It happened for me when I was around 16, surfing the net for some porn (good porn is so hard to find) and stumbled upon kink dot com and I was instantly hooked! I imagined and dreamed of myself being in the places of those girls bound and gagged, gangbanged, (insert other deviously amazing things here).

Anywho, how did you guys catch the BDSM bug?

Oh! I hadn't looked that far back - thanks!

First my wife was into it before we met, she showed me some porn and it was hot. She wanted me to play that way with her. But I had a major hang up about it. It scared me. There was things in my past that I was afraid it would bring to the front I just couldn't deal with. For the longest time we didn't play that way in any real way. There was small thing like light spankings, mild role play where one would use the other and blind folds but that is where it ends.

Three and a half years ago my wife started escorting and about three years ago I she told me she returned. I felt hurt and betrayed by her lies and her cheating. I decided to stay with her and we worked out our open lifestyle. But much of the trust was gone. After a very hard year, the trust was starting to return and I wanted to show my wife that I still loved her and was trusting her again as she was still walking on egg shells out of guilt. I decided I would explore BDSM with her to show indeed, I trusted her.

These was a huge step for me. I had a violent past. I spent years working on my anger. I was abuse as a child. I had been restrained and gang raped when I was 16. This play scared the living hell out of me. I was afraid I would hurt my wife as a top, and the fear of not being in control as a bottom was huge. Real BDSM play was very scary for me and my wife knew it.

We started playing, The first time I was tied down, I had a flashback of my rape. I was no longer with my wife for a few minutes but was back to a time I was powerless. My wife saying the safe word for me made me realize I was no longer that powerless teen. I am strong. One word and my wife I knew loved me would free me in seconds. I had all the power I need so I could let go of the control. After that session I was hooked. I enjoy being both a top and a bottom. I just love it. Never experienced anything as intense as that first scene again, but still enjoy it greatly.

One day I may look for a pro, but right now I am just enjoying it with my wife.

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in the 80s, the hobby was largely conducted thru brothels and other establishments that advertised in the classified sections of newspapers like "Screw."  I frequented these places and was familiar with the ads for houses of domination.  Out of curiosity, I decided to see what it was like to get dominated, called a place up and made an appointment.  It was sensuous and fine, something I'd do occasionally...then one time as I was coming out of "the room" into the "living room" of the place (on W. 28th, fyi), a very pretty woman was sitting there and we locked eyes.  She introduced herself as I exited. A week later I made an appointment with her.  When we got into the room, she told me she'd dominate me, but that she was really a submissive.  Since I now knew something about domination, I said, "Sure."  So I put cuffs on her and secured her to the St Andrew's cross and blindfolded her...and then, something happened....I was in a totall new headspace:  I was a dom, and I loved it!!  Have never looked back!!!

I knew I was interested in BDSM before I even knew the "facts of life" at all.  When you grow up as a sci-fi and comic book geek, there are no end of scantily-clad, anatomically impossible women who are both dominant warrior women or slaves (or both).  I remember re-reading certain comic books over and over again, breathing hard, and still not understanding why I found them so compelling.

Once I "discovered myself" and found some porn (mostly not photo stuff like Playboy, more print stuff like Penthouse's "Forum" and "Variations" magazines) I was able to put it all together.

I was even lucky enough to meet/date/mess around with BDSM-curious women when I was in college, so I got a jump on many people who don't really get a chance to explore kinks like this until well into their 20s.

I enjoy vanilla sex also, but kink is something that really gets me going..

I would say that I am now open to it.

The turning point was a few years ago, when a gal talked me into letting her pinch me very hard.  She got off on doing that, I guess.  At first I considered it rather off-putting, but in time I came around to enjoying it because of the endorphin release it provided.

Since then, I've found a few gals willing to do stuff like use floggers and riding crops on me, and I'm building up my tolerance as to what I can take.  One gal said I'm up to a 7 now on the proverbial 1-10 scale (very noticable red welts, as she puts it), so that's not too shabby.

Some day maybe I'll go for the bull whip.

And the pinch lady?  I just saw her a few weeks ago after a long hiatus, and enjoyed it as much as ever.

