BDSM

Well, you have your worldview of BDSM and I have mine. eom
mmboston2008 8 Reviews 36654 reads
posted
1 / 13

Does this sort of play interest anyone?  Would you ever bring another party along for some play and pleasure?  

http://xhamster.com/movies/589921/lesbian_slave.html  

hardwood35m 61 Reviews 27686 reads
posted
2 / 13

I guess if you are on this board then the answer is that there are aspects of this video that are interesting to you.  Either as a submissive or as a dominant.

LeChiffre 3 Reviews 29933 reads
posted
3 / 13

I'll leave it up to the others as well, but I'd personally prefer that this board not be about sharing kinky videos (and infringing on copyrights of others) or "Meet Market" queries.  FetLife is probably a better forum for that sort of thing.  If you are interested in finding providers to reenact a specific scene, THEN this kind of post might be appropriate.

By all means, we do want to DISCUSS your interests here and experiences with professional and lifestyle players.  But, as moderator, I'd prefer not to have to spend time watching linked videos to see what I should (and shouldn't) remove as appropriate content.  I also don't want TER to get into legal trouble.

If anyone is the copyright holder of a video and wants to post their own original material, feel free to do so.

mmboston2008 8 Reviews 32151 reads
posted
4 / 13

Sorry!  I posted it on the local board, and it was moved here.  My question should be "Does this interest you and are you interested in having a real life encounter that would explore some of these themes."

Posted By: hardwood35m
I guess if you are on this board then the answer is that there are aspects of this video that are interesting to you.  Either as a submissive or as a dominant.  

mmboston2008 8 Reviews 34846 reads
posted
5 / 13

Understood and agreed.  Although a link is not a copyright violation or else the whole internet would close down.

joleneineugene 31358 reads
posted
6 / 13

are far too vague. "This sort" of play how? The sub part or the dom part; which will you be? "This sort"? The sexual part or the BDSM part?

If it's sexual, then you're not looking at BDSM, you're looking for a provider who will indulge you in role-playing. If it's BDSM, then contact a provider who specializes in that. FWIW, this video (what little I watched of it) is someone's fantasy of what they think BDSM is all about. Normally, sex is sex and BDSM doesn't have sex as we think of it.

BDSM is sexy and sensual and highly erotic, but it often doesn't have sex as part of its playing.

What precisely do you want to do?

EveAlexander See my TER Reviews 30490 reads
posted
7 / 13

I'll agree the video is contrived. I'll also agree that most "pro dommes" do not have intercourse with their clients, or at least will not publicly admit to it. However:

1) Professional Dom/mes often keep sex off the menu for legal reasons as much as anything. There's also the political issue in sex work of trying to "validate" one's profession by separating from and demeaning the other forms. Porn actors validate their profession by claiming they are actors and "legal," as well as tested. Pro Dom/mes use the issue of sex to separate themselves from escorts and porn (though they have no problem rationalizing the use of a prosthesis to nail a guy in the ass). It's similar to how people will watch the shit fly on Jerry Springer, and say to themselves "at least I'm not THAT guy," using a sense of superiority to sooth personal insecurities. (These are generalizations. Not every porn actor, pro dom/me, or escort demeans other forms of sex work to justify their own career. You do, however, see this often, all the way down to who certain sex related non-profit legal organizations will and won't assist, and their justifications for such divisions.)

2) Professional domination has very little to do with how BDSM is widely practiced in the "real world." As Midori once commented to a friend of mine "I don't get all this spiritual stuff around Shibari. When you boil it down, the whole point is to fuck them. It's all about sex." (Majorly summarizing that previous statement.)

With all due respect, the statement "BDSM doesn't have sex as we think of it" smacks of as much knowledge and understanding about the big broad world of BDSM as that video possesses.

Furthermore, why must someone contact a provider who specializes in BDSM? We all start somewhere, and we all have a wide range of interests. Why must it be a professional "menu item" for someone to inquire? I believe the operative word here is "play," and the only list of dos and don'ts in play is "safe, sane, and consensual." All else is fair game, and the only restrictions you choose to declare in this game apply to you and no one else.

Posted By: joleneineugene
are far too vague. "This sort" of play how? The sub part or the dom part; which will you be? "This sort"? The sexual part or the BDSM part?

If it's sexual, then you're not looking at BDSM, you're looking for a provider who will indulge you in role-playing. If it's BDSM, then contact a provider who specializes in that. FWIW, this video (what little I watched of it) is someone's fantasy of what they think BDSM is all about. Normally, sex is sex and BDSM doesn't have sex as we think of it.

BDSM is sexy and sensual and highly erotic, but it often doesn't have sex as part of its playing.

What precisely do you want to do?

hardwood35m 61 Reviews 28143 reads
posted
9 / 13

And I would love to meet you someday.

I agree with you.  I've had many pro-dom sessions that did not include a happy ending.  That's actually because I like it that way.  It feels more real to me somehow when she and I both know that's not why I'm there.  but I've also had a few where she said, "I need to cum and I want you to help me ..."  For me that is such a turn on.  It is unexpected.  It is in the moment.  It is real.  (like a person who said, "I don't need a lot of foreplay, I just really want someone to eat my pussy ..." And she meant it.  When I got there all the signs were clear and it didn't take long.  When she came she hugged me.  It was a real moment.  

In all of the things we do, I think the thing that is most rare and most interesting is what's most real.

And I would love to meet you someday.  Juls has invited me and I've just never been able to go.  But one of the reasons I would love to go is because you are there ..

...wood.

Dr Who revived 33478 reads
posted
10 / 13

BDSM is a very different segment of the "sex world" as most would think about it.  Many of the videos (and I didn't watch this one...but I have seen more than my fair share) are contrived, just as regular sex videos are for "show" (but think about how many guys try and emulate what they see on there).  If you were to look at all the various discussed types of BDSM play it will far outweigh your typical sex with an "escort".  But in many cases each participant has a niche they gravitate towards.  

I have experimented with several types of BDSM play over a length period (yet never making it a full time endeavor).  At one point in my play sex was simply a non-issue as that was never part of the game I was interested in at that time.  However, over the years if I found the right lady to play with, sex in various forms became an important cog in the entirety.  But that sex was not anything that a non-player would perhaps have any interest in being involved in.  For the most part, much of BDSM is a power trip.  For the Dom(me) they have the power of control...and yet the sub has something quite similar...yet opposite (as I recently learned first hand).  

Whatever type of play one wishes, in the BDSM world almost nothing is considered taboo.  Perhaps that is what attracts me to it on so many levels.  And sex, at least for me, is achieved now on many different planes as well when I am into the BDSM world.  And in some instances, orgasm is far from the final destination...but sex is a tool on the journey.

mmboston2008 8 Reviews 31093 reads
posted
11 / 13

Thanks for the response.  Here's what I posted (below).   Sorry I seem to have missed you when you were in Boston.  Perhaps next time!
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Thanks for asking.  I am looking for someone dominant or submissive, who has their counterpart available.  Predominantly (no pun intended), they would engage in BDSM charged sex.  I would watch or casually participate.  I am professional, extremely experienced with BDSM, and new to Boston, where the scene is much less accessible than NYC, where I lived previously.  Hope that helps.  

mmboston2008 8 Reviews 31877 reads
posted
12 / 13

Thanks for asking.  I am looking for someone dominant or submissive, who has their counterpart available.  Predominantly (no pun intended), they would engage in BDSM charged sex.  I would watch or casually participate.  I am professional, extremely experienced with BDSM, and new to Boston, where the scene is much less accessible than NYC, where I lived previously.  Hope that helps.

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