I have been asked over the years by ladies wanting to become 'memorable' or above the average class. My response has been to plan every session like a play, You have an entrance, act 1, intermission, act 2 and an exit.
The 'Act' is pretty predictable, certain scenes are always rated higher than others, but generally, most ladies get this right within a point or two. If the provider blows the "Act 1 or Act 2", well she probably aint doing the other parts worth a damn either.
It is the Entrance, Intermission, and Exit that the great ones truly make their mark on the hobby. Clothing, Conversation, Communication before and after, Care/Attention to the partners need, and classy exit are the things that make me score above say a 7 and more importantly schedule repeat times.
The other thing I tell them is remember that every male is composed of 4 elements: Pig; Pornstar Wannabee; Hopeless Romantic; and Clumsy Newbee. The question is to know which is the predominate factor and to target the entertainment appropriately.
So my question is gang: How close is this hobbying description to your experiences? I want to make sure I am giving correct guidance afterall.
Id say that is pretty close to what I do but I do it for me moreso than the client. If Im not relaxed when you arrive than neither are you. Never have I had somene visit and get straight to the point. I like to sit and chat, maybe have a drink @ my bar and get a feel for each other. Always ask what you like sexually or dislike and I let you know also what does and doesnt turn me on. Kissing and touching are to me the hottest things to do. Those things are what lead you into a good session in my opinion. If a client wants to come through the door and get directly to the point, then Im like a cat whose whiskers have been cut off on one side. I will never see that client again if he calls back. Then again I only cater to men over 40 and the affection is what they are missing and Im a very affectionate woman, so its a win win situation. Personally I agree with you but you know as well as I do that age is a factor and the young ones just want to get to act 3 before your left shoe is even off and I would like to thank them personally for the fantastic clientel that I have aquired over the last 3 years. The can have the hares and Ill stick with the tortoises.
The 'Act' is pretty predictable, certain scenes are always rated higher than others, but generally, most ladies get this right within a point or two. If the provider blows the "Act 1 or Act 2", well she probably aint doing the other parts worth a damn either.
It is the Entrance, Intermission, and Exit that the great ones truly make their mark on the hobby. Clothing, Conversation, Communication before and after, Care/Attention to the partners need, and classy exit are the things that make me score above say a 7 and more importantly schedule repeat times.
The other thing I tell them is remember that every male is composed of 4 elements: Pig; Pornstar Wannabee; Hopeless Romantic; and Clumsy Newbee. The question is to know which is the predominate factor and to target the entertainment appropriately.
So my question is gang: How close is this hobbying description to your experiences? I want to make sure I am giving correct guidance afterall.
Gets back to knowing your client and pegging what type of hobbiest he is. Generally, I fall into the 2/3 Hopeless Romantic 1/3 Porn Star Wannabee, but there are days, when I am in pure Pig mode, interested/needing nothing more than rooting and shooting. Rarely anymore am I a Lost Newbie, but there are days when things are not going right and I just need to be pampered/led. Tends to be why I stick with very few local providers or agencies I can trust and communicate with in the cities I travel to.
I never thought of age as a factor, but it makes sense, I am different hobbiest in my 5th decade than I was in my early 3rd decade. I imagine the 20 somethings are all either Pig or Lost Newbies. For me, I am finding the sub 25 yo providers rarely meet my desires anymore, where as I have excellent sessions in that 27-32 age group almost every time.
First time visits are always such a crap shoot for the hobbiest, probably for the provider as well. You just never know what is really going to develop. That is the hardest part to describe, what makes you want the second + visit? Probably one reason I like high end agencies that take time to know me.
Scottie's slow approach works for me since at this point foreplay is as satisfying as the climax. Sex is more of a nuance for me than for the provider, so most don't have the patience to relax and enjoy it as much as I'd like.
Too much "acting" involved in the OP. Prefer the provider be herself so I know it's the real person I'm connecting or not connecting to.
Consistancy within the brand is what every consumer wants.
