I find that in my true self, I like to be in control. But I am always the GFE type. So, I inturn label myself as a "Sensual Domina".."Sensual Mistress"... I love the idea of taking a man..kissing him soft and gently at first, and then taking control of him in every sense of the word... Being in charge as it were, but I am a very passionate person in everything I do including the bedroom. I love tease and denial, role-play and partake in several fetishes. I find it in my nature to "lead" as it were in these type of situations.

I have heard it said.." she cant be a DOmina if she is GFE"..I beg to differ and I am sure I am not the only one.

So here is my questionfinally)

Why cant she be GFE and a Mistress? Wouldnt one think that is the best of two worlds combined?


I know I do and I have yet to have any complaints
But I am curious as to what others think.........

You said it!

I agree, so why can a GFE not be an Domina?  

This is not a question we will be able to answer because I think the majority have evolved to understand they go hand & hand.  I have never been a traditional Mistress & am happy to say I am not aspiring to be a mind control freak.  Boring...

Fun is when you have no limits & can safely combined all aspects of adult play!

We can debate until the cows come home, but either way you slice the cake the argument boils down to prostitution.  This is an adult industry.  It is not off the wall to know, or think that in my opinion these, so called REAL Dominatrix are not getting off, nor allowing pleasure to select few worthy piggys...


If you are a real life-style player you know what I am talking about!  Some get married & to long time subs.  On Maxfisch is the worst, but I still post their because it is what it is.  I am honest, and some are not.  These, so called REAL PRO's date their subs, and have sex with them making them their boyfriends. More, than likely play a switch in the bed sometime.  I don't do this with anyone else. blah blah blah!  Who cares if a woman wants it in her ass that is her body & more fun for someone else. Who are you to judge?

They can become harassing & disrespectful when visiting other cities.  Not professional, so I say do not judge anyone because I do not care to be judged when I just love to caca and bless a small privileged few with my sweet natural showers.  lol Smile 4 me!



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I started off as a companion just over 2 years ago and as you can see from my reviews I a very sensual and passionate person myself but as I started to learn more about the industry I've been gradually venturing over to the Dom side of things. Since I moved into my new incall roughly 6 months ago, the first thing my returning companion gents see is a wall full of whips, ropes and blindfolds and as I explain the majority say " you, a dom, noway .... your too sweet" but read my recent review. Just because I'm a sweet person doesn't mean I wont put you on your knees, slip a blindfold on you and .......

Some days I feel like being a companion , Some days a Dom and some days all I want to do is massages. So what if I mix them up here and there .... that doesn't make me not a Dom just "thee Ultimate Companion"  lol .... seriously thou, my gents love that one day they can come for a spanking and the next a relaxing sensual massage or GFE date. My guys are happy which is all that matters to me so just label me as AWESOME

 DEAR TER : please start an AWESOME section for us ladies who can do it all ...Thank you

says who? I started out as a full BDSM Dominatrix..It helped me personally and I enjoyed every moment of it.When I no longer felt the love behind what I did, I moved over to sensual Domina..I didnt ask anyones permission ...

I have several clients who are my pets and I enjoy that aspect of what I do. They enjoy their role in our sessions and giving pleasure is what I am all about, whether it be as being thier Mistress or whatever the moment calls for.. Its what "I" enjoy also. And although my main goal is suppose to be what my subs enjoy, it is also about what I enjoy. Hell that is the reason I got into this in the first place. Money is just an extra turn on for me. I don't do anything I don't personally enjoy. I also seem to attract the type of person who just wants to submit one way or another...

This p4p has been a long time fantasy of mine after being married for what seemed a 100 years..

But I would never let some one try and tell me " Youa re a hooker with a dildo"..and?? Your point??

I do not understand why everyone has opinions on subjects that really dont pertain to them in life. Are you booking time with me? No? then why the hell you care what I do??

Maybe I am just the type of person who sees the glass as half full instead of half empty.

In this life, I feel noone should judge another. I try my best not to. I certainly do not want to be judged..

And yes, A dom did make an appointment with me thinking he could control me as it were. It didnt work out for him.. and I left with his money like I knew I would..  

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What a wonderful way of putting it from a providers viewpoint.  As a hobbiest, sometimes I seek that "twist/kink", but these activities are not my only interest in the hobby.  

I too consider myself very passionate, and away from  my real life, sometimes crave the freedom to NOT be in control and yet be able to explore, have my buttons pushed, and experience a bit of taboo.   If I find a partner who is comfortable in  tease and denial.... even to a bit of an extreme, or will allow me to partake in fetish play... ALL THE BETTER.

I too have explored the "PRO DOM" world, and I find that it is not the mean, sadistic, verbally abusive type that I seek, but rather the person who can take control of me and use me to please us both as SHE desires.  

