With unusual level of stress recently, I am in sort of irregular libido stages. Get really horny for a few hours of the day, and everything wears off, etc. I keep finding myself booking for an appointment couple hours later in the day (when I'm horny), only to realize my desires die off when the time comes and I finally meet the lady. Maybe I anticipate too much into the hour and things just wear off. I don't know..

I have encountered VERY "experienced" GFE-only ladies and I haven't had any issues in terms of staying horny the whole session (because they know exactly what to do in between pops ), but often most ladies aren't as pro as the rare gems I've seen.  

I was just eye browsing the threads under and looks like some bondage (teasing, etc) could help in this situation? Should I look for ladies who have experience in light bondage? Instead of me trying to force myself to somehow stay horny entire session, I feel like I need a provider who can help steer me to the right direction during the session - taking control of the situation, perhaps, I should say.

I don't know if it's the ladies I see or me just being super stressed lately, but recently with all gals I met, I felt like just fucking a box (sorry for the lack of more proper term..). There really isn't much of a "spark" throughout the session.

What can I try? I would appreciate any feedback in advance! Totally new to this BDSM scene, and don't want to rely on popular media and get wrong ideas stuck in my head permanently... Thanks in advance to the community!

One of the wonderful things about this hobby is finding out the myriad of things that turn me on.

A few years ago I would have never guessed that a bit of pain would turn me on, but it does.  I tried bondage too, but found that a dud.

Experiment with things and see what works for you.

I used to have old fetish stuff which really got me excited and going during the session. But all that "spark" (?) really seemed to disappear in the past few years.  

I will just think of some old fetish fantasy I had and look around light BDSM stuff I could try. Make a wish list or something haha.. Trying to find a lady that does all I want within GFE + experienced enough for light BDSM without breaking a bank is getting closer to mission impossible lol.

these ladies are based in Chicago, and blend kink, bdsm, and GFE seamlessly:

Me!  
Alyson Parker
Eva Godiva
Elle Solo

There's also a slew of ladies, including Robin Ardeur, in New York. A lot of ladies who advertise on The Art Of Submission are switches, and would fit the bill as well.  

Zoey Zacquery and Tori Valentine are also fetish friendly ladies! They tour quite a bit as well, and may end up in your area.  

Personally, I'd look for ladies who are very kink and BDSM oriented. Those ladies are going to be able to help guide you through sessions and help you figure out what you're looking for. They should also have the skill to execute techniques properly and not cause any injuries/issues.  

Good luck to you!

Maybe a naturally dominant woman who loves to take control...

One of those type of sessions could keep you on the edge the entire session. Just make sure she is a certified practitioner, as some put it in their ads, but have no clue what the proper protocol is. Also many practitioners come from various aspect of the industry ... GFE / FBSM / BDSM ... so depending how long you wish to play, they can accommodate you accordingly.

Tease and Denial is always fun with you being tied up so that you can get all the tease without starting yourself. I love tease and denial with light bondage. It is definitely a way to keep the action going and by the end you are truly worn out and satisfied.

Much Kinks,
Magickal Kassie Kink