How does one find them?

I've had zero success.


HH

You have asked here which is probably a good start.

Also post on in search of board with location(s) that is appropriate.

THere will be mostly Doms, but you'll find a few subs.  There are some good subs out there.

Depends on what you need them for...

Never been into "the lifestyle" as I understand it to be. Never been to groups, event or scenes.

My experience has been exploration as a dominant male within personal relationships, where BDSM had nothing to do with the formation of the relationship. Which had always included sexual play along with it.


HH

I book a multiple hour appointment with a provider. First round is normal. Second round I introduce her to the toys I have. So far 3 for 3 recently they have been willing to let me put them in restraints.

I have been doing this for years I have a good way to look at a providers ad to see who is willing.

Most have never had had guy put them in restraints and have fs with them.

Most larger pro BDSM dungeons have a staff that consists of Dommes/Tops, Switches and submissives.  Since a submissive might be allowing herself to be tied up, she's naturally going to be selective about where and with whom she plays.  Most submissives do not incorporate sexual acts as part of their play, but there are rare exceptions.

I can personally vouch for our very own submissann.  She's a wonderful play partner and the "real deal" (i.e., someone legitimately into the lifestyle).

What part of the world are you in, HalfHour?

Thank you kindly!

~a

your Dom/Fetish listings on Backpage may lead you to a Domme who also switches, and you might be able to hook up with her as the bottom.

I switch, particularly if the Top is interested in something I particularly enjoy. I am lifestyle, and started out as a submissive, but quickly learned that, Top, bottom, upside-down or sideways, it is all a qhole heck of a lot of fun!