sensual domination to full on BDSM?
I love the idea of power exchange for the pleasuring of my partner. Being used aggressivley for her pleasure is one of my greatest turn ons. I gladly submit to the use of toys, bondage, blindfolds, etc. but I crave the "full service" aspect of an escort.
Where is the line drawn? Is it agressive escort or BDSM light?
Any input would be appreciated
it's your experience.........and no one is going to take you farther than you are willing to go. So you can work with a pro and create your own customized session.
If there is a line of any kind, then it's really the negotiation between you and your provider about whether or not pain is to be part of your experience, and whether or not sex will be part of your experience.
In my book, BDSM is basically any form of "safe, sane and consensual" power exchange. That could be as simple as spanking your lover's ass while she's riding you, or lightly biting/nibbling on her erogenous zones as she cums, which are now fairly mainstream activities, even though this is exactly the type of mixing of pain with pleasure that we do.
I believe I covered this before, but there are a little-publicized segment of our community known as "pain free players". They like the notion of power exchange, but their play is entirely sensual (tying someone up and then teasing them with feathers, tickling, ice cubes, etc.). Sort of like the bit in "9 1/2 WEEKS" with Mickey Rourke and Kim Basinger.
It's really up to what you want to try. As other posts have suggested, negotiate the scene beforehand, ask any new play partner to start slow, use "safe words", and you'll be fine.