my opinion to offend anyone. I have suffered a divorce because of my willingness years ago to give a provider personal information only to have her persue me any time she was desperate for money. When I did not return phone calls she left at my work she decided to leave a voice mail on my home recorder for my wife and kids to hear. I always treated my provider with respect and was always a gentleman. It didn't matter.  

I know most providers would never do this but I just can't see why it would be worth anybody taking the risk. You can all beat me up if you wish but I don't want to see anyone go through what I did.

Happy Holidays

similar experiences, Corky. Usually a phone call "can be" explained away (although it may not be easy) - I was recently divorced and yes, the straw that broke the camel's back was a phone call (actually TWO - and the last one AFTER the "lady" - VERY loose term in this case - was told NEVER to call the number again) but it was mostly due to my own attitude of not keeping the paper trail to a very minimum. It was a two year "mess" and a virtual bloodbath yet I still maintain that the ladies have not only the right and the priviledge to request whatever information makes them feel comfortable about being able to see a client but it is their DUTY to ask for whatever brings them to that comfort level. (she is one that either alone in a hotel room or is knocking on the door of a room behind which there is a man that she has never met before and who could literally do almost anything he chose to do to her)

Corky, don't let your past experience sour you to either the hobby or, and more importantly, to all the wonderful ladies that are involved - 99.9% of them are terrific PEOPLE - not property or objects - people! (what is with this damn soapbox?!)

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year (Hmm, I know that mine will at least be quite "different"!)

I am not going to even bother reading this thread but I can tell you many of us keep NOTHING!  A quality experience often requires a lady feeling safe, and this is accomplished by verification.  Many of us don't keep a bodyguard in the next room or have a driver/pimp for protection. I have just as much to lose as many of my client friends and I would never retain information about them or contact them unless asked.  What is the problem with honesty if you find someone on your same playing level? (many of the ladies have other careers, are married and/or just have to be careful about their secret life).

Hey, go to a service or see someone who asks you nothing.  It is a free world but don't get caught with you pants down by a vice shakedown!  It will be a cold day in hell that I will set up an incall location someplace nice and invite a guy over I know absolutely nothing about!

As far as I am concerned, a provider that doesn't care about herself doesn't care about her client either.  Think about that statement...

Merry Christmas and stay safe!  K

And I'm sorry about what has happend to you in the past.But as you can see by all the other posts here we service providers have to protect our selves also.Oh and BTW I just came back from the North Pole and I DID VERIFY SANTA! He's OK Girls!A Real BFE!!! And BOY can he stuff a stocking!!!