Its hard to believe it though she has such a great reputation, numerous hobbyist have recommended her. I say give her another chance surely she will make it up to you.

Maybe she's just still enamoured with that new "toy" that she's been bragging about. I say just move on and forget about the discounted / "let me make it up to you" offer. Remember the definition of insanity?
What pisses me off more than anything is the rates that these women charge (and with a straight face I might add) in this economy and yet have no value for a clients time or efforts. Don't think for a second that if you had done her the way that she has you, that your name wouldn't have ended up on the Atlanta Blacklist.

I've seen NCNS's with all types and it's frustratingly annoying!

Okay, this has happened before and like so many suggest, I just move on and chalk it up as being lucky that I found out she was a flake early on!  Also, the old John Proctor would’ve posted the following under an alias, but Roanoke & Squeezeum, through their recent posts have emboldened me.

I had confirmed an appointment with Caitlin Kincaid for 1:00 on Friday, August 26th, and took off ½ day of work so I wouldn’t be rushed and because she hadn’t booked the hotel incall yet, I didn’t know how long it would take me to drive to the location.  The night before she let me know the location, but at approximately 11:00 the day of, I get a “… can we do 2:00, I hate to ask, but I’m running late….”, so I said sure, no big deal since I had taken ½ the day off.   Then at a few minutes until 2:00 I get a text (of course I was already at the hotel) that she had to cancel due to a family situation and she had to drive to South Carolina.  Okay, you can’t argue with that (even when you have your doubts, what can you do?), so I just thought fine, I’ve heard she is flaky from others and to expect on again/off again attempts to schedule but that she can be worth it.  She informed me she would contact me when she returned to Atlanta so we could reschedule.

I waited until Sept 9 and didn’t hear a word. Again, no big deal, so I sent a pm to see if she was interested in rescheduling.  She replied with an apology that she had not contacted me and that she had been “super busy renovating her house” but she was working that weekend if I wanted to get together.  I couldn’t, but received another PM from Caitlin that Sunday night - “Ok, this week I'm around all week… Let's play.. I'm offering you a $300 hour session since I've been so difficult”.

Feeling like Charlie Brown with Lucy holding the football, we agreed on 4:00 yesterday (Wed.), I took another ½ day off work and Caitlin confirmed that morning and said she would text me the hotel name/address around 2:30.  2:30 came and went, and I sent a few texts, one of which I explained I really needed to know a location by 3:00 in order to make a 4:00 appointment. Nothing. I started calling at 3:00 and got voice mails for ½ hour and then decided to call Caitlin from a phone she wouldn’t recognize. Yes, you guessed it, she answered.  I hung up, but she must have realized her screw up and I got a text immediately:  “Sorry, I didn’t realize my phone had died and I didn’t get your texts/calls.”  I asked her if she didn’t realize it was dead when she was supposed to contact me at 2:30?  She then said she fell  asleep and that is why she didn’t contact me then!  I then asked Caitlin if she fell asleep at the hotel or at home?  She answered home and then realized she had been caught in lies.

She has apologized, asked if she could make it up to me with ½ off any session duration, etc, etc, but who in their right mind would fall for that a third time?  I have wasted a good deal of my very valuable time on someone who believes her time and life is much more important than anyone else’s, and yes I am pissed.  I calculate my income to be about $2,500 a day and took two ½ days off.  How the hell can she possibly make it up to me?

Okay, whiteknights. Take your best shot, but I hope I’ve prevented someone else from making the same stupid mistake I made.  Screw me once, she on you, screw me twice, …..  

I don't understand this.
I'm a big fan of trying to get into another person's shoes, imagining what must be going on with them to have them behave the way they behave.... but this one I just don't get.

The two scenarios that come to mind are: 1) She's so busy that she doesn't value individual clients or 2) She's dealing with a drug addiction.

Other than that, I don't get it. The only time I've cancelled an appointment was when I caught a cold, and was sneezing and coughing so profusely that I would have been insane to put myself near ANY human being. In that case, I contacted both the night before.

I relate to every client like their time is as valuable and important as mine.
I'm so sorry you had this experience.

She apparently has some sort of a positive reputation, but there's no mistaking that she flaked on you.  It could be that she sensed some kinda *red flag* from your conversations and didn't have the nerve to just decline the appointment.  If that was the case, then it makes no sense to offer you a "make it up to you" appointment.

