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posted 12 years ago

"What is it that excites her and is the direction and anticipation also a turn on for her?"

Some submissives are more service oriented and love to be told how to dress, how to act, what to prepare, etc. in order to satisfy their desire to serve you in some way. Some submissives are all about taking whatever their Top dishes out, be it spanking, bondage, etc.

The only way to know what excites her is to ask her! When I bottom for someone, it is usually because they want to do something that trips my submissive trigger, and I am quite comfortable talking with a prospective Top about what I like...there are things I have no interest in bottoming for, and some things I won't bottom for for safety's sake, but the only way to find that out about your girl is to ask her!

And, if you're lucky, you won't hear "I want to do whatever pleases you" LOL !!

dave449712 years ago2676 reads

The Mind of a Sub

I've recently been seeing a sub provider. I'm not that into the Dom part but do find it stimulating to provide directions and thinking of the session beforehand is a turn on but I'm not sure of the motivation of the sub partner. What is it that excites her and is the direction and anticipation also a turn on for her? Not sure how far to push things and it's not in my nature to want to humiliate or hurt anyone. Looking for some advice or suggestions to better the experience for both of us.

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MistressKiley12 years ago900 reads

You asked...

"What is it that excites her and is the direction and anticipation also a turn on for her?"

How do we know? Ask her! Some subs are sexually submissive only, and aren't really interested in having a Top tell them what to wear and how to act, unless those things are directly related to the sex acts that are to follow Some submissives are more service oriented and love to be told how to dress, how to act, what to prepare, etc. in order to satisfy their desire to serve you in some way. Some submissives are all about taking whatever their Top dishes out, be it spanking, bondage, etc.

And, if you're lucky, you won't hear "I want to do whatever pleases you" LOL !!

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dave449712 years ago636 reads

Re: You asked...

Thank you Mistresskiley.

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MILFCARESSA12 years ago1080 reads

the motivation and expiration thereof...

I swing dominant and submissive...it is a mood and desire thing. For me, the only way to truly understand myself as a human being along with the sexual me is to experience both tops and bottoms. After all we are one organism with complicated twists and turns but we all had a head and a tail. Agreed with previous statements, the most sensual organ we command is the one the sits squarely within the skull. Talk with your provider if you are in the Dom role and see where she will go...but remember this is a relationship that builds over time. I would assume to really experience this with one provider it will take time...time like months of sessions. The trust has to be built...as for the ladies who just tell you you can do 1, 2, 3...but not 6,7,8, well, this is too script to really fell the sensual texture a a true BDSM experience. Certainly open to ongoing convo here or in my inbox if this is a curiosity you would like to explore further. Happy hunting, luv!