I'm not into bondage however.  The one time I did try that did not end well.

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I think it starts at a young age.  I was 3 when I knew I did not want to be, like the other girls.  My twin especially.  Lol!  I would dress up in my older brothers clothes & underwear.  I always felt more dominant, than others & have always been very outspoken.  My twin & I wrestled on the boys team in middle, and high school.  I was introduced to BDSM during my college years.  I knew I was a top, but learned everything from an older gent who was a PHD.  He would train me once a week at his home for an hour & donated $1,000 for my time.  This mature gent introduced me to this life-style & I now have respect for all top, bottom, switch, etc. He taught me almost everything 1st hand.

 
I discovered years ago that I truly enjoy blessing worthy individuals with my top shelf treats!

Champagne & Caviar Dreams?  I am the Golden & Brown Shower Master!

I used to play with another little 4 year old boy that I thought the world of. We used to go up to an empty field with tall grass.. and he would tell me to get on all fours and crawl around like a little doggy.. and he would put his hand in my panties and pat my pussy ever so lightly.  It was all very innocent and yummy and it felt SO good!  Add to that all the childhood games of cowboys and Indians and getting tied to trees. GREAT childhood for sure!

When you could openly browse a Playboy or Penthouse in the bookstore because they were right on the shelf next to Time and Life, I (I think I was 12 at the time and figuring out how hot naked chicks were, LOL!) got my hands on a Hustler, and the first page I opened it to was a piece of porn fiction that started with a description of a guy in black leather with a young lady fucking herself on his boot while being fed his cock as he held onto her by a leash.

I knew right then that one day I needed to be that girl, hot damn!!

I have always been a sensation addict, I remember using all different kinds of things when I was figuring out masturbation. I still have a fondness for jalapenos, LOL !! Then, mid-20's I got my first spanking and that was all she wrote, I have been playing and experimenting and enjoying kink ever since then.

Oh, and I have been that girl a few times, too.

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As  Jr in high school, my girl friend and I would mess around in my bedroom when the opportunity arose. I had some toy hand cuff that one could easily break out of. At the spur of the moment I cuffed her hands together above her head to the head board. Then I proceeded to tease her nipples for the longest time. DATY was next. She was so wet, hot, bothered and tasty! Flipped around for 69 and got the best BBBJ of my young adolescent life. Finally, went at her in missionary several times. Undid the cuffs and just laid there for what seem like hours. I was hooked. I drove her home later, she when told me she loved everything except the cuffs. Being respectful, we never used he cuffs again. Many years later as an adult I finally got to explore further.

I first got interested as a kid when I was watching that campy Batman series (with Adam West) in the 70s. I remember my complete infatuation with Catwoman, who inspired my first real erection.

In college, I discovered some BDSM magazines and have been hooked ever since then. Back then, it was a challenge to find local dommes, but I did eventually find a few massage parlor girls who would tie you up, drop hot wax on you, and play with your prostate.  

I still haven't done a Batman/Catwoman role play but that's on my sexual bucket list.

Me too.  I was tying myself up when I was very young (6 or so).  Long before it became sexy.

When I was around 8 or 9 after school when I was at my sitters house her granddaughter and 2 other girls that were at the sitters house had a ballet class after school. All of these girls were a year or two older than me and when they got to the sitters house they would have their fun torturing me for 2 or 3 hours and usually it would turn into ball busting in the ballet slippers. The 3 of them really enjoyed those times because I wouldn't even resist I just let them have their way. To this day I have a strong fetish for women wearing ballet slippers, with pretty feet and legs.
In 2002 I ran into the granddaughter in LA and we chatted and she reminded me of what her and her friends used to do to me when we were kids and how much she enjoyed those times together, needless to say we hooked up the next day and I let her dominate me again while wearing ballet slippers.

This is a fascinating story. Thanks for sharing. I have heard about a person getting triggered while in the Dominant or submissive role. This is a good example of how that can happen. I especially like the part where you realized that you are in control of whether or not you remain in bondage. How wonderful that you have found healing thru BDSM.