I'd expect more professional behavior, for the price point, if not just demonstrating common courtesy.

Move on...

sorry for your hassles

Without all of JP's details I've had virtually the same experience with CK.  In fact, I am at home now because she NCNS on a meeting at 6:00 this evening.  Our previous session, she called me as I was walking into the hotel to tell me she had an emergency at home and couldn't stay.  At least now I know her behavior isn't about me.

The part that aggravates me is the lost time.  Hobbiests do our own preparations; scheduling work so we can get away, grooming, buying the bottle of champagne I like, going to the bank to be sure I have the funds, getting an envelope, big and small stuff, some is even stupid stuff but it is what we do to make the get together what we want it to be.  

I rarely post about my activities but Proctor's post was too coincidental to not comment on. I appreciate everybody being patient with my vent.

Z

Not to make light of your misfortune, but the Charlie Brown analogy was funny! I am sorry that happened to you, and bravo to you on having the sack to tell it here. (you too, Roanoke and Squeezeum)
Like you, it takes me half a day to hobby. But if NCNS happens, I call someone else and usually manage to make another appointment. That way the time spent away from other obligations doesn't go to waste.

Interestingly, a friend whom was having a birthday last week asked me to do a search for him.  Knowing what he likes she was my choice for him.  When he contacted her there was some nonsense about phone problems.  This broad has no class and does not deserve your company.

This bitch clearly is a doper, classic drug addict behavior.  I guess that is why I like to stick with ladies that have longevity in the business like Payton or Sammie Jo.  These new, young, hot chicks always turn out to be pains in the ass!

The 3rd time was the charm.

Sorry, she'd never get a 3rd chance from me. May very well be my loss....I'd just have to live with it.

She is certainly beautiful with great reviews....but obviously erratic behavior.

wow ....

There are way to many out there who are both hot and reliable. I would leave CK alone and let her continue on her path of self-destruction.

Why would he want to try again. It's time to move on. There are So many great ladies in Atl that JP will never miss her. This behavior is completely unacceptable.

I assume you don't intend to make it 3 strikes your out. No apology is good enough at this point. See any of the other spectacular ladies that Atl has to offer and enjoy. Don't give her another thought.

In one corner Caitlin Kincaid:
Pro - Hot, considered a higher level provider, posts on respectable sites, well reviewed, great time when your with her...
Con - Pricy, you get a confirmed appointment but NCNS, you get a confirmed appointment but NCNS, and so on...

The the other corner Tiny:
Pro - Hot, inexpensive, you can count on her to be laying there...
Con - Poor reviews, considered a lower lever provider, post on well you know, and you can count on her to be laying there...

And the winner is!!!!!

There are some all around great providers out there and there some crappy ones, I really appreciate the honest opinions for a change.

I read a ton of false reviews or hyped up reviews and everyone wants to use an alias when posting something honest or just the flat out brutal truth.

If someone is a NCNS I want to know.

If a performance was crappy let it be known but hey I'm just a rookie.

All I know is I take everything I read on here with a HUGE grain of salt.

I had very similar experience with this lady.  Swore I would never play the fiddler three tune with her, but.......

I did. (busty blondes, are like chocolate at a weight loss clinic, eventually they overwhelm your will power)

Third time was the charm and the session was amazing.  She left me extremely well sated.

Hate that she has this tendency, but her make up sex session was really hot.  I would consider scheduling her, but schedule early so you have options.  Also, my experience with her show longer time sessions seem to have more success than short.

So not white knighting her, I cannot tell you how pissed off I was the to times she nsnc, but once I understood all the factors, and the thing that scared her off first time, I was able to find willingness to try third time.

Just a thought

I had unique event causing the first nsnc, another provider interfered.  Second time, we had an address issue, too many of same hotel brands in same area.

Had the reasons not been unusual and partly my fault, I may mot have given her third try.  My back up sessions with ladies I tried impromptu (watch list and regular that were available and willing to take short notice calls) were great, so I was not left unfulfilled.  Once we talked, I was able to get my big head around tryingone more time.

So for me, the story had happy endings with each nsnc.  The third time was a four hour session, and well worth the price I paid.  No problem with subsequent scheduling.  If you have not had provider make up sex, you might be missing something.

