Insanity is defined as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results!
Posts about posts about posts!! ARGHhhhh!! Can we all just agree to disagree sometimes, but be civil and not gang up on people?! Here's a newsflash folks- personal growth comes from others challenging you, questioning you, and when you open yourself up to new ideas! We are all little cray- don't judge me if my cray is different then yours.
Respect others and their uniqueness and individuality.
Another reality check- if you really want to let someone know they are an asshole, are Rude, disrespectful etc.... There is a right wrong way to handle it.
Wrong way- ATTACKING someone publicly, or even privately. Do you expect someone to just go "Thank you for telling me I am an asshole I am going to change right now!" Um, that would be a negative ghostwriter. If you see a problem, suggest a solution, package it and deliver it in a way that is not an attack. Because, guess what will happen if you don't - a shitstorm of negativity and you immediately put someone on defense. Moreover, you are feeding into this negativity by doing so.
Yeah, I barely post but that's about to change folks. I do read it all and I watch as people pick each other apart like vulchers. If you don't like me I am ok with that. But, I have no ill-will for anyone unless they personally try to attack me or bring me down.
WE are all uniquely different and can learn a lot from each other, we should push each other a little to show a different perspective. Guess what- our country is what it is today because of that same principle. Look how far we have come, because we learned to appreciate differences, be open-minded, And to learn from others.
Anger and hate dig holes, love and kindness move mountains.
Wow, that felt good! Now post away you lovely ladies that I know want to, but hold back! I am not going to say I will always agree with you, but I will always respect you and value your opinions!
This is getting out of control. there is too many friction and posting wars that we kinda forget about the meaning of respect and help. I know people like to joke and etc.... however, we forget that both sides make the board. Everyone has a purpose on here and that is to contribute what they have know or learn and spread it to help others. Everyone, has their own way of helping, so that is appreciated.
I will most definitely continue to post my opinions & views. I'd just like it to be known that everyone is responsible for their own actions & reactions. No one should be blamed because one or a few others feel they can't post here.
I'm known to be insane and beat a dead horse. But hey, if I wanna vent. I shall
I hope you do start posting more. Although Id consider you a pretty regular participant. Your posts come off as genuine & pure, and NICE.
and yes I will try to be nicer in the future. Yeah right, anyone want to buy a bridge??? lmao
It really is amusing, we have been getting calls for "civility" on these boards since before even I got here, and the only time it ever happened was about two years ago and it was a complete and utter failure. The whiners finally won, and TER started a policy of "niceness" so draconian that you couldn't even say the word "fuck" on a fuck board.
For those of you who either weren't here, or don't remember, what happened was due to the PC Police people were forced to use "nice" words to express the same hostile feelings and frustrations that they still harbored, all of this hostility got bottled up and the place became even more mean spirited than ever. Finally admin had the good sense to throw in the towel and the board/s went back to the same fun place it was before the "niceness" police took over.
Some people will never appreciate the locker room mentality that permeates these boards, but you can't please every one, and these boards function a thousand times better this way then they do when the PC and "niceness" police take over. It is what it is, and all the whining in the world isn't going to change it.
I once recently had a post rejected because I suggested that short skirts were a better indicator of spring's imminent arrival than some "f'in" groundhog, and it was rejected because someone might find it offensive! Really? What absolute d-bag would not be able to take that as a joke!
And what kind of robot saw that and thought it might be offensive? I just chalked it up to a computer auto screening or maybe they out sourced the screening to some humorless European. -- See how I did that
Hopefully folks will absorb these wise words and perform a self assessment on whether A) their contributions are positive and ADD to the topic under discussion or B) whether their contributions are negative and SUBTRACT from the topic under discussion.
After reflection if A) then its a great day and if B) reread until you get it because you are missing something very significant.
Our egos typically impair our ability to see more clearly.
People are not going to change no matter what anyone else says. We all got opinions and thoughts. Don't get upset when someone doesn't agree with you. That is the whole point of America, freedom to be ourselves and say/do what we want mainly.
This board has been crazy lately and I don't get why people feel they can't post and share some good threads. Don't get me wrong, I like the trainwrecks, that is mainly why I come on here because my board is DOA.... It would be great if there was at least some good threads mixed in there.
Ladies and gents, just post away. If you don't like something, respond accordingly. No one needs to take things as personal as some seem to be doing on here.
with TER Guidelines. "You can ATTACK the Idea or the Problem without ATTACKING the Person. We can agree to disagree, that's perfectly "OK". We can even have fun with it. Last I looked, it is perfectly "OK" to have some fun. That holds true for Hobbyist and/or Provider. It's a hobby for some and a serious business for others, but when it becomes too serious for any of us and stops becoming fun but instead, it is not "all consuming", then it's time to step back and re-assess. This is true, no matter the hobby or profession. Yes, I know, you've heard it before.
I recognize, for this topic, "I'm not the Hero, you want, but I am the Hero you NEED" .
Thank you the wise and well written rant. I think the bully issue and personal attacks runs in cycles and we're in the middle of a particuarly virulent one.
As much as I think anti-threADs comments are stupid, it is important for ladies and hobbyists to develop thicker skin whether they are personally being attacked about the threADs or any other posting. Truthfully, I don't understand why someone would take the time to write them.
I am not naive enough to think the attacks couldn't impact a lady's business but she should learn how to handle these attacks with dignity and respect for the Board if not the poster. A lady's positive reaction will go much farther in getting her business than a bitter attack on a poster.
The boards are like a soap operas or reality TV shows (Desperate Posters of Atlanta). My advice is if you don't like it, turn it off, change the channel, read another post, go to another board... Probably the best thing is to not react to the bullies; it only encourages them.
Play safe and always be respectful and thanks again for the posting.
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