Thank you all for your input on this matter

The problem comes from the ones who don't.  The women who are domme's but don't offer anything more sensual than that.  I think they have a fear of people thinking they are escorts, so they go out of their way to try to make as big a differentiation as possible.  The thought process is: not only don't they offer romantic services, but anyone who would is just a hooker and not a real domina at all.

I suspect it comes from some form of professional self preservation.  It's also possible that it comes a little bit from having the impression that they are looked down on and wanting someone that they can be superior to.  The bullied kid finding someone else to bully.

And, of course, this is just my own guess and a massive generalization.  There are plenty of domina's who don't offer sexual services who have no problem with others who do.  But I am speaking about the ones who really vocally challenge any domina who is also GFE.

One of the best hobby expereiences involved a mistress who, amoung othet things, totally used me as an object to please herself.  It was really a thrill and the combination of those two worlds made it feel so much more like a "real life" dom/sub experience.

After a few years playing in the BDSM realm, I've come to the conclusion that, for better or worse, there's a pecking order in the Domme world:

1. Domme's who believe any sort of sexual contact is forbidden and not BDSM. Most, not all, Pro Domme's, particularly if they work in a professional dungeon, fall into this category.

2. Domme's who will grant a sub release by using their hand.

3. Domme's who combine a complete escort/GFE experience in a BDSM atmosphere.

Different strokes for different folks.

While I agree there is a pecking order.. I believe you have them in the inverse order.  From a client's point of view... your three is my #1,  and so on ....

All about perspective

I am a more sensual type of domina but I also offer strict sessions....
You may tell me your desires and interests but in the end when the sessions begins there is no guaranteed contact...

Yes, I also offer GFE contact on my escorting site....but honestly anyone who doms knows that as you connect and reconnect with your subbie, your piggy, your slut there is something that grows that goes beyond GFE when you have a good pet. If you want to give your lil' bitch some affection because they earn it, well by all means that is your choice because YOU ARE IN CHARGE...

I think pay doms who act as if that is repulsive are not really in tune that energy of each individual session changes,  blanket rules shouldn't apply so half-ass doms can phone it in...

I have to be honest - I notice this attitude more from American dommes than any other dommes in the world.  And truth be told, it's lame..  We all have freedom of choice to do what we want, right?.  If someone else wants/don't want to do something - that's on them..  Why care?

My opinion reflects on what ive experience through my years of travel and my friends that are in the scene.  In Germany, for instance, there are differentiations on who does what..  You either a slave girl, a traditional domina (meaning no contact on her above the knee), or you are a bizarre lady (meaning you allow more contact).  The key thing all the ladies possess in common - THEY set their own guidelines - guidelines that are discussed PRIVATELY between parties that need to know..  Not all BLs, for instance, allow penetration, or allow worship of bare parts.  Not all slave girls allow their masters to penetrate them, etc...  And not all traditional mistresses not allow release...  Bottom line is, it's all up to individual choice - you the one that have to do the stuff, so do what you feel best and comfortable.  And not everyone wants the same experience..

Of course, this differentiation isn't had here for some reason.  Tbh, there isn't  truly a proper venue for folks to accurately advertise/label that they fall in the 3 categories I spoke of.  Imagine how easier this would be!  

As for me - I am open-minded top..  I'll do what I want, at my will and I have fun.  That's good enough for me - and those that do the research and proper scene negotiation. if people do more/less - not my care, unless I'm in the same venue (for safety reasons..)


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people can do what they want.
I have no problem with girls who provide GFE. I love escorts However, while I have no delusions or qualms that I am a sex worker, that people get off to BDSM, I personally do not provide sex or fluid exchange (unless I'm spitting on someone, lol - make that no *direct* fluid exchange). It's just not for me. But I will provide a kick ass, sizzling hot Domme session.

I think perhaps that some people, Dommes and subs, feel that an escort who also provides some kink on the side or on top, is most likey not be as honed in and deeply focused on the many, many aspects of BDSM fetishes. Many Dommes take it all quite serious and arduously study the psychology, practice and perfect techniques, build dungeons, invest in loads of quality equipment, toys, wardrobe, special furniture, attend workshops, read books, devote themselves to understanding and mastering BDSM on a pretty serious level...

So perhaps they feel that it's just "not fair" when an escort, who hasn't laboriously devoted herself to being a Pro Domme, just picks up a cheap whip from the novelty shop. Lol. (No offense to cheap whips - I myself have several hanging along side my over priced whips Maybe they feel like, while they have a self-made masters degree in BDSM, other people who didn't get that degree are taking their work that they invested so much in... I, personally, don't care but I think that may be how some people feel...
I think everything has it's place and am glad kinky escorts are filling the niche for guys who want that

If anyone ever wants a double time session with the best of both worlds, am not opposed to working in tandom with strippers or escorts
I've actually done sessions before where we called an escort to join... though, not for sex - just to humiliate him in front of her, heheh.