The reaslly goodproviders do have a routine and a rythem
with their clients. Hobby guy A is going to go thru the
same litany as hobby guy b.
bbbj then daty thensome doggy then some mish round 1
some chit chat and recovery mory bbbj some CG, more doggy
more mish some more bbbj boom round 2 some more chit chat
more bbbj, swing into 69, more mish pow round 3
yep its always the same.
one of the greats was Amy (Amy's playhouse). She worked to make every session different while keeping in mind likes and dislikes. She always seemed fired up and into our time, each time she would express and idea of something she wanted to try and had this demeanor that was very sexual, aggressive and eager. She would read adult magazines and letters and the incorporate things into the session. It was as though she were trying to capture the picture of what she had read or viewed. Talking had to do with what was happening (not side conversations about getting coffee or other distractions). Any time I called, she would tell me how much she missed me and what she wanted to do to me. She had a way of teasing out anything you wanted to try and made it happen. Very sexy lady and a lot of fun.
ok does this distract you or not? Silly as it may seem I have found I actually have made up some routines to some of the "80's" music but its like I have different routines for different friends as I remember the special points of pleasure ... Im just wondering is this distracting ?
Depends on the routine I guess. I used to see a great lady in Austin Texas, she would set up her iPod w/ speakers and do various dances / scenes from movies (her Flashdance routine was really hot if you think of Maneater leading into a bed tackle - oral session).
Another lady I used to see in Houston Texas, would come over, set up candles and break out some chilled green grapes for us to enjoy in various fashions. She liked to play the grape around her mouth and well you get the picture.
When I was working a project in Seattle, one lady had a signature BJ in way of greeting me at the door. I still smile fondly when I remember what she did as soon as the door closed to her regular customers, how she could send her safety text, undress, and still do that was incredible fond memory.
Now you are talking about different types of BJ to certain rhythms, I will have to imagine this. Trying to image exactly what you would do to 'Tube Steak Boogie", but I expect there are several enjoyable options.
I think the thing is, are you doing a gimick or is this just a way for you to have fun and change up the routine? That would decide if it is distracting for me.
Is because of the 'performance' aspect. I'm an experienced actor and a former teacher so I can spot an act a mile away. If someone is not genuinely interested in the session, it's a huge turnoff for me. In fact, I very nearly left an otherwise hot session recently for this reason. I'd already put the envelope down, though, lol.
Sometimes I just want to fuck a beautiful young lady (well that's actually all the time) and that's all but I usually look for ladies who aren't actresses- ladies who genuinely like what they do and are interested in some degree of real personal interaction. There's no need for a script with these ladies and each session will be a little different, depending on how each partner is feeling at the time. For me, a great session almost never happens until I've seen the lady a few times and it includes some degree of emotional and intellectual intimacy as well as physical. IME, the Mind/Body/Spirit triad is a good way to approach most things in life and the hobby is no exception.
That's also why I very seldom see a lady that I haven't met prior to scheduling an appointment. I'd just as soon get a FBSM at an AMP as have a scripted session with a lady who isn't genuinely into our time together. Just as satisfying for me and much cheaper.
But that's just me. Fortunately there's room of all kinds of people in this hobby.
Excellent points, I agree with you the 'fake" just does not work, and in fact it often demonstrates a total inablity to map a session to me, the client. Like you, I tend to like to see ladies more than once, and yes, there is a very specific reason I see ladies. Some times I am in the move for a young, tight little room rocket other times I want the experienced seductress. Because of my travel, it is hard to establish good connections with the variety I might want, that is why top class agencies tend to work best for me.
However, having a lady plan and prepare for a session, targeted for me and my particular style is not blindly following a script or being fake. I would argue, it adds to the quality of the session. Sometimes we push for a fantasy role play, some times we imitate an intimate relationship, some times it is a romp in the door way ASAP, but it is always because the lady knows how to control those critical key phases that surround our 'moments'.
Thanks for the response, great insights that I pass on to my 'friend' that was asking.
as for me...I'm a romantic and love to be seduced and "romanced"....... a lot of it is the erotic or illusion..........good conversation can be very erotic...........as well as the packaging..............