in some review (can't find it now that I want to post about it) that a woman was a decent provider but she's not a nympho like Rae Monroe.  This isn't a joke I just read that review tonight and those were damn close to the actual words in the end of the review.  

And no, I have not seen Rae Monroe so I don't know what they're talking about.  I've always tried to be the BFE and other than one time I don't think I've ever been with (or felt like I've been with) a nymphomaniac provider (OR girlfriend).

So let's have it... who should I see?  And am I the problem?  Am I too nice / sweet / well mannered for my own good?  That might explain why I can't "LAND" a girlfriend like that in my regular life.

Regards,
Shy_N_Jewish

Okay that is weird, I JUST redid the website content on my site and it had Nympho in there...which is the reason I clicked on this post.

Here's the portion of my text that I mean...



It is said that some are thrilled and mesmerized by the rush of adrenaline accompanying the act of patterned human sexual behavior. Yet for some the chase is even more fulfilling and stimulating than the act itself. Addicts are thought to have Nymphomania or Satyriasis. I admit to an abnormal desire for stimulation. Can you? I want to be the culmination of your adventure and your chase. I want to be the one thing you can't begin to understand but you need to have. Is there a wicked desire within that you want to share with me?



That is too weird.

Hi Shy,

For the first part of your question, the only true nympho I know is Penny. When she is not in a room working, she is either out making xxx videos, doing her webcam shows or arranging and attending swing parties. If none of that is going on, she has plenty of friends she likes  to play with just for fun. If she could Penny would have sex 24 hours a day every day. LOL.

Now for the other part of your question, You are a big sweetie and girls just want to hug you like a teddy bear. LOL. You like to talk and get to know the ladies so that being said, it is hard to go wild and crazy with you as you are more the lovey dovey type. I do know for a fact that you have a wild and kinky side though so don't be afraid to let it out with the right lady.

Jill

Shy Guy gets a review.

Not bad!  Jill any numerical scores?

Unlike you hobbiests, I never kiss and tell Let me just say this, if I was still providing, I would have looked forward to another appointment with him.

Good reply

Aha, you clicked on yet another EOM (end of message = supposedly empty message) and expect to have SOMETHING to read....

Well, let's put it this way.. I am not always sweet.  Sometimes I'm a needy and horny user.  Usually around the full moon, I mean who isn't?  And sometimes I'm bad and engage in fetishes.  After all, who cares as long as the adults are consenting and nothing a) leaves marks or b) hurts any involved party, right?

Regards,
Shy_N_Seriously_Perverted_When_I_Let_Myself_Go

P.S. Sadly, the only provider who knows just HOW perverted I'll go is a squirter and can be a fetish player too. Muahahahaha.  (yeah, I know the madman laugh doesn't work for me *shrug*)

Shy, I don't want to be the turd in the punchbowl or sound like a wise guy, because I know your heart is in the right place, but why would you even bothering trying to be BFE? These girls have making love to the envelope, they don't want to be there, they have real boyfriends for that stuff. All you owe them is to be a normal person like you would be if you met the girl somewhere else, and, of course, the money. Not one of them is here for the sex.

Bob- are you that jaded that you lump everyone together? I agree most may fit your generalization but not all. I think some girls just love to have sex and the donation is icing on the cake- but maybe I am being naive?

Maybe you're right... but make sure you bring the money just in case!

Remember, it's hard to trust somebody working on commission.

I'm actually not complaining, because by showing up, we are asking to get an act. When you go see "Hamlet," you don't ask the guy playing the lead to be poisoned at the end, right?

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Sorry Bob Crane but I'm just not macho/butch enough for that most of the time.  I was just raised / conditioned (or am I just genetically pre-disposed?) to being a nice guy / pleaser.  I get hardest / horniest when I have a super-memorable girlfriend experience (kissing, touching, etc).  So going all BFE often evokes the response and memories I prefer.

I have only been a wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am guy a few times.  I tried repeating them but I end up with one of three outcomes (in no particular order):

1) BFE  sessions
2) Many of them retire. Was I THAT bad a butch?
3) Lackluster sessions meaning it was a one-time sync between us.

My vibe = my fault I guess.

-Shy_N_Jewish

Obviously there are women who escort as a means to an end.

There are women who escort because they are victims of circumstance.

There are women who escort because they are not equipped to do much else.

Then there are women who are bright, well-rounded, have a reasonable amount of skill or experience in another field or are educated on paper.  They could procure another means of living or perhaps they do pursue other interests in addition to escorting.  The enjoy the chase, the attention, the men, the money, the control and freedom that the business allows and of course THE SEX.

Coming from a girl who discovered escorting after Casual Encounters and AdultFriendFinder yielded virtually nothing in terms of pleasurable hookups:  yes, there are those of us who love the sex.
I worked a fulltime job during my first year as an escort.  The envelope for me is an equalizer.
It says:  I respect you, your time.  I respect the fact that you offer the amenities to keep me comfortable.  I appreciate that you do not require anything of me emotionally or inclusion in the life outside of our bedroom friendship.
I want the envelope because for me (and others who feel similarly) it is a gesture.  The moment the envelope becomes the driving factor for my participation in the business is the moment I quit.

A close friend in the business recently enjoyed a very successful visit to Boston.  After a booked (and I mean BOOKED) day she called me at about 12a and said:

"Ally, wanna go out and find someone to bring back to my hotel?"

I have a girlfriend who at one time was one of the most popular providers in Atlanta.  She said "I can't get fully warmed up until 3 or 4 sessions into a day.  Knowing that so many men want me makes me hot and my orgasms intensify by the hour."
We incalled in an apartment together and I would often masturbate in an adjoining bedroom during her sessions, excited by the prospect of such a beautiful girl - such a glutton for fucking strangers.