As to rest of comments, I would always have a back up plan when working with indies.  In last two years, I have had maybe 12 nsnc or very late cancellations.  Only twice with agencies.  Some extremely high profile indies are in that list of nsnc.  The classiest lady of bunch, called me shortly before scheduled session, offered me a choice of deep discount next time, or she had a girl friend willing to take call.  I threw dice on the friend, great time with a utr lady I still see.

Face it, nsnc is part of business, you can roll with it and play the wheel for impromptu sessions, or let it consume you and ruin your outlook.  I have generally had good luck on the rebound, but I am usually prepared

...the bottom line is that these type of blow-offs are nothing more than someone believing their time is more important than anyone else's. Between the op's examples and squeezums post below, I haven't seen one example where the basic common courtesy of a 2 second text to explain the situation would have been too much to ask.

I had a a very beautiful 25 year old provider a while back tell me that us guys make 'too big a deal out of such things. It's not like it's a regular job or something!'. I wasn't going to debate her, I'm just not going to see her again. I don't care how hot they are, there's always hotter.

Sir C

I tend to put late cancelations and late arrivals in same category as nsnc.  They always feel same way.

 In my instances with Caitlin, I had communication, sometimes late, but we had contact.  I did not like the message, but I knew.  On the first instance, where someone else was screwing with us in not fun hobby way, she finally did show up, but I had someone else minutes away and told her no.  hence I had culpability on the nsnc.

I get pissed when it happens.  I understand the reaction.  However, I also try to understand the why.  In my situation with Caitlin, there were mitigating factors both times and she really did make it up to me.  I think sqeezum situation below, might be similar situation.  This feels like first time for those ladies and perhaps informed tolerance is reasonable.

 In this thread there may be a pattern.  My fact pattern may be the exception, I dont know, not passing judgement, not being white knight, just clarifying my encounters with her since an allias made issue of my review/experience.  When we finally met, it was very good.

Nsnc and late cancels are not uncommon with indies in Atlanta.  You need to be prepared.  Shit happens, things change.  If she communicates and we have adult conversation, and she is classy about the event, I will give second chance, even third in right situation.  As often as my travel schedule changes, perhaps i am more tolerant.  However, if there is lack of communication and adult ownership, yes, I will be pissed and post appropriately.  You cannot be rigid in you reactions unless you know the fact pattern.

 In my situation, this lady had valid factors, made it up to me, and has been reliable in subsequent communication, regardles of what the allias poster was trying to imply above.  That is all I am trying to say, but I agree with sir cum, communication is the key

Agreed on the back-up plan. And FYI, I've seen CK and had no problem, 1st time set-up and we made it happen (review cumin).

I don't see this as a witch hunt for her per se, but more about the threshold of what each guy is willing to put up with.

3 chances? If you have no problem with it, knock yourself out. Not me. There's not a chick in this biz that would put up with that shit 3 times with a client...and he's paying!

Sir Cumalot

OK, so my first use ever of an alias, but after reading this thread, I find myself wondering if the male population is losing it's marbles althogether, with a couple exceptions noted.

First off, this girl has shown up on the board as a bullshitter more than any other girl I've heard of, and yet we've got guys trying to make excuses for her.  Why?  Do you somehow think that she will see the thread, get all creamy that you defended her, and maybe call you up with a special offer to thank you?  WTF.  Where are your balls.  She's a ripoff.  Short and sweet.  It would serve her right if she was black balled entirely in the Atlanta community.

Then we have the comment about the trend in rates.  Agree completely that rates are now too high.  But, you guys keep paying it, and you chastize those who complain about it.  WTF.  No fucking wonder your buying it, because I doubt you have the courage or skill to get it any other way, and you've been completely brainwashed into thinking that your defense of a provider is the way you fool yourself into thinking you have a "real" relationship".  Give me a fucking brake.

It would serve CK and other bullshitters like her if we instigated a brand new weekly thread on this board where every NCNS event was listed over and over again just so there is no doubt that any unsuspecting guy who looks here for a provider will see clearly who to stay away from.

