There must be a lady in the area who enjoys providing pleasure and pain in equal measure, who will hush the moans of erotic pain with her passionate kisses and will make full use of a sub's offering of his body and mind for her pleasure (and, if he earns it, his pleasure). Switches are fine (as I switch myself), as long as she truly understands and enjoys what she's doing and is as engrossed by the mental aspects as the physical aspects.

The ProDommes who advertise in the area are very clear that they are not "prostitutes" (their language, not mine). There seems to be an aversion to mixing BDSM with anything approaching a GFE. I'm not sure why, as this does not seem to be a problem in other parts of the country, if the ladies who advertise here are any indication.

I'd love to gain some insight from the ladies here who either provide some form of GFE/BDSM experience, by whatever name you want to call it, or who strictly separate the two activities. Why do you choose one approach over the other?