Boston

Advice for etiquette?
ptwice20 25 Reviews 1016 reads
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Hello Boston,

I recently made an appointment with an agency I have used multiple times in the past . I will spare names or details because this is not a post to complain but more to solicit advice. I have had previous great experiences with this agency and with other girls there. When I met the provider for the first time, she was not my type physically. I realized that I would rather not fake my way into an appointment with her and told her I was not feeling well, asked if I could pay her half the donation and we could part ways. She agreed and she seemed fine with it.  I then called the person booking who I previously had a good rapport with to explain myself. I wanted to tell her I prefer thinner girls and hope I did not offend anyone. I did NOT say this to the girl. I would never insult any girl to her face like that.  Anyway, I have since called and emailed the agency and have not heard anything back. I guess I have been banned. Can anyone tell me what I did wrong? Can anyone tel me how to handle this situation better in the future?  Thanks

Think you did anything wrong. Move on to another agency. They need you more than you need them. There are plenty of good ones out here.

Half a donation for answering the door is pretty good. Though I've never done that myself, I think most of the time a hundred covers it but maybe I'm wrong.

If the pics were misleading you could have cancelled with no obligation, and the agency would owe you a big favor (in my book).  Doing this [cancelling at the door] is not easy and things can go very wrong.  The girl will be upset and the agency may try to blow you off.  Also, you need to turn at the door before going in.  Not at all easy to do!!!

On the other hand if pictures were accurate, you have nobody to blame but yourself.  I think you should look at the pics again and see how accurate they are/were.  Not asking for names, but I would be curious to hear from you what you find.

Turning at the door is horribly cruel to do to another human being but if you truly are  not attracted to the girl then half a donation and blaming your health is a classy move.

Here are my thoughts:  If the picture was blatantly misleading - the girl was a BBW or at least fairly chubby and the agency used ancient photos that depicted her as slender - then you were the victim of false advertising.  But then again, a little deceit in a photo is to be expected, just as it's expected in personals ads . . . to a point.

It's one thing when an independent provider lies in her photos, but when we use reputable agencies we are depending on a decent amount of accuracy in their photos and descriptions.  Maybe not perfect, but if a lady appears to be slender and she's not slender but fairly overweight, then you've been lied to.  Visits with ladies from agencies cost more precisely because we're paying for dependability.  If the agency is not dependable, why shell out the extra 50 or 75 in the first place?

So: If the picture was just a little bit off - if the girl was portrayed as slender and you showed up and she was merely average (like most of us) - you cost the agency a lost booking and your offer was 50% still cost the agency money (someone else could have visited during your time slot) and the agency wasn't wrong to ban you.  In other words, if you were too nit-picky, or if you misread the photo even though on 2nd look the photo wasn't very much off at all, then it's understandable that you were banned.

On the other hand, if you spoke to the agency at the very outset and said, "I only enjoy myself with very slender ladies - consider it a fetish, almost - and if the lady isn't thin or truly slender, I don't want to waste her time or mine," then it's the agency's fault here and they tried to mislead you and the 50% donation was generous on your part.

You're entitled, it seems to me, to rely on the ad's photos . . . to a point.  But none of us are so naive as to believe that the photos represent the way a lady might look at a given moment.  The pics might have been taken months earlier, right?  So I think the responsibility is on us as clients to double-check with the agency beforehand, to come right out and ask, "Are these pictures still accurate?"

Finally, if the girl has gained a significant amount of weight and her ad is no longer accurate - if the girl has packed on, for example, 20 pounds in a month since the picture was taken - then you should tell the agency that.  You should say it calmly:  "Listen, I'm sorry to tell you this, but if the photo in the ad was accurate when it was taken, it's no longer accurate, because the lady is very noticeably much heavier than she was in the ad.  If it was only 5 or 10 or even 15 pounds, it wouldn't have mattered to me.  But when I showed up, I was surprised by how much heavier she looked than in the photos, which must be at least a month or two old.  I'm sorry, and I'm sure the lady is a lovely person, but I'm sure you agree that the reason that your agency offers photos is so that your clients can get a reasonably accurate impression of the lady's looks, and in this case, the lady's figure bore little resemblance to her ad."

It's possible that the agency banned you because they're unaware of how much weight the lady has gained.  I'm sure girls are in no hurry to tell their agencies, "Hey, we'd better update the pictures of me, because I'm a lot heavier now."  But if that's truly the case here, you should nicely contact the agency to tell them that, because you're not the only client who's going to be disappointed.

If the ad described the girl as a "spinner" and the photo seemed to confirm that and then it turned out that she's slightly chubby, well, you were in the right.

If her photo made her look about average - normal weight, slender, whatever you might call it - and it turned out that she was still in the ballpark but with a little excess weight - well, that's the risk you take in any ad and with any agency.

You're entitled to rely on a reasonably accurate picture of the girl, and the agency is entitled to rely on clients to follow through with their appointments unless the difference between the girl in the ad and the girl in person is fairly significant.  Yes, they need you as a customer, but you need them in order not to waste your money on all the unreliable providers out there.

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