I realize that Audrey is well reviewed and an active member of this board but I have to vent a bit about an interaction I recently had with her..

She posted an ad on this board and dates/locations on her website (she was going to be near my home as luck should have it)

We scheduled an appointment and for a specific time with a location TBD.  After double checking on the phone that she was coming to town (as I changed around my travel schedule to make our appointment) she assured me that she would both let me know the location of her incall and call me back asap to confirm logistics.  

I waited a few hours for her to call, tried her several times, left a message etc.. and never heard back from her. Now I realize that shit happens and she could have had an issue or emergency but I still would expect a quick call or text to let me know that she couldn't make it.

So I post this as i continue to see both providers and hobbyists complain about blown off appointments.  Can we all just be a little more respectful of each others time and schedules??

Audrey - i hope you are OK but ask that next time you let your client know if you simply can't or don't want to do an appointment..

I am amazed/amused that you used an alias to comment on a woman by name.  If you did have an appointment, she will certainly know who you are.  So that can not be the reason.  Can you please explain the use of an alias in this case?  Thanks.

It might be a good idea for Alleyb to post under his own handle but that hardly takes Audrey off the hook. If she allegedly stood him off, she should either post an explanation or make it up to him somehow!  IMHO.

I was not shooting the messenger.  I was questioning why the alias.

I would agree that if Audrey did as he wrote an explanation is at least due to him.

What's the difference if I used one alias over another? Unless I'm missing something 'foodguy' isn't your real name..no one posts their real name on this board for a reason... You missed the whole point of my post! I'm simply making the fact that both providers and hobbyists need to be more respectful of each others times.. Weather I used an alias, my handle or my real name it really doesn't matter.. This brings up another point.. Please stop the drama and focus on the real issues at hand..

The use of a handle versus an alias is obviously not your issue.

Your issue dealt with respect for each other.

My note was to suggest that respect would be dealing with some one on a level playing field (i.e. handle for handle).

Sorry that you considered my request for like treatment drama.

and you cannot control how it develops.

Using an alias to mark a lady as a NCNS degrades your credibility.  There are a number of reasons for this.  You could be another provider trying to fuck with her business, a pissed off prospective client that didn't make it through the screening, or someone with a score to settle.  By hiding your handle, and therefore, your hobby info (or lack thereof), you leave your post open to all kinds of interpretations.

Also, if she did have a valid emergency causing her to bag out, then chances are that you weren't the only one, so how is she to know who you are?  Further, how can she defend herself against your allegation in the first place if she doesn't know who you are?

So, the alias thing IS germane to your issue, and coming down on foodyguy for raising it just demonstrates that you may be the type who goes off half-cocked and probably didn't give the lady adequate time to explain to begin with.

Before you put a blight on someone's record and business, like you have done with your post, maybe you should think things through.

Some gent wrote a post to me from a alias on the New England board and though i could figure out who he was, point stated, he wasnt even man enough to use his real name so how much credit can you give his post...it bothered me more that he used an alias instead of emailing me directly and asking th e question if he sincerely wanted an answer.instead he wrote it publicly with an alias handle grrrrrrrr

Not to come off as a white knight here, but . . .

We are but one of many guys who at any given moment want to be the center of a woman's attention.  This hobby is about fantasy, and as men, our urges often outweigh our sensibility.  Often times when those lower brain fantasies take over our sensibilities we forget that we are one of many suitors who want the complete attention of a woman.

You forget that whether Audrey had a real life emergency or just had plain old "real life" get in the way, your phone calls and emails will go ignored.  In fact, I'll bet your contacts bordered on the same level as a collection company.  The more you pester someone, the more likely you'll be ignored.

So, I for one, will ignore your post, not because you have a valid point or not, but because you choose to make that point under an alias.  Posting under an alias to attack (or whatever you want to call your previous 2 posts) anyone, whether man or woman, makes your point useless.  In fact it's you who is creating the drama.

Audrey is a top notch well reviewed provider, but she is also human and has a real life that is none of my business or yours.