Providers share stories about our best, choose our favorites as personal lovers, coordinate trips & tours around those who are unforgettable, and forge intimate relationships that color our approach to other men & excite us daily.

There are many hobbyists who prefer to approach providers as the virtual equivalent of mechanics who flush their pipes like Jiffy Lube.

And then there are others who adore women not simply for the acts we perform but because they recognize that our carnal needs and desires are intricate, colored by sociology that still deems our sexuality taboo, overruled by the biology that causes us to become a little more free with each generation.

m5unit:  You are not naive.  You may have encounters in which you recognize that the provider, no matter how sweet, should probably have another occupation.  BUT should you continue to hobby you will also experience encounters in which your companion's anxiousness for your touch is so intense you will simply *know* when you've found the girl who if you had not have come across her in this manner...you could have possibly met at a swingers club or on an adult listing seeking play partners.

Spoilsports who discuss all providers like we're jaded, bored strippers are really projecting-reflecting upon their feelings about how they feel about themselves and women, NOT at all accurately accounting for the variations of motivations and desires of providers.


Xo




-- Modified on 9/18/2008 4:05:33 PM

Oh dear God, Please let me be one of the best, Alas I know i have a better chance of hitting Mega bucks twice this week. LOL

Ally, I loved your post. Thank you for all you do for us guys. I really wish I lived in the NE & not the SW. Take care.

This spoilsport never said the women don't have an interest in sex, I just said they don't have an interest in sex with us. Try showing up without money and see what happens if you want to know how they feel. Unlike some people, I have no financial stake in what I say. If there's any provider who won't throw a guy out if he doesn't have money, please speak up.

If you haven't noticed, when I participate in TER I say just about whatever I feel like.  

My name and brand are established - I could say any number of these things on these boards and still live virtually unaffected by my comments.  

If I truly felt alternatively and were operating under the notion that sharing my thoughts would be counterproductive or ill-received I wouldn't have commented at all.
At this point everyone who wants to know who I am does.  Posting my thoughts will neither attract a substantial amount of business or detract from the interest of viewers so contrary to what you are attempting to suggest I effectively have no financial stake in sharing my thoughts.
I am not surprised that one with your views would attempt to discredit my genuine sentiment with the suggestion that my post was effectively an attempt at innocuous flirtation.

As I said previously:
Money for SOME OF US is an equalizer.  It is an acknowledgment of respect and appreciation for what we choose to do and the convenience & pleasure that we afford those who seek us.
After I've paid for an incall location, supplies beautiful things and niceties that guests enjoy, yes-I fully expect to be acknowledged with recompense.  
However, for providers who truly love what they do continued participation in the business is fulfilling as not only a means of survival but as a means of sexual expression and exploration.

As the saying goes:  "Figure out what you love-and find a way to make money doing it."

Perhaps you are justified in believing that providers haven't a legitimate interest in spending time with you, I do not know.
But there are many, many worthwhile participants in the hobby who make a provider gleam with restlessness and excitement when they express an interest in being with her again.

-- Modified on 9/18/2008 5:18:46 PM

... don't mind spending several hours with the right guy for an hour's money or even no money.

Obviously, no provider is going to identify herself as such, but I assure you there are some right here in Boston who even post here.  

Casual Encounters Boston, even to this day.

Any number of my friends and lovers and those of  providers with such inclinations are probably smiling at this exchange right now.

You guys never know which of our needs are met by spending time with you.

Though it is presumptuous to assume that each and every provider you meet will feel the chemistry that I speak of it is ludicrous to approach the hobby as though we're all money hungry robots bent on simply using you as an ATM.

I just think its sad that there are so many who are hellbent on poisoning others with their cynicism about the women who they spend time with.

The hobby isn't rainbows, leprechauns and pots of gold.  We're all aware of the 'transaction' and business as usual for some.  Thankfully, there are also many who participate with an elevated, sophisticated approach who recognize that the hobby for others (on both sides) is about cultivation of respectful bedroom friendships in which each party feels fulfilled and appreciated.



-- Modified on 9/18/2008 5:02:27 PM

thats like expecting an artist to give their work away, or an electrician to wire your house for free. Charging for their talent, does Not make them any less talented or their work any less professional, its just their way of taking advantage of what they are good at.
There is risk at stake here as well and the financial benefits make it easier to take those risks, and to do the work also involved to be successful here.
Theres advertising to do and pay for as well as emails to answer and refs that need to be checked, read the boards keep up with whats going on. Its more than you think it is. Not complaining but really...just because I won't Fuck you for free, doesn't mean I don't enjoy your company just the same.  What your post I believe, is meant to do is Taunt woman who do this and all it is accomplishing is making you look as stated very ignorant and jaded. I also believe we have given you enough to feed on at this point.  I feel sorry though that you have not had the pleasure to spend time with the right women who enjoyed your company and you left feeling like old friends as aposed to a client. Thats really a shame.
Then again it sounds to me like the women you have spent time with are not really the problem at all.

-- Modified on 9/19/2008 4:59:09 AM

"If there's any provider who won't throw a guy out if he doesn't have money, please speak up."

I know at least 3, but their good favor comes only after they know how much I respect them and appreciate their unique circumstances and the paths they are on.  I won't deny your experiences or your right to express them, but in the end they are about the choices you make.

Moose

"Sydney these men are not paying you to have sex with them...there paying you to go away"


I think that was the first time I ever considered the hobby.  Thanks Darren Star and Rupert Murdoch for your wholesome 'family values'.

Yes,the quote is originally attributed to Sheen.

But he isn't a NYMPHO...
He is a SLUT!
LOL

What is the over/under on how long this NEW marriage of his lasts?
I put it at 11 months, myself.....