In order to truly appreciate the BDSM life style I think it's best to play both ways.  I've seen providers that were subs and ladies that are doms.  Enjoy them both.  Had a mistress that was a switch and one day she'd be tied to my Tetruss and I'd tease her, whip her and generally abuse her. Then the next time she'd secure me and do the same to me.  Both are HOT as hell.  Orgasms are great but the correct build up to the finale make all the difference in the world.  It's hard to tell someone that pain can lead to intense pleasure if done right.

I started as Dom, but appreciate all aspects of BDSM fun & feel you need to experience first hand in order to realize this fun fact.