I'm really sorry guys, but the majority of you seem to have no backbone whatsoever and then we wonder why these girls pull the kind of crap that we see posted here all the time.  Hell, it's like Barnum's theory... there are fools born all the time.  But the rest of the story is that these gals have figured it out and thus you get these ridiculous prices, the lack of courtesy, and the wasted time/expense.   But then what do you do, .... ahh yess, go write your ridiculous reviews, come post how happy you are that she finally didn't no show you, and you were delighted to hand her hundreds of dollars for it.   Good god!

C'mon in, the water is fine.  I hope that you feel liberated by speaking your peace without concern that your favorite gash bearing mammal will be mean to you.  I'd offer to buy you a drink, but I can't since you're using an alias.  LOL

but then again who knows

I don't think most providers could give a flying rip whether they stand someone up or not. There's always another one of us out there to his place and they all know that. The other thing to consider is that there's still lots of guys out there who don't know that this website exists and they have no source for information as to how a girl performs, whether she's dependable, etc. I saw a girl for a while who stood me up a couple of times and the only reason I put up with it was because the sex was off the charts once I was able to hook up with her.
My all-time favorite provider quote however is, "Regulars are a dime a dozen."

But we have 3 stories from 3 respected hobbyiests. She's done it to each of them at least twice. You can't help but wonder how many others haven't come forward.

It's a damn shame...she is definately hot with great reviews.

Scratch one off my bucket list.

Wow, you're buying that shit.   Let's see if I got that right.  Her "ex", woops he had full access to her house, computers, phone, etc.... and went through everything, Oh, I forgot, as of a day ago, he's not her ex (again).  And what about that computer thingy.  Did he read all the email exchanges between clients?  Hmmm, will the real "ex" please stand up.  And because of this, she was unable to send a text to say I can't play.  Oh, but still had time to post ads on several websites.  And didn't we hear a similar story a few weeks ago?  And haven't we heard from nearly ten different guys who all claimed similar NCNS happened to them?

Sorry, but this just doesn't even make good sense to a dumb ass person.  But, I will admit it's creative.  Far too much deceit and drama going on here.

Caitlin,

While I feel for your situation (and you know why), the reason your getting called out IMO is not only because of the NCNS's themselves, but your reasoning that the gents should have the same philosophy towards this as you do. Two examples from your post:

'it's extremely embarrassing to be called out when someone doesn't respect what may be going on with our lives'

I'm sure it is embarrassing, but your asking a client to respect your life with no info given from you. We aren't mind readers and respect goes both ways. I'm guessing if the gents had some sort of idea from you to explain the erratic behavior, you would have gotten the respect that they wish they had gotten. Both explained that they lost half days of work, gas, and money just to now find out that it was because your bf was upset. You want respect but when you don't share the same courtesy with clients, you don't understand. It's the 'all about you' mentality thats got everyone pissed off.

"consider that this isn't a traditional or morally accepted way to earn a living"

While that may be true, it doesn't mean that any unproffesional behavior on the providers part should be tolerated. My guess is that your philosophy on this is exactly why your getting called out now! It's an excuse for it to be okay in the event of a NCNS,etc because it's not 'traditionally or morally accepted'.

Look, I dig you and you know it but whiteknighting this for you is the worst thing any gent or lady can do. I feel for your situation but when you say "many of you are going to say it's not your problem, true it's not", that's not accurate...not to the guy that got his time wasted. In fact, at that moment it just became his problem.

Only trying to help so this doesn't happen again for you.

Sir Cumalot

Well said !!

It's sooo creative that it is unbelievable.....

If she "still had time to post ads on several websites" that certainly doesn't look like she's going UTR now does it ? It only means she's trying to drum up clients to do the same thing to elsewhere and away from TER.....hence her version of UTR going to other sites....lol

It seems like any problem in the hobby is caused by a SO who has no idea what's going on.

How lame is that?!  An alias calling out others for having no backbone.  laughable, what a a db

It's easy to shoot the messenger as you chose to do.  But I notice you didn't seem to take issue with the message, so you can thank me later.  Enjoy.

-- Modified on 9/16/2011 4:22:42 PM

Even thought it sounds at first like a patronizing lecture, once you really read it you can tell that's not what it is at all.

Solid post Bro.

JohnProctor  had a 4:00 pm appointment with you on Wednesday, 9/14 and you were to text him at 2:30 pm with the name and address of the location. Instead, you NCNS'd.

