Outside of the friend "experience" that we usually expect from encounters, have you ever really, truly, felt like one of the gentlemen who visit you is your friend? Like, would you hang out with them outside of "work" time? Have you ever had someone start as a client and become so much of a friend that you can't see them as a client anymore? How firm is that line?

And for the gents, do you consider any of the providers you see to be your friends?

Unfortunately, I do not consider any of the providers as a friend.  In fact, the one that I see most often lives in the same area as I do and we discussed that in the event we see each other at Home Depot or the Grocery store that we would just ignore each other.

The client can be a much better friend than non-client. You don't have to lie to your client-friend why you couldn't answer phone and he would ask how was your work week, sincerely wishing that you were safe,  nothing  bad happened to you, and you didn't have "difficult" clients.

I can see why it's hard to remain friends with no intimacy. People should have an interest in each other and purpose, otherwise it won't work.

I've tried for this, and it's very elusive as you'd guess.  The ladies understandably have their defenses and usually have a personal life they want to keep wholly separate.  In the one or two cases that I tried, having really come to enjoy the company and conversation, neither really evolved past the the cool convo phase.
 
Which isn't to say it isn't possible, I'm sure it's happened.  I can think of a couple that seem like they'd be fun to hang out with and watch a game or catch a movie. There's a huge risk there for her and for you going down the friendship road though.  Probably best in almost all cases not to blur those lines.

I'd like to think that it is possible. I can't think of a better person to share all my secrets openly with (granted I trust her and I can sense that she trusts me). Sometimes I just want someone to know. Sometimes I just want to take my everyday mask off and let go of all inhibitions, both mental and physical. No judgements. No alterior motives. I mean, this lady already would know a part of me that only she would know about. I have never told ANYONE about my hobby. I'd like to think that I can be friends with someone whom I've share myself with. I wouldn't continue to see her if I didn't like her company

I was seeing a provider that I felt somewhat comfy with and I suggested a non-relationship relationship in that when we were both free we would see each other on a platonic basis just to kill time.  She seemed up for it, but backed off and said that we could spend personal time together, but it must be connected to a session.  So, here's what we did for a while.  We would get together for an evening either dining in or going out, have our session, and then I would spend the night.  But, like all things circumstances changed and I haven't seen her since june.

I have had some great guys that I met here...  When I left after my husband was killed they still called to check on me and another when his mom passed called because he knew I would understand...  

I believe you get out of this what you put  nto it...  I look for those types of connections and once found there is nothing that can't be explored.

I have crossed the line more than once on this hobby and dated (had an affair) with a hobbiest because it just felt right...  

If you do not let yourself get jaded and cynical there so much more to be had than a simple hit it and get it...

It all goes back to what your definition of GFE is...     For me it is not a sexual service I do or do not offer...   It is a connection that you reach that goes deeper than that in which leaves you wanting more before you ever leave her company...

Just my opinion.

Unintentional bumping into each other whether you're friends or not with the client or provider SILL under the rule of keeping each other confidentiality.

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On one occasion after we became friends, the sessions were not as hot.

On another occasion after we became friends I stopped seeing her as a client as I didn't feel I could keep the 2 seperate.  We became very good friends and still are to this day.  I have spent alot of time with her and her non hobby related friends as well as her family and son.

She was fine with me not wanting to continue the business part which showed me she actually cared.