I signed up for 30 days of VIP again just to check out the reviews of a couple of ladies I intend to see and once again I can't believe how boring 99.9 percent of them are. We did this, then moved to that, and then this, and then some more of that same old thing and blah, blah, blah, until ... whatever.

Here's the problem:

Many gals will do some really off the wall stuff, but they want to keep that hidden because they will only do it with guys whom they feel really comforable with, not just any Tom, Dick or Harry.

So, they do the kinky stuff but warn their clients not to mention it in a review, etc.

I don't know what the solution is except to see those that strike you as the most open-minded, really respect their boundaries until they have some rapport with you, then open up and reveal your twisted-self to them.

Sometimes such an investment really pays off, and sometimes it doesn't

That's the name of this game.

Some of the gals might do some "kinky" stuff on an initial date, but it may very well depend on what you actually are looking for.  And you might think that your "fetish" is perverted, but in reality most of the gals have heard and seen it all before.

But mrfisher is spot on (as usual) in that many gals would be much more likely to accomodate this after an initial date.  Frankly, that has been the approach I have taken as my bondage (the gals are bound and gagged requires a trust that I'm not a NUT) requests require a trust component that only can be accomplished through at least one GFE type session.  I have had only one exception to that (and I also reviewed that session..her request to be reviewed...but that is the ONLY session with a gal involving bondage as most gals prefer to keep that activity UTR).

You need to do some inquiries and perhaps if you contact (PM) a reviewer of a gal you want to see, he might be able to provide some insight as to the gals BDSM interest (and in particular the activity that YOU have an interest in).  Recently I had another TER member contact me regarding a fairly "benign" type of fetish (cross dressing) and he was curious if a gal I had seen might be available to indulge him.  I did ask my gal pal if this was an activity that she would do on an initial visit and she, without blinking, said "it would be fun".  But I suspect if you are seeking a pain type session or some activity that would require some levels of trust, you would need to "work towards that goal".

I read the reviews too & lots seem to have a routine I do not!

Have fun reading mine! I also have an identical twin & all our duo reviews are a great read too!

xoxo

I get a lot of guys who IM or email me and want to do things that I consider simply a part of having normal sex, but they think it is soooooo kinky!

I know what I consider perverted, but I am also probably way more perverted than most

So far I've been pretty successful at reading between the lines. Haven't gone wrong yet actually.

Problem is that initial date would probably get pretty boring.

I have had some success finding the right ladies for what I'm into though. It actually seems to be getting easier lately for some reason.

For years I saw a provider who was very plain vanila:  Everything was covered, no COB even; but I saw her because she was very pretty, exotic (Eastern Indian) and had a wonderful personality.

Then one day she let slip that she better start drinking up some beer as she has a client due over soon who likes golden showers.  Oh really?, I said...

And thus started a new phase of our relationship.

Well, there's DATY and then there's down-on-your knees DATY.

LOL !! Include some smothering (I like to decide when you can breathe) then maybe you are verging on kinky

K

I like the saying:

I'm sexually adventurous; she's kinky; but he's a PERVERT!!  It's kinda like the George Carlin joke about how anyone driving slower than you is an idiot, but anyone driving faster than you is a maniac.