Although I empathize with your personal problems, they apparently did not interfere with or deter you from entering a post-on this discussion board at 1:25 pm on 9/14 boasting about your ability to attain 10 orgasms in 2 minutes with some of them lasting as long as 5 minutes. Your post doesn't seem to be made by a woman whose life was in turmoil on that day, much less for the "past couple weeks".

Although you claim to be "quite honest" and I would like to believe you, something doesn't add up.

...Caitlin's an adult just like the rest of us and the bottom line is, if she doesn't learn from this embarrassment (her words) then it's only gonna get worse.

A lot of people try to act like they care about these chicks but far too many let them off the hook hoping the lady will 'like them'. It never works, same mistakes happen, and all parries are hurt in the process.

Like I said before, I saw and liked her. She's gorgeous and a man's sexual dream, no lie. My hope is for her to be successful, make a shit ton of money, and then the rest of us be able to enjoy her for a long time in a safe environment and headspace..

Sir C

Good detective work except the post was made on pst...making the post at the time of the tentatively scheduled appointment.

No Alias here!  It's true you dumb Bitch!

wow.. total bummer.. next time call me last minute.. I'll squeeze you in

tyvm,P.T.

40 dollars / orgasm times 10 orgasms equals 400 dollars.....

price of ncns'ing clients.....insurmountable.

either that or a flat tire / car problem

Good news travels fast , but bad news travels even faster.....

...............I think most know what I mean.

.... actually, besides the historical reference of John Proctor's role as an accused in the Salem witch trial, I don't think I know what you mean.  Please elaborate.

I don't know what the problem is guys ?  I have seen Caitlin TWICE and plan to see her for a third time real soon   The first time I saw her was for two hours and I gave her two 10's on my review !!! I had so much fun I scheduled a second visit for the following weekend for four hours.  Caitlin has kept me in the loop the whole time with her crazy boyfriend and you guys need to back off PERIOD. She is a real sweetheart and has been nothing but HONEST with me so I suggest a couple of you guy's go look in the mirror and be a little bit more understanding ?  I wish she would quit the hobby so I could have her all to myself and you guys are pushing her to making it a reality !!!

I keep getting modd'ed!!  I will keep it clean!!  She was honest!!  To the ladies posting ya'll need to back off!!!!  Black ball her; bitch please!  She's too good at it!  You can call me a "White Dame"!

...but that ain't gonna matter if she keeps handling her business this way. She'll eventually blackball herself.

Personally, I don't care whether her story's honest or not. You 'white daming' (nice title btw lol) isn't gonna help her. The 10 or so gents that this happened to aren't lying to hurt her. They just wanted to pay her for sex and it was handled badly...very badly.

As her friend, how bout not worrying about the alias chicks that are posting and help get CK to a good headspace so this doesn't happen again.

Just a thought...you can tell me to fuck off at any time.

Sir C

"so I could have her all to myself and you guys are pushing her to making it a reality".............

Sounds like she'd just be dumping one crazy boyfriend for the substitute of another.
Perhaps rather than someone going to the Board and venting about how Caitlin has stood them up they should just contact you since you know so much about whats going on in her personal life.

And that makes lady #2 I won't be calling when visiting Atlanta.

I'm a history freak JP so I couldn't resist. No ill intentions directed towards you personally.

I will say, IMHO, from the outside looking in, it could be seen as certain ones who are doing extra good might be having their faults flown a little higher on the flag pole so everybody sees it. I mean there is a reviewer only venue for you to post this stuff.

And before anybody says it I'm not sticking up for CK. After a few emails with her I decided to pass, but that was all on me, not her. She gets those marks for some reason so I probably messed up.  

As for the other person who also PM'ed about this you need to grow a pair dude and post on the boards. I know who you are and I know all about your nasty, outside of TER, emails to these girls from numerous alias email addresses.

I have read every single valid point on here!!!!  I didn't say there wasn't something wrong here!! It's out in the open and she responded.   Don't bring me anymore detective work please!!   Friends are Friends and Business is Business.  Stop making this post any longer.  This is like an episode of "The Real Housewives of Atlanta" OR a Bullet in my head!  What else do you want from her?  You put it out there and life moves on... I'm moving into a new incall, furniture shopping, car shopping, dieting, living, breathing and getting ready for my "date night" with a handsome young man on here!  I just want to read my own personal emails as I have a business to run too and don't want to see, when I look down at my phone  that I have TER mail related to this.  Finished

Stumpgrinder ... WE are FRIENDS first and foremost !  I have seen her TWICE in two months smartass ... does that sound like I'm a substitute ?  She has feelings just like anyone else and if you don't like it ... THEN MOVE ON !!!  If YOU have a problem with ME ... then YOU CONTACT ME !!!!!

