Especially "saddened and disgusted" - behind an alias no less.

Not sure that I would necessarily tell a provider that I had been "thinking of her" but I certainly have done it on a number of occasions,

Does that put me into the lying asshat category - probably - however every guy that partakes in the hobby is in that category to a lesser or greater extend depending on your moral compass.

I would agree with the poster that mentioned open dialogue - flaming responses and statements of "keep this to yourself" do not encourage folks to share on this forum.

I would imagine that most ladies would in fact be neutral or a bit weirded out by this - there might be a small few that enjoy the thought. On the other hand, I image a large portion of guys do it (sorry to burst the bubble ladies, but we are all pretty twisted)

Perhaps if the original op had positioned the question as "guys do you ever think about a lady when....and have you ever told her...." then it may not have been such an emotional barrage.

Anyhoooo, back to regular programming