So tell me, have you accomplished anything?  I don't think so.

signed,
capedude


-- Modified on 10/21/2008 3:34:58 PM

If this were a chronic problem I would understand the public posting. You didn't mention that it was. If she had "stood you up" several times, again I could understand the post. However, you stated neither. There are any number of things that might have occurred. Have you even thought about giving her ample time to respond to you privately?

I agree with the alias issue. This is a constant problem. If one wants to post such a thread directed at any individual then using their handle, if it's a legitment complaint, gives credibility. The reason you are being questioned is the simple fact of what was stated above. You could be ANYONE posting this to hurt her business.

As far as I'm concerned she doesn't owe you a public apology. If anything you'll never even get an explanation because you took this to the board. Thus you have created you're own drama by setting yourself up with using an alias and pointing a finger in public. If you didn't want the attention you'd have simply waited for her to respond.

Just my .33 cents

AngieRenee

...Is your credibility on this board. No, of course it's not your real name but it IS how we recognize each other in this community. I'm not going to get involved in a discussion about your complaint. Once you decided to hide behind an alias to tell your story you lost credibility. If you honestly don't understand the difference between a handle and an alias on a message board like this I can only assume that there are many other things that you don't understand as well...

If it was truly an emergency, do you really think she'd have time to call you? God forbid a family member is in the hospital or something.

Take a couple days and try and contact her before coming to the boards.

And if this is a case where you've given a good effort to get an explanation, then I hope Audrey will show up with an answer soon.

She's *very* good about communication. Just blowing someone off is very uncharacteristic of her.

again, all of the names on this board are alias so I still don't understand the argument.

number 1: i am not a provider or out to slander anyone. i'm simply a hardworking guy that feels the providers need to be equally responsible for 'no shows' as the hobbyist

number 2: i wasn't trying to hide anything and wasn't aware of the 'credibility issue' that some people claim using an 'alias' creates.. why even have the option to us an alias if this is an issue?

number 3: there was one initial call and two follow ups, therefore I would highly classify this as pestering her and in the same class as a collection company

number 4: i never said she wasn't human, in fact i made a point in my post to ensure that i was concerned for her safety.

number 5: i waited 3 days for a response so I would say that is ample time for her to follow up to say 'hey i'm sorry that I couldn't make it'

number 6: guys like you capedude, dixie 'the chicken' and the rest of you haters on this board need to get off your high horses and take a deep breath before you jump in on every f'n issue

number 7: if I can't make an appointment, I lob a call in, apologize and make it up the next time around.  its not too much to ask for that back!!!

I am certainly a fan of all AR's on this board, so when I saw the post I read it. My first thought was that I did not know the poster, so automatically, the credibility of that poster is in question (in my mind), and I wonder if there is another motive behind the post.

To his point, I know how frustrating and disappointing it can be to not get notice of cancellation. I would hope that he gave her ample opportunity to explain what happened before posting about the no show.  

In any case, I take to heart his point that if someone needs to cancel on either side, please at least try to let the other person know, and if that is not possible, please provide an explanation, so as to not have it debated on the board needlessly.

She uses a scheduler! Call her!

Funny how no one else brought that up.

I suppose it is possible that this could have happened (if it did, in fact, happen) before Audrey had the scheduler in place

Personally, I'd like to know who "all those other haters are" so I can contact staff immediatly and tell them to not allow them to express their opinions on a public forum.

Oh, and the whole haters comment just let everyone know who you are. You've used that phase all to often to go unrecognized.

You put it out there so I suggest that you take the lumps and deal with it. Let it go.
Let's all just go back to happy hobbying.
BTW, is there a client #9 in the room? lol

AR

-- Modified on 10/21/2008 8:41:45 PM

since using an alias seems to implicate you have something to hide, I find it hard to believe that b4 dragged this very private issue to this board, that you went through the right channels and waited an appropriate time for a response from Audrey as to what happened.