Being a sugar daddy to CK is not her 'quitting the hobby'.

Take your cash out of the equation and let's see just how good of 'friends' you are.

No offense to you but if you took the finance out of your 'friendship' to CK, she wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire.

I like CK and have no problem with her at all but get in the real world, brother...

Sir Cumalot

Why so angry?
No "job" doesn't have its negatives.
Deep breathes, in and out.

want it to end, leave it be.

Drug use is a really shitty thing to accuse someone of. Are you going to be one of THOSE providers that slings mud and makes wild unfounded accusations against other providers in a futile attempt to get more appointments for yourself? If so, you might want to take a few notes from your predecessors on this very board- if you are going to be a bitch, do it with style!  Don't bore the audience or gross them out with details of your illness, because the entertainment value of your posts will be the only value of your posts.  Keep in mind that less is more- don't make EVERY post a shameless self-promotion that's totally unrelated to the topic- it's too obvious, and your audience will see straight through it. When trying to ruin another provider's reputation, subtlety is key. Just say no to outright accusations, like drug use, unless you can back it up. And of course, always use caution when slinging mud. It has a nasty habit of flying right back in your own face.

Posted By: Summer70s

I don't understand this.
I'm a big fan of trying to get into another person's shoes, imagining what must be going on with them to have them behave the way they behave.... but this one I just don't get.

The two scenarios that come to mind are: 1) She's so busy that she doesn't value individual clients or 2) She's dealing with a drug addiction.

Other than that, I don't get it. The only time I've cancelled an appointment was when I caught a cold, and was sneezing and coughing so profusely that I would have been insane to put myself near ANY human being. In that case, I contacted both the night before.

I relate to every client like their time is as valuable and important as mine.
I'm so sorry you had this experience.

... I'm having a little trouble taking your White Knight posts too seriously.  It appears that you've had sex twice in your life and it was in the month of August and both were with "Once In A Lifetime" girls and both were "Once In a Lifetime" experiences.  I don't know how one has two "once-in-a-lifetimes" of anything - especially not in the same month!  LOL! Must be part cat with nine lives....

You obviously are very green and hopefully won't have to learn hobby truths the hard way; BUT if you think for a minute either of your "once in a lifetime" amours would so much as piss down your throat even if your heart was on fire, absent a donation envelope, you are incredibly naive.

Not counting the posts from guys having similar experiences as me with this particular provider, I've received an additional 10+ PMs from other guys relating their CK NCNS experiences.

DUDE ... I'm just NEW to TER Mr. Know It All !!!  I had OVER 40 REVIEWS with escorts.com before they shut down at the end of May !!!  I don't post a review to EVERY girl I see smartass and quite frankly it's NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS ANYWAY !  I like to post to providers with just a few reviews to try and HELP THEM OUT YOU SELFISH BASTARD.  I have seen Alyse 5 times and posted NO REVIEWS because she doesn't need them. I have seen ValerieInternational 4 times and she has 40 reviews. I have seen CandyBridges and so on !!!  You need to TARGET someone else and leave CK and me alone because WHAT WE HAVE IS BETWEEN US YOU JEALOUS ASS !!!  LOL

I think enough has been said on the NSNC issue but one thing your post does reveal is that ladies need to be careful with their information and how it is safeguarded and displayed.  This extends to how you portray it on the internet.  I know there are ladies who think nothing of showing face pictures without alteration.  I would only say that its playing with fire.  You never know who that information will find its way to and it could have an impact on future careers or relationships.  Kudos to those ladies who have found away to preserve their identity yet display their form.

So. let me get this straight.  You post and inflate reviews for providers in order to "... help them out...",  rather than for the purpose intended for this site - to help your fellow hobbyist make informed decisions.  I now understand better now where you are coming from - you're a certifiable pussy with mommy issues that actually believes these Providers care for you as a person.  Why don't you ask one out on a off-the-clock date and see how far you get?  What a freakin' knucklehead....