I'm a male sub (no homosexual desires) in NYC who has played in the space for a while now and have recently become interested in forced bi.  Can anyone recommend any mistresses who play with this?  Thanks.

Ultimately, everything in a BDSM relationship (whether pro/client or civvie) is negotiated.  There is always consent given, discussion of hard limits, and "check-in" talks, re-evaluation discussions, safewords, etc.

In the final analysis, the sub (oddly) is the one with the real power.  Without consent, there is no longer a power exchange--it just turns into (real) slavery, and/or an abusive relationship, rape, molestation, or whatever.

Nobody can "force" a guy to suck another guy's cock.  If you want to play out a scene where a mistress "forces" you to suck another guy, that's just saying that you want to somehow rationalize a  way to explore your latent bisexual or homosexual interests ("Well, I would never do that normally, but my Mistress made me do it!"  Yeah, right....).

"Forced bi" is at its base, nothing more than another elaborate fantasy that you play out with your partner (again, pro or civvie, doesn't really matter), no different than interrogation fantasies, kidnapping/abandonment fantasies, age play, or anything else.

You are absolutely correct, but it sure is fun to pretend !!

People have fantasy's that they are looking to act out.  It's called play and that's pretty much what this forum is about.  

Of course he has them, or else he wouldn't be looking for a way to explore them.

Dressing up this desire in a "she made me do it" manner is basically a letting-oneself-off-the-hook mechanism.

If I didn't on some level or another actually desire some of the freaky things that my play partners "inflict" upon me, I could always use the ultimate safeword:

"Fuck this, I'm outa here."

And I'm not complaining about anything.  Just throwing some cold water on those who use the term "forced bi".

Whatever.  Maybe I'm stirring things up in a way that looks like I'm trolling.  If it came off that way, I apologize.  That wasn't my intent.

That term just kind of rubs me the wrong way.

Yes, it's a mechanism for letting oneself off the hook.  So why are you trying to take that away from him?  He's here to get off, not to examine his self identity.

She and I offer duos and trios (we have a gorgeous & hung male TOP we bring into our scenes) together one a month. Sexy, strong and lots of toys to fulfill any true sub's fantasies. I hope you find what your seek.

The content of your last message was, essentially, "I'm sorry if it looked like I was trolling."

[QUOTE]Whatever.  Maybe I'm stirring things up in a way that looks like I'm trolling.  If it came off that way, I apologize.  That wasn't my intent.