I really don't know if this is BDSM or the appropriate place to ask about this scenerio but gotta start somewhere.  

I am looking for a scenario involving two of three women that would spank me, dress me in lingerie and make fun of me. It does not involve pain and does not involve sex. This is all very playful and not necessarily mean.   Is this considered BDSM.

By the way I am in Minneapolis  if anyone knows of a provider that could accommodate.  Thanks.

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Your fantasy is not at all uncommon. The BDSM World Wide Convention has not yet met to define boundaries and certify fantasies, but this would definitely fit if such a meeting ever took place.  
I know a very charming provider who had a client whom she would visit at his apartment.  He would have her come in, take off all her clothes (while he stayed full dressed), and kneel before him and spend the hour begging him to fuck her while he refused and sneered,  
I would consider this within the bounds of BDSM with him being the dom.
Incidentally, after a few sessions like this, she stopped seeing him because she found this upsetting  If she were inherently a sub, she might have enjoyed it.

It points out that often it's the mental wear and tear rather than the physical that is the greater strain.

 
I've heard similar tales from gals.

 
The worst is when a client expects the provider to do nothing except accept relentless racist or otherwise vile insults thrown at them for the entire session, with no physical contact at all.   There isn't enough money in the world to get some people to go for that.

It is a pretty common fetish actually and falls under humiliation by by multiple women. The fetish itself has range too, i.e, how far you want the humiliation to go and what aspects you want included or not. For instance, being a domestic pain, lot of verbal humiliation coupled with physical pain etc. But you seem to know your limits which is a great start!

I don't know any Minneapolis providers but I'd inquire with some of the ProDommes of the area. They may already do duos with other ProDommes or you might want to ask them if they'd be willing to do duos etc.

Contact Mistress Sharina in Minneapolis.