For all we know, you may have just freaked her out somehow. We know Audreys reputation, but an alias tells us nothing of yours.  I am not one to jump on a pile up, but I don't think you are being fair to Audrey. Using someone to book appts is tricky and even the best ones make mistakes, it could be a simple mishap, or then again you could just be a loose cannon and she decided to end all communication with you.
It is so that her credibility lies in her reputation, as she is known. So also is yours as a believable Gentleman. Using an alias basically leaves you no credibility.
I suggest you straighten this out with Audrey Privately and No I do Not believe she owes you anything at this point, no explanation or apolagy for this fiasco which you have dramatized to what degree, who knows.

Now b4 you cry that everyone has assaulted you for your statement, think about it, if you read this under an alias would you have a bit of trouble buying it? I know I do.



-- Modified on 10/21/2008 8:47:04 PM

Hi. Wow! You know when you turn on a talk show and all of the people on the panel are looking at their spouse's thinking
"We couldnt have sorted this out at home? You had to bring me on national television?"  
Apparently this needs to be addressed in order to end this thread, but whether this is real or imagined, I would have rather dealt with this privately or at Least been given the oppertunity to communicate privately.

It was mentioned that you wanted to vent about respect for people's schedule and time, that is fine. I do respect everyone's time although my name is in this post so that is not the issue. You should be able to "vent" on the boards but let me focus on some basics:

I do not answer text messages.
I do not confirm appointments via text.
I do not see anyone unless they have been screened.
I do not book an appointment and then dip off the face of the planet.
I do use a screener, so there is no possible way that we had spoke on the phone.

If this happened over 6 weeks ago before I started working with a screener/booker then this issue should have been squashed ages ago.

I do not know who you are or what situation you are referring to so this really puts me in an
interesting place. I am more than willing to accomodate a particular situation but I am not willing to accept responsibility for something I am completely unaware of.

If this is a miscommunication, we could have sorted it out via email.

This board is a public forum, not a private banter. I can't imagine what TER would turn into if every provider posted a no show/ no call John. . It would be a soap opera. It goes both ways and I am more than aware of your time.

I am always available on email where you will discuss things with me personally and privately. Please email me directly.
Audrey Reins  


-- Modified on 10/21/2008 9:11:04 PM

-- Modified on 10/21/2008 9:56:24 PM

Don't know why but my response went before other threads that have been up all afternoon ? See above.

is to find me a pretty lady who will turn me into a "Lover"  

Maybe I need to double up on some A-R-E for the therapy I need.  

....That if the guy used his normal handle and not an alias, he would be be granted far fewer appointments from the ladies.  Iknow that seems terribly one sided, but that is the way things seem to work. So don't shoot the messenger, and wheigh the message accordingly

I have had the pleasure of seeing Audrey a couple of times now. Both of these time was on the cape, and in a area that had very poor cell service. Each time, Audrey went way out of her way to get in touch with me to make the meeting happen. I'm sure that I'm not alone in stating that she is a wonderful women to spend time with and she does her very best to make sure you both have a great time. Thanks for everything Audrey, Bushey.

Alleyb -

You may have answered this question already. If so, my apologies.

Questions:

Given that both a handle and its aliases belong to the class of aliases, is there thus no difference whatsoever between a given handle and its aliases?

If there is no difference, why then did you bother to use an alias?

-Codpeace

yes, you ended up under me. again. feels good.

Codpeace - i'm still not sure why it matters as you still would have no way of knowing who I am anyway..

You can choose to ignore my post if you like, that is fine..

In my opinion, this board is both a way to express feelings, experiences, and opinions (which you have the right to your opinion).. so I have the right to communicate my perspective openly..

Weather I lost my quote 'credibility' in your mind is irrelevant to the facts at hand..

1) Audrey (or her scheduler) was disrespectful of my time.  I gave ample time and opportunties to follow up and that did not happen

2) My point is NOT to slander her as I have no vested interest in tyring to impact her business NOR do I feel this thread will do so (and I'm happy for that)

3) My ENTIRE POINT IS TO SAY THAT WE ALL NEED TO BE MORE RESPECTFUL when it comes to canceling appointments..

So if people keep reading this thread hopefully that point will sink in..

enough of this issue and drama... back to hobbying..

Hello TER B:

  I have always had the respect from Audrey and
a wonderful time with her, always treat her with kindness.

John